Don’t forget to be Genuine

There comes a time and a place to step up your game and be the mysterious guy she wants to know about, but you have to know when to slow it down and get genuine. Unfortunately this is a skill that comes with time, experience and knowing how to read women.

If you were never really good with women and then you studied all this pick-up material and got good, this can be one of the downfalls. You have to know when to be real, passionate and direct. In other words, you may need to work on being yourself more!

Dolly from CocksandDolls hits the nail on the head in her article How to not be a PickUp Artist, here is a small excerpt, but you should read the entire article to get the full feel.

This made me realize some of the issues I’ve had with certain PUAs I’ve met. Many are fun and cool guys, but a lot of the time I end up feeling like I’m interacting with a caricature, not a person. There have been moments when I’ve been able to get past the PUA border and talk to the guy about real things, but they have been rare. Once, during a blogger outing, one PUA said I was throwing him off his game because we were discussing serious matters with actual depth (origins of the world, biology versus social programming, etc.). Which I would think would be a nice change from asking a dozen different women,

“Do you think David Bowie is hot?”

Think of openers and little banter games as salt and pepper, with out any substantial food group to go with them, they just leave a bad taste in your mouth.