Day #9: Always Be “Gaming” Her (and other girls too)
I bet you didn’t know this…
Every time a guy and a girl start talking, one person tries harder… and the person who tries harder holds less power. Once she recognizes that she has the power, game over, you lose, collect your consolation prize and go home.
This why you’ve got to immediately establish that you have the upper hand…
Here’s one of my favorite “power plays” early on…
When you’re out at a bar or restaurant… say, “what do you want to drink?”
Then order her something completely different and say, “you’re going to like this much better.”
Its playful but it establishes right off the bat that you’re not afraid to call the shots…
Get Her to Buy You a Drink
Here’s another one… get her to buy you a drink.
If she asks for a drink say “you got this round?”
Or if you’ve already bought her one… when you finish your drink show her your empty glass and say “your turn.”
You’ll be amazed that the simple trick of getting her to pull out her wallet and buy you a drink boosts her attraction towards you…
Its like her brain is subconsciously going “I must really like this guy”…
Get Her Chasing Your Validation
Here’s a story rob (co-creator of the Scrambler) just told me about some 22 year old crossfit instructor he banged last year when he was on a break from his girlfriend…
“So, the first couple times i tried talking to her she blows me off… One time she was even pretty rude about it. Now since she’s in my social circle, i run into her at parties pretty often…
So I see her at a party and i pull her aside and say, “let me take you on a ‘game of thrones’ date” (someone told me she’s a big fan.) And she got all excited and was like, “you like game of thrones too?”
And I playfully said, “no, that’s for nerds and people who don’t have sex…which are you”…
And she told me last night (as she was putting her panties back on) that when I did that she got a little offended but it also made her start paying attention to me…
Once i had her attention I used the scrambler to make her earn my respect…
I made her jump through a bunch of hoops…. I got her addicted to my validation rather than the other way where you’re chasing hers. Even if she doesn’t like you initially (which i don’t think she did), you can actually turn the tables and it becomes more of a challenge to her pride than anything else…”
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Speaking of “flirting”… next week i’m going to BLOW YOUR MIND with the stuff you’re going to learn.
If you ever struggled to talk to a girl. Ran of out things to say. Or you didn’t know how to flirt with her. Then stick with me.
Next week I pull down the curtains. And let you in on some ‘conversation secrets’ that most men will never know.
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Here’s the point of today’s lesson.
ALWAYS THINK LIKE THIS.
It doesn’t end just because she said yes to a date.
And since we’ve discussed in a previous lesson how nothing attract a girl more than thinking other girls are attracted to you. Doing things like this continually re-inforces the idea in her mind that you are WANTED BY WOMEN.
Make it happen!
Bobby RIo
P.S. If like these two simple tactics, and are wondering when more “tactics” are coming…don’t worry.
You are going to get more “tactics,” “techniques,” and examples of what to do then you can handle.
Be patient 🙂
P.P.S. Tomorrow is the LAST mental reframe you need to make.
…And it’s a BIG ONE. But all of the tactics and techniques won’t mean shit if you don’t “get it.”
Previous Lesson: Day 8
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I took your advice and ignored this hot young girl everyone was chasing at work. She is much much younger than me and dynamite hot. She came right to me. I completely ignored her still.At the end of the night I asked her for her number and she took my phone and pit it right in my contacts with her address.I made a joke out of it and said does this nean you want me to pick you up for dinner tomorrow? She said she would be ready by7. I took her to dinner last night and just said funk it and kissed her. After dinner it wasn’t long before we were naked and she was telling me how the younger guys bored her with bullshit and all she wanted was to have a guy spend some time pleasing her in bed without all the small talk. I left at 5 am and told her I might give her a call on Monday.
Give examples. stop with the sales pitch, you already took my hard earned money.
Finding places to meet women is still my biggest challenge. I run a martial arts school most of my day, there are some girls that come in, but I would never mix business and pleasure, creates too many problems. I go to the gym, and the time I go theres not a lot of girls, and while some are hot I’m just not interested. Online dating seems to be the place I have the most success, but I’ve been on sooo many dates now, where I am just bored to death by the girl. I feel I’ve tapped out that resource. I also have a kid, so every other weekend its spending time with her. Any other suggestions?
As a certified top dog who can hold his own, without help, I was compelled to follow TSB, and bought the scrambler (one lady got me good and I reversed it with flying colors). To my amazement, you guys filled in all of the blanks (related to traditional “game”) that I was missing, and I’m a certified monster now.
I am guilty of having my own comfort zone when it comes to women, but I can tell you now that this read changed my opinion on the matter. Not that I don’t pursue women outside of my comfort zone, but in most cases I justify not pursuing them when outside of my comfort zone.
Good work and keep it up!
As a certified top dog who can hold his own, without help, I was compelled to follow TSB, and bought the scrambler (one lady got me good and I reversed it with flying colors). To my amazement, you guys filled in all of the blanks (related to traditional “game”) that I was missing, and I’m a certified monster now.
I am guilty of having my own comfort zone when it comes to women, but I can tell you not that this read changed my opinion on the matter. Not that I don’t pursue women outside of my comfort zone, but in most cases I justify not pursuing them when outside of my comfort zone.
Good work and keep it up!
I’ve been blowing the dust and rust off my gaming skills, which needed a complete makeover. Lately, gaming feels like a throw back to my undergraduate fraternity days, I’m loving being 52 years, and for me its all about going after the hot young women. Hey Bobby keep the lessons coming dude! 🙂
Hey Bobby I recently found this post and have been reading the precious days as well. I was wondering can you attract an ex back if by doing this? I’m sure you know about the no contact stage of the break up and I’m am currently on that right now.
Hi Bobby!!! I’m a Success in practicing ur method’s and strategy’s on a high school sweetheart that haven’t seen her for almost 28 yrs.
We met tru Facebook she was living in another city and have been married for the 30yrs with two kids and two of those yrs we had sex after she got married and left me for good an never saw her again until a month ago. To make the storied short, I went to her city for two days and stayed in a hotel an had later had her eating out my hand an easily unlocking her legs the night and day I stayed there.. And than she came the following weekend to my city and continue practicing ur methods and strategy’s and we kept doing I over an over in my personal bed. ( “I have Arrived”)
But one problem only Mr Bobby I don’t chase women that are marry with kids and that’s why I have never been married or had any kids. I’m 49 yrs old an still learning to Master my emotions one day a time ; P
Bobby, You are amazing my friend!
I just keep getting more and more validation that your methods are right on the money!!
I’m an old guy, 65, and even though I look much younger and can still spark some interest in much younger girls, I did not know how to work it, fan the flames and make it happen.
But everything I try out that you teach works for me.
It’s just sooo cool how I can fan these sparks now, and watch the women’s excitement levels build within minutes of meeting them.
I’m learning exactly what to do and say thanks to you.
I was sparking with a young babe today, probably in her 20’s, and I now recognize how she put herself in my path on my way out the door, just so I had an opportunity to follow up on the flirtations. Fumbled, but it’s cool, because I know how to play that one next time, they absolutely put themselves in your path when they are interested.
I just kept holding eye contact until she broke every time, then teased her a little a few times and she was purring like a kitten.
We were both doing work in this $3 mil house, and she was a little babe.
Thanks again dude, you saved my life, I once again have a reason to live.
I live alone and I’m a retired disabled vet so I don’t have those avenues to “practice”. And I couldn’t think of places to go and meet girls.
great stuff……..you’re a natural
Hey I did not receive day 10 link. I have already checked my junk mail. I also already have the rest of the links through day 19 just missing day 10.
I just wanted to share that after going through yesterday’s lesson, I jump in the shower getting ready for work and digesting all that I’ve learned so far and suddenly a conversation I had with a girl I used to date popped in my head. (You’ll going to like this)
She was telling me how she and her ex got together. What she told me was, she was hanging out with her boy friend at the time when her ex, who was just some guy at the time came up to her and told her she was going to be his. He began flirting with her and even did so in front of her boyfriend at the time.
I thought this was stupid. Not to mention ballsy. Long story short. They got together and she ultimately had 3 of his kids.
Now here’s the thing. He is a very short black guy who is not much to look at to say the least and a trouble make in their community. She is a very hot blonde hair, blue eyed white girl with leg to die for. It didn’t make since. She could have anybody she want but, she went for this looser. He never married her and finally got rid of him when the youngest of the 3 kids became a teenage. Sad story for her but, it brings together a lot of things you guy are teaching and helps me to relate in a clearer fashion.
I think I’m starting to really understand what you guys are talking about.
Hey guys I work in a night club as a bouncer (security)I survey the room at work ready to trouble shoot issues that arise. There was a hot bunch of Argentinian chicks and two guys dancing with them. so I like to dance when the DJ plays good music I purposely ignored the sexy ladies and they were like fish on a fishing line trying to get my attention I realized by not allowing them to get the bait easily is the Game . By the way im 48 and I get chicks form 21 yrs and up age isnt a barrier the sexual connection is key, my game is going to go through the roof Thank you guys, my game was pretty good before it has no limits now .
Hey bobby you seem to cover everything except openers. What can I say to the random girl I’m standing beside waiting for the elevator?
I think everything you have said is intuitive and logical to guys ‘in’ the situation.
me – being outside your situation i think that everything you have suggested sounds like a bad idea!
really bad!
let her stay keen- she’s come to YOU – keep it that way – ..
don’t start offering up deals of you changing your life for her already!
no way.
NO WAY.
I know where you’re coming from wanting to organise things – which could make happiness for everyone – but NO WAY.
You mind and emotions ads whispering advice in your ear.
Bad advice.
Let her offer up her feelings – in the right situation.
Bobby,
I’m having the worst time getting girls to follow through on dates with me. I get so upset when they break plans, I end up never talking to them again.
What should I do?
Super dope. Texting game way up. Called a girl a prude, then did the if by x you mean y with prude, then dropped the you know who you remind me of on another girl. Best, and quickest responses ever. My posture’s better, joined a gym, and am volunteering with Habitat for Humanity as well. Being your complete self, fucking solid.
Hey mate wondering if you can help me out with something.
Broke up with ex 18 months. Since then she had a BF etc I had few girls on the go. nothing serious.
Anyway we hadn’t spoke in like over a year and anyway she contacted me few days ago, saying she
been having dreams about me and us being back together. Problem is she lives in the UK and me in Australia now.
So its kind of hard to play the game with her etc the way you have outlined in your videos.
I had moved on after her, but there is part of me wondering what if.
I would be prepared to give it another go and me potentialy move to UK to do so ( I have dual passport)
My Questions are
Do I ask her if she still has feelings for me, and what was her real resaon for contacting me, and would she give it another go?
I really don’t want to get into measaging back and forth for weeks on end going no where?
I want to lay it on the line and get an answer and even put it ALL behind me I give it another go.
What do you think would be the best approach in this matter.
I’m going to spain for holiday in 6 weeks and was thinking maybe i could drop in a see her in the UK.
Would I suggest this to her?
Any help would be much appreciated
Thanks
I have been studying your stuff like mad but the problem is that every time I go up to talk to a girl, I forget what to say and how to say it, so I walk away. How to overcome this? Thanks Bobby and Rob
I know this comment comes 3 years after this post, but it’s more for someone who may be scrolling through these comments. I’m 43 and only date younger women. I was freindzoned in October by a perfect 10 (and she’s 26). Got the course about 2 weeks ago waited 1 week before I talked to her (had been a full 2 weeks because I hadn’t talked to her in a week), broke “the rules” then invited her on a one day trip, which we’ve done a few times before as friends. Told my stories on our 2 hour drive and mixed in everything, switching gears as I went. We weren’t sure if we were driving back that night or staying. By the end of the night, she asked our mutual friend if we could just crash at her house and insisted that we stay. Bitch raped me! It was great! I assure you from experience, it can happen in one day with just a little planning.
I believe when it comes to women use commonsense which is not that common.
yes, its a good idea. I learned A LOT practicing on girls i worked. Just don’t get too sexual. It can get you in trouble at work.
Whe I started learning this stuff, I was wondering myself where I can go to practice this on. So I thought I should try it on the women closes to me. MY WORK! Not really trying to get them into bed( all tho it wouldn’t hurt) but just to be able to start conversations and flirting with them to help me get started!. Is that a good idea? Eventually I will broaden might search area.
tell her “It’s fun hanging around you”, with a tint of smile, after that say “maybe she’s jealous ;)” Dont stop flirting because some of her annoying friends try to guard her up. Leave the place for a bit and wait until she approaches you again
Bobby, you’re THE BOMB!! Thank you very much. Keep it up. I LOVE this stuff. 😀
great advice always be gaming….
Bobby you are cool…thank for helping me out.I have been taking in all that you said for the pass days……i have learn a lot so far…thank you.
“-Take classes or lessons. Salsa is my favorite. Nothing sparks chemistry with a chick like dancing with her.”
I like how you mentioned salsa dancing. I went salsa dancing by myself back 2 years ago St. Patrick’s day, and went dancing in a local bar this year.
I got commented on how well I danced from a lady in her 40’s. Whom pretty much danced with me all night. Ever seen a sober man dance at a bar like a wild dancer? Yup that’s me. Most guys do not have the balls to dance, and I even had a girl that was fighting over me. It was fun and funny!
In the game wherever you can potentially meet a lady, make it an opportunity. Get fluid with both talking to girls, and if they are no girls talk to guys. It can be a clerk at a grocery store, or at a shopper shopping. Wherever the potential for a girl be prepared!
There is a girl whenever i see her i get nervous. She often meets me at my shop whenever she comes to city as my shop is nearby bus depot. She is studying with me. Whenever she speaks to me she often giggles, shy and smiles and when i speak to her she listens very carefully..even after learning from you about not to ask phone numbers from girls i asked her number..but she didn’t gave me instead took my number…so are there chances of her love with me? What do you think?
Bobby,
First date in a very very long time last night.Got called a nice guy to many times for comfort.Although I did use the kiss her quick on the lips trick and walk away for a minute.Worked like a fucking charm.I was able to kiss her anytime I wanted after that, the rest of the night.Got to touch and rub on her all over to.Next date is supposed to be saturday but I will be more confident to try other girls in the mean time.You are the shit my man.Day nine and Im having results.Fucking amazing man.
Do you think this work in High School? How many percent chance?
i need a link to day 10 because i did not recieve
hi bobby,i realy appreciate ya work,thumbs up guy.but i ve a big problem,im just 19 nd kinda lukke more matured dan ma age….gals sees me as one old man nd dis as realy lowered ma self esteem md confidence….pls help me rio pls!
Hey man I love the work you’re doing here. I appreciate you helping out your fellow man. Most men would keep this stuff to themselves but not you. I’m sure I talk for all of us when I say that your time, work, energy is appreciated. Keep up the good work!
Great advice. Absolutely loving the step by step approach. So much info out there, this has got to be the best broken down format I can keep up with, nice work Bobby.
Hey dude, go for it… you can see that the guy is jealous… you were bold enough to do something his sissy___ass_______ was not man enough to do… be strong and go get her!
Thank you for your imput… it is always great to get tidbits from a womans’ perspective…
rogar that
dude fuck other guys…
go talk to her
they will stop once they see that you dont give a shit
Man the damn game is on right away. I have realized that i am a fast learner. I read not only your shit but some other more shit.. Which i constantly implement on a daily basis and add every piece of game ingredient i read every day and you know what. Its drastically and vigorously exploding.. Anyways you advises are the main shit man. No wonder you aint selling it because its exclusive and straight forward. Unlike this boozy-ass ‘MF’ yaking bullshit and i quote, “Here is what you gonna learn… I am gonna show you”.. and never gave scenarios.
amazing! You’re the man… it is true that being “on” the game frame when you least expect it… they’re everywhere that’s all I could say and I’m having a lot of fun… thanks for people like you man!!!
really great stuff. i put it to work.
hey im in a kind of problem
i am in in day nine stage and my friend found out that i like a girl in my class
me and that girl are getting close
since i like that girl i had downloaded her profile pics [cause shes hot]
this guy like saw those pics[when he had come to my house] and went and told to that girl that I have crush on her and he even told her about the profile pic matter
he went told that i like her also, this is like me confessing my feelings to her
what do i do now?
that bullshit guy is making fun of me with her in front of others
this makes her not talk to me
cause she’s afraid that the bull shit guy might make fun of us again
Hey Carlos…
I’ve been to Rio de Janeiro many times 🙂 Its one of my most favorite places on earth.
“I look like a retarded monkey” … man, this made me laugh a lot. The good thing about you, Bob, is that, besides all the stuff you know about female psychology, you still lie on the roots and give us the best of your sincerity and humour. That’s really great ! I wish you could talk portuguese and come here to Rio de Janeiro, and meet our beautiful and sexy brasilian girls, you would be amazed to meet their hotness and tenderness … in bed, of course !
check your junk mail
and how come i did not get lesson 8
i will make it happen
sorry : the line should read “…they DO NOT have too much time on their hands to close…”
^_^
Jay
Hey Bobby,
All your tips seem to be for single and younger guys. What about guys in their 40s and in relationships? Are they doomed to One-itis?. They do have too much time on their hands to close which should be getting laid and not just getting the girls phone#
Any thoughts?
Jay
The always be “open” tip might more valuable than you think. Just about the date a top girl and that date came from a direction i did not see coming. (From a virtual “open the door” for a lady).
The always “gaming”… as long it is my kind of game, not the game of the “player”. (but then… be a good student might be more important than having a good teacher)
just curious does talking in the mirror actually improve your speech, or helps with better convo?
one day i was in school and then one girl she has nice,nice body but ugly
face and so i was flirting with her i told her things and then i started to play whit her and so then one girl her friend she got mad or something because she told her ‘LIVE HIM ALONE HE’S JUST TRYING TO FLIRT WITH YOU’ and so then the girl she smile like ‘really you flirting whit me’ like saying yes and then i didn’t knew what to say after the girl told her that .WHAT DO I SAY NEXT TIME SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING LIKE THAT
Bob its mind blowing 9days, believe me you have changed my attitude towards life.
thats coolcarmel
weel i toot your advise i got awomens number im tall averge looking
hey guys i’m a girl and have been reading a lot of stuff like this! Just wanted to have a peek at the kinda advice guys are getting..I’ve learned some really amazing stuff these past few mths..I’ll share a little tip for you.. recently I met a guy who is not very attractive but felt the chemistry and one of the things I found kept me interested is that he didn’t text for a few day’s doesn’t hound me..I like it his not needy his confident taking his time..first date this week 🙂
One more thing I don’t ever chase a guy I let him do the work so the advice you got on having girls chase you well men don’t like girls to chase it puts them off so be careful not to play too hard other wise you might lose the great one’s like me 😉
got lots of stuff coming on conversation stuff soon.
Hungry like a wolf! Always looking for prey! Thanks for the help finding it extremely helpful. Can’t wait to get into more conversion techniques. I seem to have trouble keeping up with a conversion after the small talk. Feeling awkward and walking away. Then kicking myself!
you’ll find an upcoming lesson very helpful… its all about playing the game and keeping them interested..
Great Stuff, thank you I will keep trying, even though I keep getting shot down…. I will keep refining my game. My trouble is they are attracted at first, then they go cold. I think I don’t “tease” them enough. I am very expressive and let my true feelings out,this is my down fall. I will approach them EVERYWHERE.
When you talkto, and compliment women, even if you don’t get a number. youwill at least brighten her day. She will remember you, guaranteed.
Gotta be on your game all the time. Totally makes sense. Otherwise it’s like a football team showing up Sunday without practicing during the week.
Even when you want a relationship with a girl… it’s still always best to tease her a bit. Too much rapport in the beginning leads to friend zone
Hey there. I’ve been reading for the last 9 days and it’s mind-blowing. I’ve also been reading your small talk report. Im wondering that if you want to have a serious relationship with a girl do you not listen to her and give her the $200 psychologist line that you talk about, or listen wholeheartedly? Thanks alot for everything so far. That email isn’t my real one so if you could respond here that would be great. Thanks so much.
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