How to Meet Girls on Tinder (Step by Step)
By: Bobby Rio
Let?s face it; you?re not downloading Tinder to learn how to improve your dinner etiquette or how to speak better at a public event.
You?re on Tinder to meet women (or maybe guys, no judgement).
The challenge that so many people face is how to meet women on Tinder effectively. So many guys try it, don?t have any success and immediately quit.
Some even just spend hours swiping right with optimistic hope, never to find any success and this can lead to seriously low times.
Good news friends, there is hope for all of us.
We?ve spent hours diving into research and speaking to both men and women to uncover the truth behind Tinder. We’ll give you the lowdown on exactly what you need to do to not only meet women on Tinder but have them become deeply attracted to you too.
This article will tell you:
At the end of this article, you?ll be equipped with all the knowledge you could need to go out into the world and dominate your Tinder game.
Let?s get started.
Good news for all of the nerds out there who think that attraction is all about the way you look. The law of attraction comes down to a science, and the good thing about science is it can be studied and learnt.
The tips you?ll receive in this article will help you learn to build a connection with women that you speak to on Tinder. This, in turn, makes dating very, very easy!
When you learn how to connect with women, these four things will start to happen.
How many messages does it usually take you to get a number? 10? 20? When you build a strong connection with women, you can easily get a number in under five messages.
Think about your success rate too, how often are you successful? If you speak to 10 women how many times do you get a number?
?could it be as low as 1 out of 10?
You?re missing out if that?s the case because when building a strong connection you can easily be getting 7 out of 10 or even higher if you?re building a connection.
By learning how to build a strong connection, you?ll not only save time in messaging, you?ll have a much higher success rate.
By creating meaningful connections with women, you?re not just going on a date because she thinks you?re an ok guy. It?ll be much more powerful than that.
These women will be deeply attracted and connected to you. She?ll be having the kind of feelings that she tells her friends about over coffee, how she?s finally found a guy she can connect with and she feels that ?spark?.
This level of passion and intimacy may mean that instead of being thrown to the friend-zone, you?re instead fighting off women who want relationships with you, steamy hookups or anything in-between.
Most guys like the end result of dating; you know, when you get the girl, you hook up, or you start dating. But the actual process of going on those dates is the hard part. The searching, meeting and attracting part of the process sucks.
It?s like a battle to get through all of the hard stuff to get to the good stuff.
The amazing part about building a meaningful connection with women is all of that changes, the hard part dissipates, and you can begin to enjoy the fun of dating.
What once felt like a battle, will now feel like an adventure and you?ll feel excited again about going out on dates and finding the next adventure.
When you learn to create strong bonds with women, you?ll start to enjoy the whole process, not just the end result.
Remember that meaningful connections go both ways; you will not only be making the other person feel special and connected, but you?ll have those feelings for yourself. Imagine having an amazing girlfriend to come home to after a bad day at work, wouldn?t that feel great?
Or instead of having a boring weekend at home, going out and hooking up with an adventurous girl will leave you feeling excited and fulfilled. Having a meaningful connection can make you feel happier and more confident every day.
Now you know what a strong connection can do for you, let?s go through the different ways you can use Tinder to develop a strong connection between you and any woman of your choice.
Before you learn to build a connection, you first need to learn how to recognize the opportunity of a conversation. If your profile sucks, you?re probably going to find that you struggle to get good matches in the first place.
So the first step is to upgrade your profile, including your pictures and your bio. This is where it’s important to understand what works on Tinder.
Now you might be thinking, wait how do we know what will work for Tinder? Isn?t it just a guessing game?
Luckily, research has already been conducted and based on 230,000 men and 250,000 women, we have some pretty insightful statistics to help us understand what women really find attractive on Tinder profiles:
Knowing this it?s worth making your profile as attractive as possible, which means including as many pictures as you can.
Pictures are probably the single most important factor to your profile, and knowing which pictures women like more than others can be boiled down to science. Having these three types of pictures in your Tinder profile will give you the best chance of a swipe right, and give you the opportunity to really win them over.
1. A Picture of You Smiling
Sounds simple enough when you put it like that but a candid photo that shows you naturally smiling can be a real head-turner for women. If you look miserable in your photos, you?re probably not going to get many girls swiping right on you.
Tinder?s own sociologist agrees and stated that smiling will give you a 14% higher chance of getting a right swipe and facing the camera directly will increase your odds of a swipe by 20%.
Girls are instantly more attracted to guys who are smiling, so grab your camera. Bonus points if you can catch yourself candidly in natural lighting, you?re much more likely to be received positively.
2. Create a Show Stopping Picture
This will be the picture that blows them away, and it?s also usually the one that you?ll put at the front of your Tinder profile. As it?s the first one that pops up, it?s what the majority of girls will base their decision on.
How do you make a show-stopping picture? Simple:
Girls will always think you?re the least attractive in a group photo, and blurry images might leave them thinking you?re not who you say you are.
3. Outdoor Activities Are Sexy
When you?ve got the wind blowing through your hair from ascending up a ski-lift or you?re diving into a lake from 10m up, it looks a hell of a lot more exciting than sitting in a bar with your buddies. Having a picture on your profile which shows your wild adventurous side shows how exciting and fun you can be.
If you want some “sneaky” pictures, then read this article on the five types of Tinder pictures that make her swipe right.
This can provoke interesting conversations and even inspire an interesting date idea.
An important point to remember about bios is they are completely optional, but you?d be mad not to have one in place. This gives you a place to showcase your personality and character to somebody before they swipe on you.
You can use up to 500 words to advertise your sensational personality but honestly, keep it short and sweet. Nothing turns off a girl quicker than War & Peace about how you?re the biggest lothario since Casanova.
Make your Tinder or dating app bio about you, keep it short, to the point and friendly. Bonus points if you can make it funny but don?t strain trying too hard, it comes across.
Swiping on Tinder has changed a lot over the last few years. Nowadays if you are prepared to shell out a few dollars, you can have some serious advantages over the other men in your area.
One game-changing feature introduced by Tinder in recent times is their new boost feature. Tinder boost is a feature you can use once a week, or you pay for extra uses. This awesome feature puts you directly in the front of the queue and can be a gold mine for matches. The women who are swiping during the time your profile is boosted, will come across your profile first.
This leads to a huge increase in matches in a short space of time. It also gives you a little insight into who?s online right away, and who you want to talk to.
Here are some additional tips on getting more matches.
1. The Girl Who Matches Straight Away, Has Already Swiped You
If an instant match pops up as you are swiping, it means that girl has previously swiped right on you. Chances are, they?re not online right now.
2. The Girl Who Matches You Shortly After Boosting
These girls are active and swiping right now. You’re probably one of the first people they have swiped across and have matched with. Always try and start the conversation straight away with these women.
TIP:? Here is a strategy guide for the four types of girls you will meet on Tinder.
Success! You?ve finally matched with some potential women who are exactly what you?ve been looking for. But, how do you take the next step in building a strong connection with them, so that they want to go on a date with you and see you in person?
Your opening sentence can make or break your Tinder conversation so there are a couple of proven tactics that have had a lot of success on Tinder.
First, here are?the things you shouldn?t do.
What Not to Say in Your Opener
When you?re opening up a conversation on Tinder, there are a couple of important points to remember to make sure you don?t get ignored, or worse, unmatched straight away!
Make sure not to be creepy or lazy, your match is bound to have lots of different men in her profile so you want to stand out. Most of the guys reaching out to these women will start with the tried and proved to fail ?hey? or ?how are you??.
BEST Tinder Conversation Starters
Some of the best Tinder conversation starters available are to ask her a thought-provoking question that requires a response. Think of something along the lines of unconventional compliments, a great name pun, a funny conversation about a future moment you?ll have together or comment on something related to her bio or her pictures.
1. Hey there, this is your future husband. You should go out with me because you get everything in the divorce. I hate you so much.
2. Hi there, and thank you for matching with [insert your name].
Type 1 for: Generic ‘hi, how you doing?’
Type 2 for: Cheesy chat up line.
Type 3 for: GIFIf you have any other options please press 0 to be connected to an operator.You have selected 0, please provide your phone number and we will be in contact as soon as possible.3. Titanic.
Sorry, that was a bad icebreaker. What’s up.4. Are you a bank loan? Because you have my interest.
5. Hey are you an ideal amount of red phosphorus and am I a proportioned tiny wooden stick? Because we’re a match.
If dad jokes and recycled reddit memes don’t manage to grab their attention, you can follow the next step to build a genuine connection fast.
I also recommend reading Luke’s article where he tests various Tinder conversation starters.
When it comes to understanding how to get a match on Tinder, what you have to be aware of is that not everyone has the skills to connect with women right now, and that?s ok.
This part of the guide is going to give you all the tools you need to start growing meaningful and deep connections with women you’ve just met.
The recipe for success is based on focusing on 5 different aspects of your conversation.
1. Future:??Talk about the future of both of you (i.e. going on a date) and do it straight away.
2. Openness:?Encourage honesty and openness so you both feel comfortable.
3. Commonality:?Point out and aim to discover common ground.
4.Unity:?Instead of being individual (you or her) talk about being together (we, us, our).
5. Sharing:?Share experiences, stories, moments and memories with her. Sharing gives a piece of yourself to her and will help her feel more connected to you.
These five separate aspects combine to create the perfect recipe for growing strong, meaningful connections with women, which you can use on Tinder to have her really feeling a strong bond with you.
Now let?s talk about each of these points in more detail to help you to drastically improve the number of women you?ll be connecting with on Tinder, and meeting in real life.
Think about how many Tinder conversations you?ve had that have gone nowhere. The trouble with many conversations is they have no end goal or ?future? planned.
You talk about hobbies, topics you?re interested in, or what you?re up to on the weekend, but after awhile, the conversation runs out, and you?re left with nowhere to go.
What you want to do with any conversation with a woman you?re interested in, is immediately talk about the future.
You want to set the future stage and set a path to exactly where you want to go. You can do this by creating a compelling story about meeting up in the future, i.e. a date.
You can ask a question around a suggestion of a first date such as:
?Jenny, when we go to a cocktail bar on our first date, and we are flirting uncontrollably with each other, do you think we?ll opt for a quiet table in the corner or end up dancing together in front of everybody??
This means you?re not just talking for the sake of it when she responds it?s on the assumption that you?re heading towards that future you laid out.
How to Make Your Future Talk Rejection-Proof
When you are talking about the future date, you need to NOT ask her out on a date, you need to tell a story about your date as if it?s already happened or happening.
You want the story of your first date to build itself.
Remember that you?ll have your own style and humour and don?t want to come across artificial, and you?ll also build the story tailored to the women you?re speaking too. All you need to think about is:
You can make it as playful, as ridiculous, and as full as banter as you like, this will often help! But doing this will have an incredible impact on her. You?re turning the idea of a date from IF or MAYBE into an absolute WHEN.
Doing this sets up some high expectations, she now is expecting to meet up with you and have a great time!
Developing openness in any relationship is an incredible skill that?ll have girls queueing up to date you. How do you define openness?
Think about when you?re chilling around your apartment with your buddies, or chatting over dinner with your family; that?s openness.
The polar opposite of openness is that feeling of tension and awkwardness you get in certain situations.
For example: When you?re in an elevator with a bunch of strangers, nobody wants to speak and you could cut the tension with a knife.
If you can develop the skill to turn the elevator environment into your home environment, it wouldn’t be so awkward. You want to create a sense of openness between you and the women you?re talking to.
What makes openness attractive? By creating an environment that is completely open, honest, authentic, non-judgemental, and trusting environment, people feel comfortable being themselves.
Top Ways to Mess Up Your Tinder Conversation and Create a Bad Atmosphere
Review:? 9 Tinder Mistakes (part 1)
Review:? 9 Tinder Mistakes (part 2)
Top Ways of How to Talk to Women on Tinder and Create an Awesome ?at Home? Atmosphere
Here are some additional tactful Tinder messaging tips.
The golden rule to remember with Tinder is you?re both there for a reason, to match and meet someone.
You?ll see all the time that most girls are attracted to someone that is similar to themselves. It?s the way we work, we like people who are similar to us.
Building a common bond is all about highlighting what you have in common with each other, so you can show her that you are similar.
One technique you can use is to try and be flirty through your tinder conversation:
This highlights commonalities between you and her, but also add?s an element of flirtiness to the conversation.
An Example of Flirty Talk, Tied to Building a Common Bond
Let?s say for example you?ve got a girl who you match with. Her bio mentions rock climbing and has a picture of her on a climbing wall in her picture. It just so happens you?re into climbing too. ?Great! A common bond!
Using the 3 steps above you would say something like:
?Jenny, as toned as your legs look posing in that picture, I have concerns they?re just for show and you?re not going to be able to keep up with me when we?re climbing this weekend?.
You incorporate the common bond and make sure to talk about the future, and the challenge creates a flirty environment that is open and comfortable. A wink emoji can always go a long way to give her the sense you?re flirting too.
When a girl first matches with you, unless you accidentally hooked up at her sister’s wedding, she?s not going to know you. You?ll be a stranger to her.
This means she is seeing you as separate, you and her. You need to get her to see you together, not separate. Now, this kind of bond comes naturally as your conversation progresses, when you talk about anything you are going to naturally become closer and start to build that bond.
However, you don’t want to gently progress to getting closer over time, you want her to be deeply attracted to you right away. This happens when she feels united with you.
When things start to go well in a conversation, you get certain words that crop up in her conversation with you; We/Us/Team/Our/Pair are all words that symbolise unity and tell you she is looking at you, consciously or subconsciously as a bonded unit.
Understanding and spotting the use of these words doesn?t mean you can jump for joy and that you?ve made it, but just being aware of it gives you an advantage. It?s pretty rare for women to use these types of words if she isn?t feeling bonded with you, so it?s a good sign!
One thing you can do to try and accelerate this process is to use these words as much as possible when you?re with someone you want to unite with.
This technique is widely known throughout the world, used by business professionals, pick-up artists and even Barack Obama.
Another technique to build strong bonds is to use nicknames for one another. If you come up with a nickname that reminds you of a situation or event, that can help to build that secret language bond which will build a strong connection between you.
Try not to force this and just be aware of funny conversations and awareness and it?ll help to build a deeper bond.
When you?re building a strong connection with women, sharing isn?t about gifts or rewards, it?s about sharing experiences.
Doing things together like eating, moving, co-creating, learning, losing, conquering, and especially feeling emotion together, are an incredible way to build that bond.
First dates are an amazing chance to start building these bonds. Here are some examples of great Tinder date ideas to share an experience together:
You want to really be giving the gift of how awesome you are to your women. In dating and life, if you can be the person providing perceived value, you?ll be winning.
You want to always be adding value to a women?s life in some way. This will boost your confidence and self-worth while winning her over too.
When you start to think of the ways you can add value, it?s really not too hard. Here are some examples of ways to add value:
The key is to give without expecting anything in return. However, remember, when adding value you don?t want to let someone walk all over you.
You can always try to start off with a compliment, just make sure it?s sincere, unique and deep.?
Now that you’ve got all the information, it’s time to put your new found knowledge to the test and go out and meet some women. Remember that if you can do nothing else, use the skills of future talk to build a shared future with your matches and do everything you can to create a meaningful connection.
If you can do that, you’ll never have to worry about a Tinder date again.
How to Meet Girls on Tinder (Step by Step)
By: Bobby Rio
Let?s face it; you?re not downloading Tinder to learn how to improve your dinner etiquette or how to speak better at a public event.
You?re on Tinder to meet women (or maybe guys, no judgement).
The challenge that so many people face is how to meet women on Tinder effectively. So many guys try it, don?t have any success and immediately quit.
Some even just spend hours swiping right with optimistic hope, never to find any success and this can lead to seriously low times.
Good news friends, there is hope for all of us.
We?ve spent hours diving into research and speaking to both men and women to uncover the truth behind Tinder. We’ll give you the lowdown on exactly what you need to do to not only meet women on Tinder but have them become deeply attracted to you too.
This article will tell you:
At the end of this article, you?ll be equipped with all the knowledge you could need to go out into the world and dominate your Tinder game.
Let?s get started.
Good news for all of the nerds out there who think that attraction is all about the way you look. The law of attraction comes down to a science, and the good thing about science is it can be studied and learnt.
The tips you?ll receive in this article will help you learn to build a connection with women that you speak to on Tinder. This, in turn, makes dating very, very easy!
When you learn how to connect with women, these four things will start to happen.
How many messages does it usually take you to get a number? 10? 20? When you build a strong connection with women, you can easily get a number in under five messages.
Think about your success rate too, how often are you successful? If you speak to 10 women how many times do you get a number?
?could it be as low as 1 out of 10?
You?re missing out if that?s the case because when building a strong connection you can easily be getting 7 out of 10 or even higher if you?re building a connection.
By learning how to build a strong connection, you?ll not only save time in messaging, you?ll have a much higher success rate.
By creating meaningful connections with women, you?re not just going on a date because she thinks you?re an ok guy. It?ll be much more powerful than that.
These women will be deeply attracted and connected to you. She?ll be having the kind of feelings that she tells her friends about over coffee, how she?s finally found a guy she can connect with and she feels that ?spark?.
This level of passion and intimacy may mean that instead of being thrown to the friend-zone, you?re instead fighting off women who want relationships with you, steamy hookups or anything in-between.
Most guys like the end result of dating; you know, when you get the girl, you hook up, or you start dating. But the actual process of going on those dates is the hard part. The searching, meeting and attracting part of the process sucks.
It?s like a battle to get through all of the hard stuff to get to the good stuff.
The amazing part about building a meaningful connection with women is all of that changes, the hard part dissipates, and you can begin to enjoy the fun of dating.
What once felt like a battle, will now feel like an adventure and you?ll feel excited again about going out on dates and finding the next adventure.
When you learn to create strong bonds with women, you?ll start to enjoy the whole process, not just the end result.
Remember that meaningful connections go both ways; you will not only be making the other person feel special and connected, but you?ll have those feelings for yourself. Imagine having an amazing girlfriend to come home to after a bad day at work, wouldn?t that feel great?
Or instead of having a boring weekend at home, going out and hooking up with an adventurous girl will leave you feeling excited and fulfilled. Having a meaningful connection can make you feel happier and more confident every day.
Now you know what a strong connection can do for you, let?s go through the different ways you can use Tinder to develop a strong connection between you and any woman of your choice.
Before you learn to build a connection, you first need to learn how to recognize the opportunity of a conversation. If your profile sucks, you?re probably going to find that you struggle to get good matches in the first place.
So the first step is to upgrade your profile, including your pictures and your bio. This is where it’s important to understand what works on Tinder.
Now you might be thinking, wait how do we know what will work for Tinder? Isn?t it just a guessing game?
Luckily, research has already been conducted and based on 230,000 men and 250,000 women, we have some pretty insightful statistics to help us understand what women really find attractive on Tinder profiles:
Knowing this it?s worth making your profile as attractive as possible, which means including as many pictures as you can.
Pictures are probably the single most important factor to your profile, and knowing which pictures women like more than others can be boiled down to science. Having these three types of pictures in your Tinder profile will give you the best chance of a swipe right, and give you the opportunity to really win them over.
1. A Picture of You Smiling
Sounds simple enough when you put it like that but a candid photo that shows you naturally smiling can be a real head-turner for women. If you look miserable in your photos, you?re probably not going to get many girls swiping right on you.
Tinder?s own sociologist agrees and stated that smiling will give you a 14% higher chance of getting a right swipe and facing the camera directly will increase your odds of a swipe by 20%.
Girls are instantly more attracted to guys who are smiling, so grab your camera. Bonus points if you can catch yourself candidly in natural lighting, you?re much more likely to be received positively.
2. Create a Show Stopping Picture
This will be the picture that blows them away, and it?s also usually the one that you?ll put at the front of your Tinder profile. As it?s the first one that pops up, it?s what the majority of girls will base their decision on.
How do you make a show-stopping picture? Simple:
Girls will always think you?re the least attractive in a group photo, and blurry images might leave them thinking you?re not who you say you are.
3. Outdoor Activities Are Sexy
When you?ve got the wind blowing through your hair from ascending up a ski-lift or you?re diving into a lake from 10m up, it looks a hell of a lot more exciting than sitting in a bar with your buddies. Having a picture on your profile which shows your wild adventurous side shows how exciting and fun you can be.
If you want some “sneaky” pictures, then read this article on the five types of Tinder pictures that make her swipe right.
This can provoke interesting conversations and even inspire an interesting date idea.
An important point to remember about bios is they are completely optional, but you?d be mad not to have one in place. This gives you a place to showcase your personality and character to somebody before they swipe on you.
You can use up to 500 words to advertise your sensational personality but honestly, keep it short and sweet. Nothing turns off a girl quicker than War & Peace about how you?re the biggest lothario since Casanova.
Make your Tinder or dating app bio about you, keep it short, to the point and friendly. Bonus points if you can make it funny but don?t strain trying too hard, it comes across.
Swiping on Tinder has changed a lot over the last few years. Nowadays if you are prepared to shell out a few dollars, you can have some serious advantages over the other men in your area.
One game-changing feature introduced by Tinder in recent times is their new boost feature. Tinder boost is a feature you can use once a week, or you pay for extra uses. This awesome feature puts you directly in the front of the queue and can be a gold mine for matches. The women who are swiping during the time your profile is boosted, will come across your profile first.
This leads to a huge increase in matches in a short space of time. It also gives you a little insight into who?s online right away, and who you want to talk to.
Here are some additional tips on getting more matches.
1. The Girl Who Matches Straight Away, Has Already Swiped You
If an instant match pops up as you are swiping, it means that girl has previously swiped right on you. Chances are, they?re not online right now.
2. The Girl Who Matches You Shortly After Boosting
These girls are active and swiping right now. You’re probably one of the first people they have swiped across and have matched with. Always try and start the conversation straight away with these women.
TIP:? Here is a strategy guide for the four types of girls you will meet on Tinder.
Success! You?ve finally matched with some potential women who are exactly what you?ve been looking for. But, how do you take the next step in building a strong connection with them, so that they want to go on a date with you and see you in person?
Your opening sentence can make or break your Tinder conversation so there are a couple of proven tactics that have had a lot of success on Tinder.
First, here are?the things you shouldn?t do.
What Not to Say in Your Opener
When you?re opening up a conversation on Tinder, there are a couple of important points to remember to make sure you don?t get ignored, or worse, unmatched straight away!
Make sure not to be creepy or lazy, your match is bound to have lots of different men in her profile so you want to stand out. Most of the guys reaching out to these women will start with the tried and proved to fail ?hey? or ?how are you??.
BEST Tinder Conversation Starters
Some of the best Tinder conversation starters available are to ask her a thought-provoking question that requires a response. Think of something along the lines of unconventional compliments, a great name pun, a funny conversation about a future moment you?ll have together or comment on something related to her bio or her pictures.
1. Hey there, this is your future husband. You should go out with me because you get everything in the divorce. I hate you so much.
2. Hi there, and thank you for matching with [insert your name].
Type 1 for: Generic ‘hi, how you doing?’
Type 2 for: Cheesy chat up line.
Type 3 for: GIFIf you have any other options please press 0 to be connected to an operator.You have selected 0, please provide your phone number and we will be in contact as soon as possible.3. Titanic.
Sorry, that was a bad icebreaker. What’s up.4. Are you a bank loan? Because you have my interest.
5. Hey are you an ideal amount of red phosphorus and am I a proportioned tiny wooden stick? Because we’re a match.
If dad jokes and recycled reddit memes don’t manage to grab their attention, you can follow the next step to build a genuine connection fast.
I also recommend reading Luke’s article where he tests various Tinder conversation starters.
When it comes to understanding how to get a match on Tinder, what you have to be aware of is that not everyone has the skills to connect with women right now, and that?s ok.
This part of the guide is going to give you all the tools you need to start growing meaningful and deep connections with women you’ve just met.
The recipe for success is based on focusing on 5 different aspects of your conversation.
1. Future:??Talk about the future of both of you (i.e. going on a date) and do it straight away.
2. Openness:?Encourage honesty and openness so you both feel comfortable.
3. Commonality:?Point out and aim to discover common ground.
4.Unity:?Instead of being individual (you or her) talk about being together (we, us, our).
5. Sharing:?Share experiences, stories, moments and memories with her. Sharing gives a piece of yourself to her and will help her feel more connected to you.
These five separate aspects combine to create the perfect recipe for growing strong, meaningful connections with women, which you can use on Tinder to have her really feeling a strong bond with you.
Now let?s talk about each of these points in more detail to help you to drastically improve the number of women you?ll be connecting with on Tinder, and meeting in real life.
Think about how many Tinder conversations you?ve had that have gone nowhere. The trouble with many conversations is they have no end goal or ?future? planned.
You talk about hobbies, topics you?re interested in, or what you?re up to on the weekend, but after awhile, the conversation runs out, and you?re left with nowhere to go.
What you want to do with any conversation with a woman you?re interested in, is immediately talk about the future.
You want to set the future stage and set a path to exactly where you want to go. You can do this by creating a compelling story about meeting up in the future, i.e. a date.
You can ask a question around a suggestion of a first date such as:
?Jenny, when we go to a cocktail bar on our first date, and we are flirting uncontrollably with each other, do you think we?ll opt for a quiet table in the corner or end up dancing together in front of everybody??
This means you?re not just talking for the sake of it when she responds it?s on the assumption that you?re heading towards that future you laid out.
How to Make Your Future Talk Rejection-Proof
When you are talking about the future date, you need to NOT ask her out on a date, you need to tell a story about your date as if it?s already happened or happening.
You want the story of your first date to build itself.
Remember that you?ll have your own style and humour and don?t want to come across artificial, and you?ll also build the story tailored to the women you?re speaking too. All you need to think about is:
You can make it as playful, as ridiculous, and as full as banter as you like, this will often help! But doing this will have an incredible impact on her. You?re turning the idea of a date from IF or MAYBE into an absolute WHEN.
Doing this sets up some high expectations, she now is expecting to meet up with you and have a great time!
Developing openness in any relationship is an incredible skill that?ll have girls queueing up to date you. How do you define openness?
Think about when you?re chilling around your apartment with your buddies, or chatting over dinner with your family; that?s openness.
The polar opposite of openness is that feeling of tension and awkwardness you get in certain situations.
For example: When you?re in an elevator with a bunch of strangers, nobody wants to speak and you could cut the tension with a knife.
If you can develop the skill to turn the elevator environment into your home environment, it wouldn’t be so awkward. You want to create a sense of openness between you and the women you?re talking to.
What makes openness attractive? By creating an environment that is completely open, honest, authentic, non-judgemental, and trusting environment, people feel comfortable being themselves.
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Top Ways of How to Talk to Women on Tinder and Create an Awesome ?at Home? Atmosphere
Here are some additional tactful Tinder messaging tips.
The golden rule to remember with Tinder is you?re both there for a reason, to match and meet someone.
You?ll see all the time that most girls are attracted to someone that is similar to themselves. It?s the way we work, we like people who are similar to us.
Building a common bond is all about highlighting what you have in common with each other, so you can show her that you are similar.
One technique you can use is to try and be flirty through your tinder conversation:
This highlights commonalities between you and her, but also add?s an element of flirtiness to the conversation.
An Example of Flirty Talk, Tied to Building a Common Bond
Let?s say for example you?ve got a girl who you match with. Her bio mentions rock climbing and has a picture of her on a climbing wall in her picture. It just so happens you?re into climbing too. ?Great! A common bond!
Using the 3 steps above you would say something like:
?Jenny, as toned as your legs look posing in that picture, I have concerns they?re just for show and you?re not going to be able to keep up with me when we?re climbing this weekend?.
You incorporate the common bond and make sure to talk about the future, and the challenge creates a flirty environment that is open and comfortable. A wink emoji can always go a long way to give her the sense you?re flirting too.
When a girl first matches with you, unless you accidentally hooked up at her sister’s wedding, she?s not going to know you. You?ll be a stranger to her.
This means she is seeing you as separate, you and her. You need to get her to see you together, not separate. Now, this kind of bond comes naturally as your conversation progresses, when you talk about anything you are going to naturally become closer and start to build that bond.
However, you don’t want to gently progress to getting closer over time, you want her to be deeply attracted to you right away. This happens when she feels united with you.
When things start to go well in a conversation, you get certain words that crop up in her conversation with you; We/Us/Team/Our/Pair are all words that symbolise unity and tell you she is looking at you, consciously or subconsciously as a bonded unit.
Understanding and spotting the use of these words doesn?t mean you can jump for joy and that you?ve made it, but just being aware of it gives you an advantage. It?s pretty rare for women to use these types of words if she isn?t feeling bonded with you, so it?s a good sign!
One thing you can do to try and accelerate this process is to use these words as much as possible when you?re with someone you want to unite with.
This technique is widely known throughout the world, used by business professionals, pick-up artists and even Barack Obama.
Another technique to build strong bonds is to use nicknames for one another. If you come up with a nickname that reminds you of a situation or event, that can help to build that secret language bond which will build a strong connection between you.
Try not to force this and just be aware of funny conversations and awareness and it?ll help to build a deeper bond.
When you?re building a strong connection with women, sharing isn?t about gifts or rewards, it?s about sharing experiences.
Doing things together like eating, moving, co-creating, learning, losing, conquering, and especially feeling emotion together, are an incredible way to build that bond.
First dates are an amazing chance to start building these bonds. Here are some examples of great Tinder date ideas to share an experience together:
You want to really be giving the gift of how awesome you are to your women. In dating and life, if you can be the person providing perceived value, you?ll be winning.
You want to always be adding value to a women?s life in some way. This will boost your confidence and self-worth while winning her over too.
When you start to think of the ways you can add value, it?s really not too hard. Here are some examples of ways to add value:
The key is to give without expecting anything in return. However, remember, when adding value you don?t want to let someone walk all over you.
You can always try to start off with a compliment, just make sure it?s sincere, unique and deep.?
Now that you’ve got all the information, it’s time to put your new found knowledge to the test and go out and meet some women. Remember that if you can do nothing else, use the skills of future talk to build a shared future with your matches and do everything you can to create a meaningful connection.
If you can do that, you’ll never have to worry about a Tinder date again.
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