Day #14: Weekly Review & The Triangle of Temptation
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Week 2 Video : The Triangle of Temptation
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Let’s recap this week.
The cliff notes are…
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Day 8: Improving Your Appearance
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Looks are not nearly as important as you think. But you should always strive to present your “best self”. Doing basic things like staying in shape, grooming well, whitening your teeth, a tan, and wearing nice clothes make a big difference.
But not nearly as much of a difference as mastering the psychology of attraction (review day 8)
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Day 9: Always be Gaming
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There are girls all around you. Don’t wait for the weekend to meet women.
Always dress to impress. Always look for opportunities to flirt. Always strive to make your conversations memorable.
Some great places to meet women are through your social circle
– Classes or lessons
– Clubs
– Part time job waitering or bar-tending
Remember, you never know when you’re going to bump into your dream girl. (review day 9)
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Day 10: How to be “High Status”
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Your value in the eyes of a woman, and her ability to feel attraction to you is based on one thing:
“What you bring into the moment that she is experiencing”
Read this PDF: [Small Talk Tactics Report]
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Day 11: How to Flirt
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The most important things for a woman to experience around you are:
1. Fun
2. Emotional Connection
3. Sexual Excitement
Recommended: 7 Trainings on Flirting, Attraction, and Sexuality (for the price of 1)
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Day 12: How to “Tease” a Girl
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The difference between “teasing” and making “asshole comments” comes down to fun.
Teasing makes an interaction more fun.
An “asshole comment” kills momentum.
The best way to tease her is to listen for things to tease her on.
Things like:
- A bossy side
- Her blonde side
- Double entendres (particular ones that can be taken as sexual)
- Paranoid
- Her wild side
- Naiveness
Complete Course: [Make Her Horny with Humor]
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Day 13: Approaching Women Made “Easy”
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The best way to start a conversation with a woman is to just ‘jump right into it.’
Hit the “Fast forward” button.
Instead of starting with “hello” start by making an observation, or asking a question.
Make it happen!
Bobby Rio
P.S. Stay in touch on Facebook. Lots of exclusive stuff there.
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Hey Bobby, thanks for all the advice. I wish this had been around 15 years ago when I was starting college. All good stuff but I’m a little freaked out to think about how many girls I’ve blown it with over the years because I didn’t know any of this stuff. That said, how possible do you think it is to redeem myself (using your strategies) with a girl who recently put me in the friend zone? We went out once, texted back & forth for a couple weekend and then she told me that she “didn’t feel a connection between us in that way.” – quite possibly because I was too nice, too soon.
To be fair, she had just gotten out of a long term relationship of several years (living together for the last year) when au asked her out and she did say before we went out that she was not looking to date again and did not want to mis-lead me. We are in a music group together and still talk/mildly flirt back and forth. Not sure if she didn’t feel it with me because I was too nice too soon, or because of where she was at in her life just coming off a long-term relationship…thoughts?
thank you Bobby
There is just so much fluff and not much tangible information. For example, you lead into what people do wrong when you should be focusing on what to do right. Then the sales pitch for more of your products which we were lead to believe were included. Take out the fluff, give real world examples in action. I am just not impressed.
Hey Bobby,
Thanks for the help. I’ve been using the stuff and i can see results. I’ve been texting with at least 2 girls at a time and it has been helping me a lot. Yesterday I accidently sent a text meant for some other girl to some other girl. she has been teasing me since then about who that girl is. But i’m not able to get dates. What should I do to get dates?
Thanks again. 🙂
I’m getting more affection, smiles,laughs and good vibes from women…since I began using Role Playing, Bantering, and Teasing…earlier this week. Well I’ll be damned…Bobby Rio…your lessons do work!
I am in my 50’s by close friend just turned 22 she stared in camp rock and was the voice actress fro Phineas and ferb she was recently in the maxim magazine ho to get her in bed with without getting every other man after her. I want her for my self. She is also a virgin and I want to be the first person to have sex with her
Whats up Bobby.
Hey man this program is yours is working really well for me; since I’ve been receiving your emails and listening to your audio lectures, things has been jumping out okay for me with the ladies….But i did have one problem: Okay so I hung out with this girl about two weeks ago and I basically follow the gameplan as far as being myself, confident, etc etc…So yeah me and her hung out at the mall, we walked around and spoke, and started kissing (yeah she was really good) and night ended with us just kissing in her car: I had a feeling that she wanted to take it the next level but I didn’t do it. sp pretty muvh after that day she barely been hitting me up and i probably know why but I wanted to ask you for some pointers towards that situation…
Thanks,
Jadarian
Hey Henry. I can see it is an old comment, from 2012. I´m still going to give you some advice, if you need them still. I am 29 today, but if we couple of years back, when I was 23 – 25, 26 years old (I didn’t date 27. I was just sobering up and and taking care of my self) When I wen’t on a date. I was always trying to sell my self to her, i.e. trying to impress her doing everything so she would like me. (those were always drop dead gorgeous girls. If I wasn’t over the moon for the girl. I never invited them on a date, which is fail, cause then I never really got the practice) But today when I go on a date, I am not already sold. I meet the girls and see if they can sell their personality to me, I’m making them impress me (or just meeting them as equals, neither of you are more important then the other) I go on a date with that attitude to see if we are a fit or not. So I just talk a bout what ever I think is interesting, and if she does the same, and the conversations flow, then I know we are match, at least when it comes to our personalities. Plus, if you talk about what you think is interesting, with out caring what she thinks about what you are saying, you are much more interesting to her (that is one of the reasons, why most girls like bad boys, because of that quality in them, they say what ever the hell they want to say, with out seeking approval from the girl or anybody, for that matter) – Remember one or two things. Love your self 100 %, unconditionally, or as much as you possibly can, consider yourself as a catch. Then you will do much better with women and in life in general. Because then you are enough, then you don’t worry about impressing any girl or anybody. And then you can be yourself and own it. That is attractive to girls.
Bobby, again great and useful stuff. Do you talk anywhere (or can you recommend info) about how to keep the allure and mystery in a relationship once it is established?
I now know how to approach and start a convo but as it goes through I dont reallt know when to be cool talking about a topic and then when to start flirting…..any help?
Hey bobby great stuff, thanks …..larry
Just started having fun teasing a pretty hot coworker. This seems to work, shes starting to get to consider me a bit more. Will keep you posted…
I have been studying your material a lot. The problem that I have is that if I am in a situation where I can talk to a woman, I just mentally “freeze up” and I seem to instantly forget everything in the course. I think that your material is very sensible and true, but I am having a very difficult time putting it in to practice because I freeze up so badly.
Hey guys. I’m using this training program and it has worked quite effectively meeting new women and most of them are good looking. I have had sex with two of them so there’s a score. I really want a good way together my ex girlfriend back though. We were dating for a year and a half. Does anyone have any ideas?
Dude you blew it! She’s testing you as a man. If she’s dangling sex, always jump at it. If you’re too cool, she thinks you’re gay or a wimp. I’d rather get rejected for coming on to her when she brings up sex, than trying to be cool and missing out. She could be toying with you- But always always swing the bat, you might hit a homerun.
Dear Bobby, thanks for all of the help. I have a specific problem. I have a girl who made a friend request to me on Facebook. I accepted her request, chatted her up a bit, on Facebook and in person. She went dancing with me a a club to celebrate my birthday. She told me You’re a pretty good dancer. This girl is Latina, very pretty. Out of the blue she texts me “do you think it’s ok for men and women to have anal sex?” Needless to say, I’m blown away but respond; “why wouldn’t it be?”. She responds “true”. Later in the week I text her that “I am going to be watching Uranus with binoculars tonight” to which she responds; ” ok, the reason I brought up anal sex is I made a promise to myself not to have a penis in my V until next year so I was thinking about other ways to have sex. I want to have sex but I’m afraid to catch something and I don’t want to have sex with a worthless person. I just wish I could turn off the sex drive by eating or drinking something.” Needless to say, I was very excited by this response but I played it cool, saying how there was nothing to eat or drink that would do that and to not get so paranoid about things and just let them roll however they turned out. She is having a REAL hard time committing to seeing me at all now, no matter how fun, innocuous, flirty, playful I make it. And I’m not asking a bunch of times, just two about a week apart. I’m TOTALLY confused and clueless as to what to do! Help!
Keeping things fun is what I need to focus on atm. I 100% agree.
Having some emotional control issues though atm even though I thought id worked through most of that before but new things pop up.
Sometimes maybe I struggle to keep things light and fun , maybe it just the heighten emotional state I am in today but thank you again for your advice.
The repetition help alot thanks. Great stuff keep it coming. Thanks again.
Hope you don’t mind my chiming in here Henry, we have some stuff in common and I feel ya. Try grounding yourself and slow it down a notch, fear and anxiety are a self winding spring. Deep breaths, what are 5 things you can see, 5 things you can feel, 5 things you can hear – more deep breaths – this gets you back in the moment. You live one day at a time in recovery – so you understand the futility of living in the past (mistakes, guilt etc) and the future (fear and anxiety), the moment is where it is at. I also highly recommend you do step work with a sponsor. That stuff frees you up! I’m a recovering person myself and doing steps work has got me onstage, through university, etc – it’s amazing. The promises say you can be happy, joyous and carefree – but you got to do the work. I am gonna get personal here, from one recovering addict to another, the anxiety is possibly from codependancy issues. Do the step work, and listen to Bobby, his advice is solid. But remember, if you are not congruous with yourself you are in danger of fucking everything up. You can be fun, flirty and have a great time this is all congruous to recovery. You need two programmes, meetings don’t cut it in recovery, steps do. Reading Bobby’s stuff won’t cut it either, you got to practise. You are gonna be fine, if you want it bad enough you will make it happen.
Have money in your pocket, the girl will be ready for fun
AweSOme
Hey guys real quick, I havent been able to pull up the banter line cheet sheets. For some reason its not letting me in.
peace
Hey guys,
Iv’e been studying your stuff for a month or two and gaining some success with attraction, approacing,flirting, and a couple sexual experiences that I wasnt able to close the deal completely but they were both young and hot so I took it as growth and had a knowing that my life was going to be getting real fun with women very soon.
Well I had my first real date in a long time, last night with a girl I had first asked out via text this Valentine day before I knew any of your stuff it was embarrasing. Since then I have built some attraction with her and got a date with her .We went out Friday night and I was looking forward to a great time, I was looking at this date as the first in a long line of succesful encounters with women. Well I totally fell back into my old self conscious, serious , non flirting, no fun,”cool” nice guy. I could see it happening but I couldnt stop it. Interview type conversations, long uncomfortable silences in the car. The worst is when I get consumed with fear I get brain freeze and then my bad scence of direction kicks in and I have to get her to help us get home. What a fucking train wreck it was.
So the last couple days have been filled with remorse and feelings of dought. I was feeling so positive about becoming the “man” I always wanted to be.I have been feeling cocky flirting with girls on the street walking around like I had a 10″ cock.I was feeling like a confident man finally at 47. I get a chance with a cool chick to get some true tangible proof of my progress and I turn in to the pussy that has talked myself into giving up on this area of my life for years and just settle for girls that I really wasnt to excited about but hey at least I could say I had agirl friend. I refuse to live like that any more.
In conclution, this girl is in my alcoholics anonymous meeting so I dont want there to be any dis comfort there. Im thinking about a letter or at least a face to face explanation of my akwardness??? The main deal is Im having a difficult time letting this feeling of reverting back to my old self go. I have thoughts of “here we go again”, “who do you think your trying to fool, your incapable of being confident with women”. As I write that I know thats bull shit. I guess now I just want to fix the situation with this girl so I dont feel like a fake cool fun guy in my group and her thinking yea but he is really a fearful pussy one on one. I dont really care so much about making things work with her at this point, I just want to not feel uncomfortable or a feeling of being incongruent or fake around her, and I want to keep my confident fun flirty persona up and not revert to the interverted timid guy that I can feel myself falling back into because of this so called set back.
Thanks, I know this is alot, but Im thinking you guys can identify from your old days. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Peace
Holy shit bobby! The lesson about taking it to the playground worked so well. I read the one lesson like 5 times and tried to focus on fun and ended up crawling on the ground with the random hot chick trying to collapse my friends tents on the weekend and lets just say the fun didnt end at collapsing tents. Learning so mch thanks man
great video and great info…
Can’t view the video, Bob. Do you have transcription?
Cheers~
Mark
Bobby you are great. everything i have learnt from you has helped me tremendously. I Appreciate you.
Great tip, the first newsletter i always expect in my inbox. Thankz Bobby..
Great stuff. My game is getting better now. Those anxieties n confusion I had abt women is becoming clearer n clearer. Tnx for the good work.
its a great review and it brings us back to why we are here.
What are the games you mentioned Bobby?Freeze and what else??
I think of myself around ladies as Bond James Bond What star quality is shining out of you I can tell you in past few weeks its my confidence to smile around the pretty ladies, walk in like I own the place, and over past few weeks when my buisness is selling hot dogs, the lovely ladies love my air of confidence as I run my small buisness on a busy street Ive gotten more kissesand hugs from the lovely ladies in past few weeks,because Im confident in my self as A man to smile @ them and Im the one going for the smooch first Confidence guys,its shining out of you and its a chic magnet! Gary
All this stuffs MECCA Bobby! love it
I am not able to open the video… (at the top of the page it says Week 2 Video TAT, and at the bottom of the page it says Week 2 Video No More Mr Nice Guy). Please advise, why can I not open the video?
re-read day 11: https://tsbmag.com/31days/day-11
Further details of TAT will be revealed this upcoming week….
I’m not Bobby, but I think it’s better to surprise her with it at the end. Because if you get her to the point where she’s gonna see your motorcycle she already likes you. It’s like icing on the cake and it’s a plus. In my experience women love it when you surprise them with positive traits you didn’t mention. Makes them wonder what other great traits you may have that you haven’t told them about. Adds an element of mystery too.
I have a roommate in college who has pick-up artist level game naturally. He worked out alot, but because of his body type you couldn’t tell when he wore a shirt, and he never told girls that he lifted weights. Every time he brought girls to his room, they took his shirt off and say “Whoah! Where did that come from?!” He was very ripped.
Bobby, the recap was good, but you didn’t go over the triangle of temptation. You mentioned it but never actually explained it. What is the TAT?
The girl am hitting on is a gul wid who’s an introvert and keeps very limited to men.how do i get her?
Great video, but I do have a question.
I have a motorcycle… and its the only form of transportation I have. I know some girls are impressed and some not, but the typical average guy might boast about it to a girl. And in turn, the girl will catch on about the guy trying too hard. What would be your recommendation of bringing it up the motorcycle to a girl of interest? Would you recommend surprising her with it?
Thanks for all of your advice and vids, great stuff, keep it up!!
I have no computer to cee this video any way else I can cee it
I really like the way the videos recap the week and add more information. Keep the advice coming!