Day #17: Escalation & Making Your Move
This is the third part of the Triangle of Temptation (TAT) (Fun, Connection, Sexuality)
Escalation.
Escalation introduces sexuality.
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My friend Rob Judge says “You don’t wait until a woman is attracted to you to escalate. She becomes attracted to you BECAUSE you escalated.
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Do you remember what happened to me in Small Talk Tactics report?
I spent two hours talking to a girl… and got nothing.
Why?
Because I never escalated. I let the conversation stay in the same “friendly” gear all night.
Even if at one point she was attracted… I lost her. She got bored. Gave up. Moved on to a guy who had the balls to pull the trigger.
Maybe you’ve experienced the same thing?
You are talking to a girl. You got good rapport. But you can’t spot an opportunity to get sexual. Or you just don’t know how.
Here is the thing….
You are THE MAN.
You have complete and total responsibility to be the one who escalates and gets physical.
This is a biggie.
DO NOT wait for a girl to tell you it’s “OK” to escalate.
That moment won’t come.
You’ll wind up like I did with the “Health Food” girl.
You’ll wind up walking in on her giving some OTHER DUDE a handjob.
You need to “get” this.
You are 100% responsible to escalate.
Here’s the deal with escalation.
And when you “get” this…. your game can change overnight.
Escalation is WIN/WIN
You can’t lose by escalating.
YOU CAN’T LOSE
Let me demonstrate.
Let’s back up to “Health Food Girl”…
Had I escalated one of two things would have happened.
1. I would have been the guy upstairs getting the “handy dandy.”
2. She would have denied me.
How is getting denied a “WIN”?
Because first of all a woman ALWAYS respects you more when you go for it. ALWAYS. ALWAYS. ALWAYS.
And second of all. Had I gotten denied I could have moved on. Found another girl that night who would have bitten.
Instead, I wasted two hours talking about “health food” and got nothing.
And looked like a MASSIVE CHUMP in the process.
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If you continue waiting for her to give you signs. You will continue winding up in the friend zone. Period.
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So…
Let’s say you established the first two pieces of The Triangle of Temptation (TAT) . (Fun and connection)
How do you move towards sexuality?
1. You need to make a statement of intent.
You have to make it clear that you see her in a sexual way. This could be by saying something as simple as “That perfume you’re wearing is really driving me wild… what is it?”
2. You need to begin touching her and continue to escalate the touch.
3. You need to break rapport.
I talked about this in the small talk tactics report (link).
Don’t let a conversation get hung up on the same topic for too long.
Break rapport by flirting [day 11], teasing [day 12] , or getting direct. You need to bring her back to the moment she is experiencing with you.
4. Use things like “cold reads” to get direct with her
Say things like “When I first met you I was expecting you to be a little dull… but you got a really cool personality… I like that. But the question is…. can you cook?”
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For a more advanced lesson on how to use “cold reading” as a way to escalate things sexually, download this report and watch the video that goes along with it.
Download PDF & Watch Explanation Video
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5. Slow things down
Stop feeling the compulsion to fill dead air. Let the sexual tension build. Get closer to her.
At this point you drop the banter. You drop the teasing. And you amp up the touching.
6. Go in for the kiss
Getting the kiss is very important. In fact, it’s so important that we have an entire lesson on day 24
Escalating is not as hard as you think.
In fact, it’s pretty easy.
Once I figured this out things changed quickly.
And something I figured out.
It’s the “innocent” ones that are the easiest.
Too many guys think “She’s not that type of girl.”
I’m here to tell you SHE IS.
I hereby grant you permission to go for it.
By the way, if you’re a student of the Scrambler, I HIGHLY recommend going through the bonus called “Invisible Escalation” with our friend Chris Anderson. Its BRILLIANT and explains how to escalate effectively on a woman you know or a female friend.
Make it happen!
Bobby Rio
P.S. If you are the type of person that needs to see something in action to get to really “get” it then check this out:
I have a short, step-by-step report called Make Beg You to Bang Her that goes very in depth on this;
Previous Lesson: Day 16
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These articles are great and have helped me step up my game. All the girls in the past who have friend zoned me have noticed a huge difference. I’ve been in a big city on business for a few days and met up with a friend and she took me out to a bar with her other friends. She had 4 really hot girlfriends that were having a great time at this bar dancing and getting freaky. (I got good video footage). By the middle of the night and using the techniques I learned, I was bumping and grinding with all 4 of them at different times of the night and got kisses from 2 of them by the time I was leaving. Now my cute friend that took me there drove me back to my hotel and stated, “wow, you had a good time didn’t you?” “I sure did”, was my reply. I leaned in to give her a hug goodbye and we ended up kissing for several minutes. That had NEVER happened but I think something triggered her into escalating with me because I had a good time with her friends who I only met that night and I’ve known her for a few years. We’re planning to meet up. I have another story about this weekend with another female, but I’ll save it for another time.
You said I must escalate, because she never will. What’s your take on having a sexy young thing ask me if SHE could kiss ME? .. 3 weeks to the day after we started talking… ?
Why’s TAT the acronym for Triangle of Temptation? It should be TOT, right?
Hey Bobby and everyone else! just wanted to say thank you for the wicked advices!… today I finally escalated with the girl I’ve been talking to for the past 2 months!… she kept giving me mixed signals, but like you said before Bobby, girls are hard to read!! We would have awesome moments together where there was definitely flirting and connection but then they would all end with a hug goodbye :/ and after almost giving up you kept me alive in the game! I thought she would definitely friend zone me but I kept the flirting going and the one thought you put in my head “What you bring into the moment that she is experiencing”, making it fun, having an emotional connection, and making sexual jokes/comments to keep the sexual excitement alive. She asked me to come check her new apartment and have a drink today and after a couple of hours talking (I was still kind of doubtful if I should make a move or not) and I just went for it thinking the worse that could happen is she rejecting me but then at least I would know if to move on or not, well she kissed me back and even though we didn’t have sex (believe me I tried) because she seemed to want to wait, I think I accomplished a lot by not settling with someone I dont like and going for that girl I had that big crush on! I dont know what would happen next, she is going on a cruise tomorrow with her parents so I won’t see her for 3 days :/ maybe she will forget about me or maybe she will miss me, I don’t know but at least I escalated things with her already! Lol you can tell Im so happy right now I had to tell you my story!! Thanks again Bobby for the awesome tips!!!
Faint heart never won fair maiden.
The guy as has really cracked it..
You are da man Bobby Rio. But when I click on your links and I see putzes like Craig Miller it makes me think that you took some money to promote this yoyo. I bought The Scrambler because I watched you giving good advice for free for months and will recommend you to my friends. I hope you weed out the numb nuts in the future
great lesson in “snowballed”………never settle…..go after the good stuff…….hell, being rejected would have been better than that by a thousand miles
Hi Bobby, I didn’t receive Day #18, and #19 I believe haven’t received in last 2 days. Could you send them? Cheers
Hi Bobby,
Hi Bobby aka rockstar!
I didn’t get Day #13, 14 and 15.
Even not in my junk mail.
Can you send them to me?
Thanks,
Chico
Hey Bobby, are you able to send me day #16 to my email address? Dont think I received it.
cheers
This is sort of what I was looking for except I wanted a post which dealt with eye contact some more.
Hi Bobby, I was wondering how you escalate with a girl at a place that you can’t get intimate but still want to attract her… Like at a school basketball game. And how far do you “have” to escalate to draw that attraction and form a relationship?
@Trish…what exactly are you doing here…lol…anyway if you say wrong…youre not every woman…that just Trish so be specific and ‘ME’…..
Great day to start doing this… Thanxs
the program is too good
BECAUSE ITS BEEN YEARS I COULD NOT GRADUATE FROM THE FRIEND SHIP LEVEL
lol i did something like this last night at a little birthday party and gote some action 😉
I Jss read your worst story and Lmao Shit I’d wash my mouth out wit bleach
Thanks Bobby your material is the best
Yo Bobby dis is some dope shit man, I got dis hot gal dnt knw hw I dd it bt she is crazy bwt me n nw we dating….. How do i keep her 2 still b crazy bwt me
thank u boss im going for her
Hey can you email me how to go in for the kiss? i have a date on Saturday. will be really cool. thanks for the lessons btw.
am 1 step to success.thank you.
For Trish and all,
Women all say that won’t work when they read about it or hear about it but in the moment if a guy doesn’t escalate the girl feels disrespected. She want to at least have the opportunity to say no and if a guy doesn’t give that chance it makes her feel unattractive and she takes it as an insult.
Hey Brad,
If you cook for them, are you setting yourself up to be ‘the kitchen bitch’ if things progress? I mean I saw a mate cooking for his muse (and all her friends,lol) and it just ‘reeked'(not the food:)) of trying too hard. I reckon he should have ordered pizza and plenty of wine and just enjoyed the night. What’s your take?
I agree with you that some girls want you to take the initiative on the first night. I’m no expert and I normally wait until they kiss me or ask me RU single? RU gonna kiss me?! or give me an outrageous cue.
My live chat with the girl how is it goin on analize it bobby, it can be gud example for all of us to know our mistakes.
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Ankur Lodhi what would you like to be if you get the power a super hero..
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Ankur Lodhi what was your most exciting blond moment.
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Trish… you’re just generalizing.
Some quality women with self respect love it, some don’t. The ones which I’ve got, normally all came across because I got the balls and went for it… and yes, that is something that takes a lot of confidence.
It’s all situational.
A recent one, whom is seriously top notch in intelligence, fun, looks, passionate, goal driven, and connected to… I may have missed the boat because I didn’t try something earlier.
I respect your opinion.
To me… and by most responses… “proper” dates are boring. I’d much rather cook with someone than buy them dinner. You shouldn’t have to buy anyone anything for their attention… would you do that for a guy? That is called self respect for a guy. I love a woman who is independent, mainly financially and emotionally.
Go for it, every time… some will be good, some will be bad.
Regret in life is mainly not doing things you wish you would have had the courage to do so.
“You’ll miss a 100% of the shots you don’t take”.
Also… there is a sign of a sexually mature woman… a woman who doesn’t fall prey to social standards. Someone who can enjoy passion, and sex, with the right man, on her terms… and still have fun.
You can have respect AND passion at the same time…
That’s what I like to hear 🙂
Hey Bobby, this is exclusive material. I met a girl last week at work i just hit the fast-forward button and moved right into flirting, then i escalated and got the kiss instantly and the good news is that last night i banged her. Thank you so much!
Hey bobby,
im from zimbabwe and your material is helping me kill the field this side. Your stuff is the shiznick. Its practical, makes sense and works like a charm.
good stuff
Eric
A girl can always say no or pull away. What a guy can do in this case is to say something like: “You know. You’re right. We really shouldn’t be doing something that would give us so much pleasure.”
Tom Leykis: Dating
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcS66NsI7tI
Wrong if a guy I met while on a night out moved in for a kiss i’d feel he was disrespecting me and he was only after one thing. No matter how much attraction I feel for him he would have to ask me out on a proper date before i’d consider a kiss. Depends on the woman I suppose if your after a good time go for it lol but if you want a real woman with self respect then don’t do it 🙂
I never thought of the idea of escalation being attractive. Gotta try this out when I’m not getting the signs I want right away.