How To Talk Her Into A Threesome

How To Talk Her Into A Threesome

It is the stuff of every man?s fantasy: sex with two women at once. This can be tough to pull off if you?re in a committed relationship. You love your girl, and you don?t want to do anything to hurt her. You are nevertheless haunted by the recurring image of you, her, and a third party making the beast with three backs.

The process to convince her to do it begins with openness. Casually bring up the topic of sexual fantasies. While doing so, state your own wish to have sex with her and another woman at the same time.

Your girl might be up for it straightaway. The more likely response will be suspicion and jealousy. She will immediately think that you?re after someone else. If she does take the latter attitude, then there is no going back. You must get on with outlining your plan and selling the idea as one that will enliven things in the bedroom.

Here are a few tips for turning your three-way fantasy into a reality:

1. Put her at the center

The best response to her initial insecurity is to make it all about her. Tell her that you love having sex with her and will always be devoted to her. Go on to explain that the thought of her touching another woman and another woman touching her drives you mad with desire. Talk about the fantasy in a way that puts her at the center of it?as though she were the star in a show of her own creation.

2. Promise her full control of the evening

While you?re at it, you must promise that she will have full control over the evening. Although the idea for the story is yours, your girl must feel as though she is the director, producer, and leading actress in this fantasy drama. The other girl must be made to play only a supporting role. If you want her to lez-out, you must allow her to set the boundaries for what she will and won?t do with the other girl. Safe sex during penetration is a must. Other exchanges between you and the third party should be discussed, and you must give your girl the power to veto anything she isn?t comfortable with. Don?t be surprised if she rules out kissing on the lips.

3. Choose a relative stranger

Next comes the difficulty of choosing the second girl. You may be strongly drawn towards one of your girl?s friends. This can work if it is someone she is not particularly close to. But having a threesome with one of your girl?s closest friends is likely to bring unwanted complications. Picking up a random girl in a bar is also not an option. You should choose someone who is known to both of you but is not an intimate. One suggestion is to approach the hot, young bar maid or hostess you?ve had your eye on at the bar or restaurant the two of your frequent. Such a girl is a friendly and inviting face. If there is already an established rapport between the three of you, then it may make things go more smoothly. In fact, in this instance it might be best to let your partner make the approach.

4. Don?t push

Your girl may need some time to get used to the idea of sharing you with someone else. You should not nag or push her to come to a decision. If you do so, she may do it just to get you off her back. But you will do permanent damage to the relationship if the decision is arrived at in that way. You have to make sure that her needs are being met as well. The more comfortable she is with the idea the hotter the experience will be for the both of you.