Day #9: Always Be Gaming

In a common sales office 10% of the salesmen make 90% of the money.

Is it because they are that much better salesman?


Its because a successful salesman is constantly marketing himself.

The other 90% do their 9-5 in the office and call it a day.

And then they wonder why they’re broke.

A big mistake guys make is thinking it only counts when they’re in a bar or club. Or at a party.

…Or some other social event that they’ve specifically designated as “game night.”

They read books, study lines, learn to be alpha, but they sit in their house all week waiting for the weekend to go “game.”

And what did I tell you on Day 2?

Bars and clubs are the hardest possible place to learn game.

You’re setting yourself up for failure.

Plus how many people do you know that met their girlfriend or wife in a bar?

Not many I bet.

Women are everywhere.

All around you.

But you’re too wrapped up in waiting for some “event” that tells you it’s ok to talk to them.

“Game” is always on.

Does that mean all you should care about is game?

Hell no.

It just means all the stuff I’m about to teach you must be implemented at all times.

Always dress to impress.

Always be looking for opportunities to flirt with girls.

Always strive to make your conversations memorable…

HINT:  This is important even if you’re trying to score one specific girl.  Because she MUST believe that you have options.  So it’s important that she believe you’ve got good game.

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Speaking of “conversations”… next week i’m going to BLOW YOUR MIND with the stuff you’re going to learn.

If you ever struggled to talk to a girl.  Ran of out things to say. Or you didn’t know how to flirt with her.  Then stick with me.

Next week I pull down the curtains.  And let you in on some ‘conversation secrets’ that most men will never know.

Point is… always present your best self.

A lot of guys wonder how come some nights it is so hard to get ‘in state’ or feel ‘on’

It’s hard because all week you’ve created a habit of bad posture, poor tonality, boring conversations….

…and then you expect to miraculously be the life of the party come Friday night.

Sorry, it don’t work that way.

Every thing you’re going to learn from here on out needs to become a new habit in your life.

From here on out… the theory is over.

Every day you’re going to be learning a new skill.  Everyday you need to practice that skill.

I know what you’re thinking…

Where do I find these girls to practice on?

On day two I asked you to list all the “easy” places you can meet women.

Take out that list.

Those are the places you practice.

I also promised that I was gonna tell you some of my favorite places.

Here they are:

-Raid the fuck out of your social circle… friends of friends of friends… easiest girls to meet.

-Take classes or lessons. Salsa is my favorite.  Nothing sparks chemistry with a chick like dancing with her.  (and don’t worry  if you don’t know how.  I’m the world’s worst dancer.  I look like a retarded monkey. I still get laid)

– If you’re in college join some clubs

Here’s a list of the best college clubs for meeting girls.

– If you’re out of college go to ‘young professional networking events’

– Need extra cash.  Get a job waiting tables at  place where a ton of girls work.  Easiest girls in the world to practice on.

I could go on forever..

But you get the point.

Think outside the box.

Once you get in the habit of always reinforcing the skills you’ll be learning, you will find that it becomes a lot easier to get “on.”

More importantly though, is that you will find, like the most successful salesmen, that the best leads come when you least expect it.

If you’re always “on” you’ll find that you’ll naturally be attracting more women into your life.

Your co-workers who used to ignore you will be asking you to come hang out with them.

The counter girl at your local bank will be smiling at you more. Practically begging to give you her number.

Always leave the house expecting to meet the girl of your dreams.

Because you just don’t know when you will bump into her.

Make it happen!

Bobby RIo





P.S. If you’re wondering when all of the “tactics” are coming…don’t worry.

You are going to get more “tactics,”  “techniques,” and examples of what to do then you can handle.

Be patient 🙂

P.P.S. Tomorrow is the LAST mental reframe you need to make.

…And  it’s a BIG ONE.  But all of the tactics and techniques won’t mean shit if you don’t “get it.”

Previous Lesson:  Day 8

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LT April 29, 2018 at 9:07 pm

I took your advice and ignored this hot young girl everyone was chasing at work. She is much much younger than me and dynamite hot. She came right to me. I completely ignored her still.At the end of the night I asked her for her number and she took my phone and pit it right in my contacts with her address.I made a joke out of it and said does this nean you want me to pick you up for dinner tomorrow? She said she would be ready by7. I took her to dinner last night and just said funk it and kissed her. After dinner it wasn’t long before we were naked and she was telling me how the younger guys bored her with bullshit and all she wanted was to have a guy spend some time pleasing her in bed without all the small talk. I left at 5 am and told her I might give her a call on Monday.

Rodger March 2, 2016 at 8:39 am

Give examples. stop with the sales pitch, you already took my hard earned money.

Blake December 18, 2015 at 5:57 pm

Finding places to meet women is still my biggest challenge. I run a martial arts school most of my day, there are some girls that come in, but I would never mix business and pleasure, creates too many problems. I go to the gym, and the time I go theres not a lot of girls, and while some are hot I’m just not interested. Online dating seems to be the place I have the most success, but I’ve been on sooo many dates now, where I am just bored to death by the girl. I feel I’ve tapped out that resource. I also have a kid, so every other weekend its spending time with her. Any other suggestions?

The Houston Dude November 13, 2015 at 10:41 pm

As a certified top dog who can hold his own, without help, I was compelled to follow TSB, and bought the scrambler (one lady got me good and I reversed it with flying colors). To my amazement, you guys filled in all of the blanks (related to traditional “game”) that I was missing, and I’m a certified monster now.

I am guilty of having my own comfort zone when it comes to women, but I can tell you now that this read changed my opinion on the matter. Not that I don’t pursue women outside of my comfort zone, but in most cases I justify not pursuing them when outside of my comfort zone.

Good work and keep it up!

The Houston Dude November 13, 2015 at 10:40 pm

As a certified top dog who can hold his own, without help, I was compelled to follow TSB, and bought the scrambler (one lady got me good and I reversed it with flying colors). To my amazement, you guys filled in all of the blanks (related to traditional “game”) that I was missing, and I’m a certified monster now.

I am guilty of having my own comfort zone when it comes to women, but I can tell you not that this read changed my opinion on the matter. Not that I don’t pursue women outside of my comfort zone, but in most cases I justify not pursuing them when outside of my comfort zone.

Good work and keep it up!

John Hunter September 27, 2015 at 2:24 am

I’ve been blowing the dust and rust off my gaming skills, which needed a complete makeover. Lately, gaming feels like a throw back to my undergraduate fraternity days, I’m loving being 52 years, and for me its all about going after the hot young women. Hey Bobby keep the lessons coming dude! 🙂

Anonymous September 16, 2015 at 1:09 am

Hey Bobby I recently found this post and have been reading the precious days as well. I was wondering can you attract an ex back if by doing this? I’m sure you know about the no contact stage of the break up and I’m am currently on that right now.

JOE June 30, 2015 at 10:41 pm

Hi Bobby!!! I’m a Success in practicing ur method’s and strategy’s on a high school sweetheart that haven’t seen her for almost 28 yrs.
We met tru Facebook she was living in another city and have been married for the 30yrs with two kids and two of those yrs we had sex after she got married and left me for good an never saw her again until a month ago. To make the storied short, I went to her city for two days and stayed in a hotel an had later had her eating out my hand an easily unlocking her legs the night and day I stayed there.. And than she came the following weekend to my city and continue practicing ur methods and strategy’s and we kept doing I over an over in my personal bed. ( “I have Arrived”)
But one problem only Mr Bobby I don’t chase women that are marry with kids and that’s why I have never been married or had any kids. I’m 49 yrs old an still learning to Master my emotions one day a time ; P

Ron November 1, 2014 at 2:58 am

Bobby, You are amazing my friend!
I just keep getting more and more validation that your methods are right on the money!!
I’m an old guy, 65, and even though I look much younger and can still spark some interest in much younger girls, I did not know how to work it, fan the flames and make it happen.
But everything I try out that you teach works for me.
It’s just sooo cool how I can fan these sparks now, and watch the women’s excitement levels build within minutes of meeting them.
I’m learning exactly what to do and say thanks to you.
I was sparking with a young babe today, probably in her 20’s, and I now recognize how she put herself in my path on my way out the door, just so I had an opportunity to follow up on the flirtations. Fumbled, but it’s cool, because I know how to play that one next time, they absolutely put themselves in your path when they are interested.
I just kept holding eye contact until she broke every time, then teased her a little a few times and she was purring like a kitten.
We were both doing work in this $3 mil house, and she was a little babe.
Thanks again dude, you saved my life, I once again have a reason to live.

Scott Fryer October 21, 2014 at 9:59 pm

I live alone and I’m a retired disabled vet so I don’t have those avenues to “practice”. And I couldn’t think of places to go and meet girls.

kelley September 29, 2014 at 12:51 am

great stuff……’re a natural

Jamie August 24, 2014 at 5:20 pm

Hey I did not receive day 10 link. I have already checked my junk mail. I also already have the rest of the links through day 19 just missing day 10.

Ray August 23, 2014 at 1:57 pm

I just wanted to share that after going through yesterday’s lesson, I jump in the shower getting ready for work and digesting all that I’ve learned so far and suddenly a conversation I had with a girl I used to date popped in my head. (You’ll going to like this)

She was telling me how she and her ex got together. What she told me was, she was hanging out with her boy friend at the time when her ex, who was just some guy at the time came up to her and told her she was going to be his. He began flirting with her and even did so in front of her boyfriend at the time.

I thought this was stupid. Not to mention ballsy. Long story short. They got together and she ultimately had 3 of his kids.

Now here’s the thing. He is a very short black guy who is not much to look at to say the least and a trouble make in their community. She is a very hot blonde hair, blue eyed white girl with leg to die for. It didn’t make since. She could have anybody she want but, she went for this looser. He never married her and finally got rid of him when the youngest of the 3 kids became a teenage. Sad story for her but, it brings together a lot of things you guy are teaching and helps me to relate in a clearer fashion.

I think I’m starting to really understand what you guys are talking about.

sizzlack August 17, 2014 at 7:55 pm

Hey guys I work in a night club as a bouncer (security)I survey the room at work ready to trouble shoot issues that arise. There was a hot bunch of Argentinian chicks and two guys dancing with them. so I like to dance when the DJ plays good music I purposely ignored the sexy ladies and they were like fish on a fishing line trying to get my attention I realized by not allowing them to get the bait easily is the Game . By the way im 48 and I get chicks form 21 yrs and up age isnt a barrier the sexual connection is key, my game is going to go through the roof Thank you guys, my game was pretty good before it has no limits now .

Drew July 8, 2014 at 7:19 pm

Hey bobby you seem to cover everything except openers. What can I say to the random girl I’m standing beside waiting for the elevator?

Sanjay June 20, 2014 at 9:44 pm

I think everything you have said is intuitive and logical to guys ‘in’ the situation.
me – being outside your situation i think that everything you have suggested sounds like a bad idea!
really bad!
let her stay keen- she’s come to YOU – keep it that way – ..
don’t start offering up deals of you changing your life for her already!
no way.
I know where you’re coming from wanting to organise things – which could make happiness for everyone – but NO WAY.
You mind and emotions ads whispering advice in your ear.
Bad advice.
Let her offer up her feelings – in the right situation.

b June 12, 2014 at 4:10 pm


I’m having the worst time getting girls to follow through on dates with me. I get so upset when they break plans, I end up never talking to them again.
What should I do?

Dave June 5, 2014 at 8:24 am

Super dope. Texting game way up. Called a girl a prude, then did the if by x you mean y with prude, then dropped the you know who you remind me of on another girl. Best, and quickest responses ever. My posture’s better, joined a gym, and am volunteering with Habitat for Humanity as well. Being your complete self, fucking solid.

Brett jones June 4, 2014 at 6:15 am

Hey mate wondering if you can help me out with something.

Broke up with ex 18 months. Since then she had a BF etc I had few girls on the go. nothing serious.
Anyway we hadn’t spoke in like over a year and anyway she contacted me few days ago, saying she
been having dreams about me and us being back together. Problem is she lives in the UK and me in Australia now.
So its kind of hard to play the game with her etc the way you have outlined in your videos.
I had moved on after her, but there is part of me wondering what if.
I would be prepared to give it another go and me potentialy move to UK to do so ( I have dual passport)

My Questions are

Do I ask her if she still has feelings for me, and what was her real resaon for contacting me, and would she give it another go?
I really don’t want to get into measaging back and forth for weeks on end going no where?

I want to lay it on the line and get an answer and even put it ALL behind me I give it another go.

What do you think would be the best approach in this matter.

I’m going to spain for holiday in 6 weeks and was thinking maybe i could drop in a see her in the UK.
Would I suggest this to her?

Any help would be much appreciated


Jason May 28, 2014 at 8:16 pm

I have been studying your stuff like mad but the problem is that every time I go up to talk to a girl, I forget what to say and how to say it, so I walk away. How to overcome this? Thanks Bobby and Rob

Joe May 10, 2014 at 4:42 pm

I know this comment comes 3 years after this post, but it’s more for someone who may be scrolling through these comments. I’m 43 and only date younger women. I was freindzoned in October by a perfect 10 (and she’s 26). Got the course about 2 weeks ago waited 1 week before I talked to her (had been a full 2 weeks because I hadn’t talked to her in a week), broke “the rules” then invited her on a one day trip, which we’ve done a few times before as friends. Told my stories on our 2 hour drive and mixed in everything, switching gears as I went. We weren’t sure if we were driving back that night or staying. By the end of the night, she asked our mutual friend if we could just crash at her house and insisted that we stay. Bitch raped me! It was great! I assure you from experience, it can happen in one day with just a little planning.

Julio April 23, 2014 at 6:12 am

I believe when it comes to women use commonsense which is not that common.

Bobby Rio February 5, 2014 at 4:27 pm

yes, its a good idea. I learned A LOT practicing on girls i worked. Just don’t get too sexual. It can get you in trouble at work.

josue February 4, 2014 at 3:55 pm

Whe I started learning this stuff, I was wondering myself where I can go to practice this on. So I thought I should try it on the women closes to me. MY WORK! Not really trying to get them into bed( all tho it wouldn’t hurt) but just to be able to start conversations and flirting with them to help me get started!. Is that a good idea? Eventually I will broaden might search area.

Island guy June 17, 2012 at 3:39 am

tell her “It’s fun hanging around you”, with a tint of smile, after that say “maybe she’s jealous ;)” Dont stop flirting because some of her annoying friends try to guard her up. Leave the place for a bit and wait until she approaches you again

Mrtvac May 29, 2012 at 9:04 am

Bobby, you’re THE BOMB!! Thank you very much. Keep it up. I LOVE this stuff. 😀

EG April 24, 2012 at 9:27 pm

great advice always be gaming….

Carl(Knight4zions) March 24, 2012 at 2:18 pm

Bobby you are cool…thank for helping me out.I have been taking in all that you said for the pass days……i have learn a lot so far…thank you.

Devon W March 21, 2012 at 2:34 pm

“-Take classes or lessons. Salsa is my favorite. Nothing sparks chemistry with a chick like dancing with her.”

I like how you mentioned salsa dancing. I went salsa dancing by myself back 2 years ago St. Patrick’s day, and went dancing in a local bar this year.

I got commented on how well I danced from a lady in her 40’s. Whom pretty much danced with me all night. Ever seen a sober man dance at a bar like a wild dancer? Yup that’s me. Most guys do not have the balls to dance, and I even had a girl that was fighting over me. It was fun and funny!

In the game wherever you can potentially meet a lady, make it an opportunity. Get fluid with both talking to girls, and if they are no girls talk to guys. It can be a clerk at a grocery store, or at a shopper shopping. Wherever the potential for a girl be prepared!

Aju March 21, 2012 at 5:34 am

There is a girl whenever i see her i get nervous. She often meets me at my shop whenever she comes to city as my shop is nearby bus depot. She is studying with me. Whenever she speaks to me she often giggles, shy and smiles and when i speak to her she listens very carefully..even after learning from you about not to ask phone numbers from girls i asked her number..but she didn’t gave me instead took my number…so are there chances of her love with me? What do you think?

Robert J B March 1, 2012 at 3:57 pm

First date in a very very long time last night.Got called a nice guy to many times for comfort.Although I did use the kiss her quick on the lips trick and walk away for a minute.Worked like a fucking charm.I was able to kiss her anytime I wanted after that, the rest of the night.Got to touch and rub on her all over to.Next date is supposed to be saturday but I will be more confident to try other girls in the mean time.You are the shit my man.Day nine and Im having results.Fucking amazing man.

Amnat January 27, 2012 at 4:17 am

Do you think this work in High School? How many percent chance?

josue January 10, 2012 at 9:27 pm

i need a link to day 10 because i did not recieve

t.j December 17, 2011 at 8:35 am

hi bobby,i realy appreciate ya work,thumbs up guy.but i ve a big problem,im just 19 nd kinda lukke more matured dan ma age….gals sees me as one old man nd dis as realy lowered ma self esteem md confidence….pls help me rio pls!

D November 29, 2011 at 10:33 pm

Hey man I love the work you’re doing here. I appreciate you helping out your fellow man. Most men would keep this stuff to themselves but not you. I’m sure I talk for all of us when I say that your time, work, energy is appreciated. Keep up the good work!

Lee November 28, 2011 at 12:46 am

Great advice. Absolutely loving the step by step approach. So much info out there, this has got to be the best broken down format I can keep up with, nice work Bobby.

George November 27, 2011 at 4:44 pm

Hey dude, go for it… you can see that the guy is jealous… you were bold enough to do something his sissy___ass_______ was not man enough to do… be strong and go get her!

George November 27, 2011 at 4:38 pm

Thank you for your imput… it is always great to get tidbits from a womans’ perspective…

george November 16, 2011 at 9:08 pm

rogar that

ante November 14, 2011 at 8:00 pm

dude fuck other guys…
go talk to her
they will stop once they see that you dont give a shit

Snoopin' cricket November 10, 2011 at 11:08 am

Man the damn game is on right away. I have realized that i am a fast learner. I read not only your shit but some other more shit.. Which i constantly implement on a daily basis and add every piece of game ingredient i read every day and you know what. Its drastically and vigorously exploding.. Anyways you advises are the main shit man. No wonder you aint selling it because its exclusive and straight forward. Unlike this boozy-ass ‘MF’ yaking bullshit and i quote, “Here is what you gonna learn… I am gonna show you”.. and never gave scenarios.

syd November 8, 2011 at 7:02 pm

amazing! You’re the man… it is true that being “on” the game frame when you least expect it… they’re everywhere that’s all I could say and I’m having a lot of fun… thanks for people like you man!!!

Iri October 23, 2011 at 1:06 pm

really great stuff. i put it to work.

Preshant October 20, 2011 at 6:50 pm

hey im in a kind of problem
i am in in day nine stage and my friend found out that i like a girl in my class
me and that girl are getting close
since i like that girl i had downloaded her profile pics [cause shes hot]
this guy like saw those pics[when he had come to my house] and went and told to that girl that I have crush on her and he even told her about the profile pic matter
he went told that i like her also, this is like me confessing my feelings to her
what do i do now?
that bullshit guy is making fun of me with her in front of others
this makes her not talk to me
cause she’s afraid that the bull shit guy might make fun of us again

Bobby Rio October 15, 2011 at 11:02 pm

Hey Carlos…

I’ve been to Rio de Janeiro many times 🙂 Its one of my most favorite places on earth.

Carlos Motta October 15, 2011 at 10:48 pm

“I look like a retarded monkey” … man, this made me laugh a lot. The good thing about you, Bob, is that, besides all the stuff you know about female psychology, you still lie on the roots and give us the best of your sincerity and humour. That’s really great ! I wish you could talk portuguese and come here to Rio de Janeiro, and meet our beautiful and sexy brasilian girls, you would be amazed to meet their hotness and tenderness … in bed, of course !

Bobby Rio October 10, 2011 at 11:20 pm

check your junk mail

george October 10, 2011 at 10:50 pm

and how come i did not get lesson 8

george October 10, 2011 at 10:36 pm

i will make it happen

Jay October 10, 2011 at 4:56 pm

sorry : the line should read “…they DO NOT have too much time on their hands to close…”


Jay October 10, 2011 at 4:54 pm

Hey Bobby,

All your tips seem to be for single and younger guys. What about guys in their 40s and in relationships? Are they doomed to One-itis?. They do have too much time on their hands to close which should be getting laid and not just getting the girls phone#
Any thoughts?

KnightM October 4, 2011 at 10:01 am

The always be “open” tip might more valuable than you think. Just about the date a top girl and that date came from a direction i did not see coming. (From a virtual “open the door” for a lady).

The always “gaming”… as long it is my kind of game, not the game of the “player”. (but then… be a good student might be more important than having a good teacher)

silk September 23, 2011 at 4:39 pm

just curious does talking in the mirror actually improve your speech, or helps with better convo?

virus September 19, 2011 at 9:36 pm

one day i was in school and then one girl she has nice,nice body but ugly
face and so i was flirting with her i told her things and then i started to play whit her and so then one girl her friend she got mad or something because she told her ‘LIVE HIM ALONE HE’S JUST TRYING TO FLIRT WITH YOU’ and so then the girl she smile like ‘really you flirting whit me’ like saying yes and then i didn’t knew what to say after the girl told her that .WHAT DO I SAY NEXT TIME SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING LIKE THAT

alex August 25, 2011 at 3:15 pm

Bob its mind blowing 9days, believe me you have changed my attitude towards life.

grimreaper August 8, 2011 at 1:52 pm

thats coolcarmel

grimreaper August 8, 2011 at 1:48 pm

weel i toot your advise i got awomens number im tall averge looking

carmel July 27, 2011 at 6:50 am

hey guys i’m a girl and have been reading a lot of stuff like this! Just wanted to have a peek at the kinda advice guys are getting..I’ve learned some really amazing stuff these past few mths..I’ll share a little tip for you.. recently I met a guy who is not very attractive but felt the chemistry and one of the things I found kept me interested is that he didn’t text for a few day’s doesn’t hound me..I like it his not needy his confident taking his time..first date this week 🙂

One more thing I don’t ever chase a guy I let him do the work so the advice you got on having girls chase you well men don’t like girls to chase it puts them off so be careful not to play too hard other wise you might lose the great one’s like me 😉

Bobby Rio July 13, 2011 at 5:18 pm

got lots of stuff coming on conversation stuff soon.

steve July 13, 2011 at 5:04 pm

Hungry like a wolf! Always looking for prey! Thanks for the help finding it extremely helpful. Can’t wait to get into more conversion techniques. I seem to have trouble keeping up with a conversion after the small talk. Feeling awkward and walking away. Then kicking myself!

Bobby Rio June 23, 2011 at 11:13 am

you’ll find an upcoming lesson very helpful… its all about playing the game and keeping them interested..

Kieth June 23, 2011 at 3:39 am

Great Stuff, thank you I will keep trying, even though I keep getting shot down…. I will keep refining my game. My trouble is they are attracted at first, then they go cold. I think I don’t “tease” them enough. I am very expressive and let my true feelings out,this is my down fall. I will approach them EVERYWHERE.

Thomas June 21, 2011 at 3:38 pm

When you talkto, and compliment women, even if you don’t get a number. youwill at least brighten her day. She will remember you, guaranteed.

Jason G June 17, 2011 at 6:23 pm

Gotta be on your game all the time. Totally makes sense. Otherwise it’s like a football team showing up Sunday without practicing during the week.

Bobby Rio June 16, 2011 at 8:17 pm

Even when you want a relationship with a girl… it’s still always best to tease her a bit. Too much rapport in the beginning leads to friend zone

confusion June 16, 2011 at 7:41 pm

Hey there. I’ve been reading for the last 9 days and it’s mind-blowing. I’ve also been reading your small talk report. Im wondering that if you want to have a serious relationship with a girl do you not listen to her and give her the $200 psychologist line that you talk about, or listen wholeheartedly? Thanks alot for everything so far. That email isn’t my real one so if you could respond here that would be great. Thanks so much.

sushil June 12, 2011 at 10:48 am

hunger love housewife

sushil June 12, 2011 at 10:47 am

always ready to love

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