Day #11: Say “THIS” to Turn Her On
Today we get into the nitty gritty.
But before we start.
I got to ask you. Did you read the Small Talk Tactics PDF? All 27 pages?
I hope so.
There are tactics in there will change your game overnight.
Whether you’re meeting new girls, or want to progress things with that one specific girl you want…
There is some serious ‘ninja shit’ in there.
Guys email me all the time who used one of the techniques and can’t believe how the girl reacted. Can’t believe how “easy” it actually is when you do it right.
If you didn’t read it. Close this email. And spend 20 minutes reading it. And thank me later. (here it is)
So…
Yesterday I told you to tape this to your refrigerator:
“Your value is defined by what you bring into the moment she is experiencing.”
You see in a ‘moment’ only a few things are really important.
I promised I would reveal them today.
Here they are:
1. How much fun is she having?
2. How much emotional connection is she feeling?
3. How much sexual excitement is stirring in her body?
If a girl is having fun, feels an emotional connection to you, and she’s got a tingly sensation between her legs…
Nothing else matters.
Nothing.
What does this mean?
It means when you’re talking to a girl you forget everything else.
You concentrate on helping her to experience those three things.
Fun.
Emotional connection.
Sexual excitement.
You can master those three things. Very few girls will be able to say no to you.
I call them the Triangle of Temptation (TAT)
This brings us to flirting.
Flirting helps you accomplish the first goal.
Fun.
Big problem you might run into is your conversation is boring. Dull. Lifeless. Even you can’t wait for it to end.
How do you think she feels.
This is why you have to learn to flirt.
——–Video Lesson: “THESE” 5 Tricks Attract Women and “Spark the Vibe”———-
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Took me a long time to figure this out.
Cost me a lot of girls.
If you read the PDF you know how bad it got.
Learning to flirt is the single most important skill you NEED to master if you want to get girls.
You get good at this it gets “E.A.S.Y.” Easy.
Super easy.
Beyond easy.
Tomorrow we get into more specifics.
Bonus Technique: “The Sexual Ladder”
A lot of guys learn through watching a demonstration, and I think this video from my friend Jon does a great job of explaining word-for-word how to verbally escalate things.
Jon is a guy I learned A LOT from over the years, and I highly recommend checking out the video.
That’s it for today. (except for the task below)
Get out there and make it happen!
Bobby Rio
———–Task—————
P.S. You need to read this before tomorrow. It’s that Teasing and and Banter Cheat Sheet I mentioned in Day 6.
I’m giving it away on TSB’s Facebook Page. Don’t forget to “like” the page too, for daily updates and exclusive videos.
It’s good stuff. I’d grab it if I were you.
Previous Lesson: Day 10
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PDF is not working for me???
When I do a character, do I need to tell her first that this is a character? I’m wondering if it’s weird to just jump into it?
I think if you are having trouble breaking the ice in the beginning, most of the time the problem started before you left home. If you go out thinking that the night is a success or failure based on whether you get laid or not, your neediness is gonna take over your brain. It’s also gonna show through in what you do, and either scare her off or let her see you as low status. This all comes from the “women-are-goddesses” point of view. It’s nearly impossible to keep confidence when you think you’re talking to a goddess.
You’d be better off going out with the attitude that you are just gonna have a great time tonight, show your best self and stop giving a shit about what anyone else thinks of you. This cancels out the neediness, and puts you in the zone. Go out and flirt for fun. No expectations.
You attract more flies with honey, and how the fuck are you gonna be “honey” if you are a needy, validation-seeking AFC?
Oh fun! Now how do I tell what she is thinking or feeling? Great we had fun playing guessing games and I go home alone again. WTF!
Hi Hi B.Rio. I haver never had much of a problem when it comes to meeting girls. But after being in a f**up relationship for 3 years with a monster, I found I was having trouble getting girls to come home with me for xx. I have learnt one or two things from you, but its really been a refresher course for me. You have fast tracked my recovery, especially my day game.
So far I have given you 35 $ all up. Was it worth it?? Yes !!
Thanks for reminding me women are abundant and that I am confident.
I’m looking forward to the rest of this, 🙂 Now I’m shelling out dating advice even to the women I’m xx.
sorry have problem in finding the Grab the Cheat Sheet!
can you send a link?
thanks
Flirting is easy and a good time too. Because it’s about getting her to talk about herself. Once that happens, emotion and sexual tension can be inserted into the conversation, and I’m improving on this every day. Several women I know, or met recently, have been rather receptive and much friendlier than they were in the past. So I’m going to keep practicing and learning from you Bobby. Thanks man!
Flirting is easy and a good time too. Because it’s about getting her to talk about herself. Once that happens, emotion and sexual tension can be inserted into the conversation, and I’m improving on this every day. Several women I know, or met recently, have been rather receptive and much friendlier than they were in the past. So I’m going to keep practicing and learning from you Bobby. Thanks man!
OMG-this stuff works! A gal I’ve been emailing online asked when we could get together. When I got back to her with a date she gave me the “slow down” So instead of backing down, I got my back up and confronted her about the inconsistency. She did an immediate about face and asked me to call her which I did (after waiting a few hours) I brought some sexuality into the conversation-she asked to meet at the park near her house and I asked “will I be safe with you in the park?” She laughed like hell…
Thank you!!! I’m a new man cause I’m following the plan…
AWESOME to hear man! Share the story… i’d love to hear it.
just walk up and make an observation about something going on around you.
The info that you gave out is simply excellent, but how do I start a conversation with any girl. There are these 2-3 girls in ma college that I’d like to date,but I just don’t know how to start all along……
two months ago i was a virgin……but this weekend i banged 2 girls, and got a number of one of the hottest tall russian chic on my campus……guys out there listen to uncle bob…..he will change your life in just weeks…..if you read this bob email me back if you can,i have a lot i wanna say to you…
How do i get the cheat sheet if i`m not on facebook?
I meet i talked i got number and date… thanxs bro
Thanks to you Bobby, I’ve been tuning in to the works of pick up artists for the past 3 years and so far your techniques are the most effective. I have certainly seen changes (for the better of course) in both my personality and attitude, to the extent that women find me ultra -irresistible. I know my confidence has soared, but I would like you to explain something to me Bobby. How comes these changes have an effect even on women that I am seeing for the first time? What I’ve noticed now, more than then, is that,more and more ‘higher quality’ women are giving me the fixed stare. Once more, thank you BOBBY.
Nice work Rinzah! Thanks for your tips.
I have not received the link for day 12 till now.Please resend.
THANKS FOR ADDING LINK OF CHEAT SHEET……..
Hee guys!
I wanna share some tips with you!
This is really working and i think its for everbody usefull.
Your mindset is important always talk positive to your self and you get a lot more of confidence in the field! And its really working! Always so everbody that you are a positive person and people will respond! If you go to a bar or somewhere else. always show you have fun just smile:) and if you are with friend people see that you and your friends are fun people then the looks dont matter any more. You HAVE to be sure about yourself and just look in the mirror and say whooow you look great to day! Me and some friends always say that for fun to eachother and we laugh and we get in a positive fun mindset. And the girl’s go to you i stead of the other way:) its fun to seee! and the tips of BOBBY really where working! the other day i was i a bar and i know this girl from face but never talked to her;) And we made some eye contact and i neg her a bit cause she wanna get some drink of us but i were the bad guy and i sad you get me some and she get me a drink;) then i saw this 2IOI’s of her and i thought of this liner of BOBBY and i said”hey you are a cool chick you can help me pick up chick’s” and we walked around and she was pointing too some lady’s and i said are you kidding me she’s awful and we were laughing and she asked me what kinda girls you like and i said blonde cause she was blonde. Then i could make my move and we kissed after the kiss i said what kind of grade you give yourself in kissing she said a 8 in america its a A! so i said this was more like a 6 so a B or C. I said you can do better then that. and we hooked up again:) So the lines are really working! And if you walk with a nice girl through a bar. You will get high status and a good feeling. Soo BOBBY the lines are awesome. I like to see them more and openers are very usefull. I got one tip for everbody(Act the way you wanna be and soon you’ll be the way you act) Keep that in mind! sorry for my english i’m from The Netherlands;)
i am good with open liners but i cant seem to attract the girl much or tease her sexually or bring the cocky funny in conversation. she usually just falls for my looks. and i always tend to end up with the interview questions so how can i keep the convo interesting and sexy Bobby?
Frost and Rio are trying to tell you that 1) give a hint of sex or romance to the girl implying that she is after you 2) when you tease her, do not hold on to that point but just move on to another topic
3)make sure that she is not offended, there fore, check the situation and with whom she is before you intended to tease her.
My favourite is getting the “what you do for a living?” and then reply with the “I’m a cigarette lighter repair man” . Works every time , then she spends 10 minutes trying to get the truth out of you but you stick to the “lighter routine” she wont leave your side untill you tell her the truth/(or not) because it just bugs them to death.
Thanks Bobby
where can i download jakes booty call for free?
@Starburst: sounds like you’re stuck at the opener, to me. I don’t want to indrude on Bobby’s teaching – he’s obviously better than I – but here are some of the things I use after “hey”:
“Someone left a horse at my front door, is this yours?” <– funny, but it's important to be funny just enough, as in, don't try to hard. Let it come naturally and continue the conversation from there as if you said nothing weird.
"You look just like [insert a name of a girl you know, or invent it on the spot]. Are you two sisters?" <– you can just continue from there talking about how a lot of people look a like, and then just switch to another topic which can enable you to go kino with her, like pretend you're palm reading and suck at it, and 'practice on her'.
"Do my clothes look good on me?" "What would you change so I looked like someone you might be attracted to?" <– good way to get free advice on what looks better on you. You can add "Don't be afraid to hurt my feelings, I left them at home" to make her more honest.
"Does my cologne smell good?" <– That is, obviously, if you have one and it does smell good. Good way to have a "near kiss" – when she leans in to smell your neck (never the armpit, funny as it is it usually results in a slap), do as if you lean to kiss her and then turn away, and from that moment in the conversation act like she was trying to kiss you.
Yeah, so… other than that, just keep on learning from Bobby… I'm not much of a teacher :).
I have been reading the stuff and trying to comprehend it… I might be the slowest student you ever had… but this is what I’m not getting right now…
me: hey
girl: hey
me: ??? ok… now what…
basically when do i incorporate the roles and the teasing, etc… your stuff is really good i’m just really lack any kind of social intellegence… what am I missing… sorry if I sound really stupid right now… I’m pretty smart in other things… and a rather fast learner… but I’m hitting a wall here… thanx for reading this tho… i look forward the next 20 days…
hey bobby,You are doing this great,perhabs I wouldn’t get this info without u,, thanks for thiss buddy…looking forward with u… 🙂
unbelieveable how much effort i made at already day 11 what if i make it till the end im excited..
Wow, crazy how the same information can be exchanged but the conversation is completely different.
Some of you have written me saying you don’t have Facebook and wanted a copy of the Cheat Sheet. So here is a link you grab the cheat sheet from without having to connect with TSB
http://makesmalltalksexy.com/blog/banter-lines-and-teasing-cheat-sheet-pdf/