How to Become the Center of Attention

We all love being the center of attention, don’t we?

Being Center of Attention by Derek Vitalio

Most men want to know their women are beautiful. Most women want to know their men have worth. Learn how to create social value in yourself, and the ladies will become MUCH more attracted to you even before you display any other seductive traits.

Fame: Whats it good for?

Before dealing with physical strategies, I want to talk for a second about fame.

I know, this really separates me from the rest of the world, but dare to be different I say.

Fame is a major turn-on, for BOTH men and women. Why?

Well, let me tell you, the reasons are ENTIRELY different. For men, fame works if the woman is famous for her BEAUTY. If shes a famous scientist, say, that doesnt count. She has to be a universally recognized knockout. Get together with her, and not only are you the MAN for beating out so many other comers, but you KNOW she gorgeous. Thats what made her famous.

For women, its the social STATUS that comes from being famous. The respect, the dominance ? the fact that you can skip the lines at shows, that you get preferential treatment, that you can show her worlds that regular guys cant ? which is the turn-on. You COULD be a famous politician, ugly as sin, but because you get free tickets to the opera, hey, thats good enough.

That would never work on a man.

These sorts of things are HARDWIRED into us. Exactly what the hunter-gatherers were doing is hard to say for sure, but take a look at monkeys.

Of Alphas and Men

Chimpanzees are fiercely dominant and territorial. Theres one alpha male who gets to have sex with pretty much everyone. All the other males have to stay out of his way, if theyre even allowed to HANG OUT with the group.

Its not unusual for the alpha male to literally squeeze the testicles off of a challenger. Out of respect for the victims, Im foregoing all ball-busting jokes here.

If youre a female chimp, who do you think youre going to wind up going for? The alpha, wholl at least take care of the group, or Mr. Soon-to-be-Castrated, who even if he has sex with you and gets you pregnant, those kidsll just be killed by the alpha when theyre born?

The nature of the chimp selects those having sex with the alpha. Eventually ?with human rationalizing when you get to us ? you go from HAVING to have sex with him to WANTING to.

Nice to know that we humans arent the only screwed-up things on the planet.

That sets the stage.

Of Orgies and Men

But then theres also the bonobo monkey, a lesser-known primate thats almost as close to us as chimps. And these guys play with different rules.

They arent violent, for the most part. They live in a matriarchal society, and there really ISNT an alpha system like elsewhere in nature. Instead, female bonobo have sex in exchange for protection and provisions.

Sometimes bonobo are literally having sex with the males holding bananas in their hands, promising to hand them over once they get their rocks off.

Sound familiar?

So which way are we programmed? Both ways.

Women are turned on by dominant alpha men. It triggers their lust, from all the THOUSANDS of years that women have had sex with dominant men.

And women are also turned on by men who can provide. It triggers their nesting instinct, their need for security and protection and, um, food.

The bonobo have a problem though. When you live in a world where women want monogamy AND its matriarchal AND gives a rational choice to the women about sex, merely showing yourself a provider isnt going to work often.

The bonobo have sex all the time with everyone, so it can work.

Hows it all translate to us?

Humans dont, so you wind up in a courtship that lasts months or years, with a woman who can always choose another provider. You arent triggering her emotion, but her logic, as a bonobo male.

Plus, most women arent walking around hungry for a banana. If only it were that easy.

The chimp alpha system, however, isnt logical. Its primal. Emotional. And the underlying understanding of chimp society is women dont have the choice.

They NEED to have sex with the alpha.

When you get to the complex level of humans, this need becomes ATTRACTION.

Alright, lets bring it home.

If the thousands of years of evolution have conspired to make women attracted to dominant males, how do WE become that?

Aside from castrating others I mean.

CREATE social value in yourself

Believe it or not, the process is pretty simple. And it all starts with relaxed confidence. Remaining playful because youre comfortable in your skin. Secure in yourself.

Outside signs can be created, as well. Become friendly with doormen, get to the point where you can say "Hey Jimmy and walk past the throngs and through the velvet rope at a few clubs.

Get to know maitre-des who can bring you in through the kitchen to a table reserved at a hot hard-to-enter restaurant.

Sound hard to do? Its not ? it just takes a little friendliness to the right people. Become friends with them, and you get the preferential treatment that says youre an alpha.

When youre in a group, remember that YOUR opinion is the one that matters most.

Thats where a lot of people get messed up ? they think the alpha has to be the focal point, because he often is.

THATS not the key, though. Try too hard, and you come off as an insecure attention starved spotlight hog. The point isnt to be the LOUDEST or to say the MOST, but to have the trend-setting opinion, which starts with believing in yourself. And NOT caring if others follow ? they will, but not if they feel you forcing them.

If a scene-stealer comes in and tries to ruin your game, a simple eye roll and relocation ? Lets go get a drink. is MUCH more powerful than entering into a limelight fight. It says youre confident, in control of the situation, AND in a position of power, from which you can communicate This is no fun, lets find something that is.You LEAD. People will follow.

And you dont have to maim a soul.

A LITTLE arrogance can communicate that power as well, much better than some Neanderthal brawl.

So how do you compete with the famous, and trigger the lust that their power does?

Make Your Circle

You create a circle within which YOU are a star. You get the good table and the chef comes to it and makes off-the-menu dishes. The DJ requests a request from you. And your friends reinforce the aura of importance that travels around with you.

If youre starting from scratch, it can take awhile to build a complete circle. Once its there, though, women will respond to it. POWERFULLY.

Theres nothing like being popular to increase popularity.

And the little ball busting you do is of the non-violent, playful variety.

From there, getting to WANT to translate your social value into sexual action is a MUCH simpler step. ACT powerful, and you BECOME powerful. And power on a man is sexy.

If you want to learn more about how to use social value intelligently to attract the women you’ve always desired, check out my latest course, Seduction Science 3.0. It lays out, from start to finish, the entire process of seduction… from meeting a woman all the way to what you have to do to get her to your bedroom.

Enjoy.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio