Not Accepting Rudeness

This probably won’t help your game in the moment, but I want to write about dealing with rude people in bars and clubs.

As you should know I am mostly a day game guy now. I never go out for the express purposes of hitting on girls and only end up in bars and clubs when my friends drag me there.

Which happened last Friday night.

Now because I don’t go out as much anymore I had forgotten how incredibly rude people could be in these places.

There were many examples but the best one came when I was talking to a very cute girl from Chicago and her two friends joined us one guy, one fat girl. The fat girl basically tried to occupy me while the other dude danced with the girl and tried to bring her away from me.

A few years ago I would have tried to “game” the situation by keeping things moving.

Not anymore.

I get laid enough that I don’t give a shit about blowing something to stop asshole behavior.

So instead I said and I loosely quote

“What are you guys doing?”

“I mean clearly I’m talking to this girl and she’s into it so why are you trying to fuck it up? Clearly you’re in the friend zone or she would have said that’s my boyfriend or something else letting me know what’s up. So just because you fucked up and can’t get with this girl what gives you the right to be an asshole here?”

This was followed by some half assed apologizing and me walking away as my friends were leaving anyway. But I started to think about the right “community” way to handle this and it made me realize that a lot of the time the things we sacrifice in order to get women affect our self respect, dignity and overall ideas of what’s right more than we probably need to. Overcoming rudeness to get laid isn’t cool, calling people out for being dicks so that hopefully next time they’ll think twice, that’s awesome.