The Secret of Charm

The Secret of Charm

There is a very simple way to make yourself appealing to women. It?s called charm. I find it remarkable that this practice, which can be cultivated into a natural habit, is so little discussed. Pick-up lines and other ploys to get attention are likely to fail. Why? Because you can?t carry them out without being obvious and looking insincere.

Charm is a different thing all together. It involves subtle and indirect gestures that nevertheless get a woman?s attention and put her at ease. Indeed, this latter is vital to furthering your cause. If she is on her guard, you are not likely to get so much as a smile. When you charm her, you make the situation more relaxing and the entire encounter about her rather than you.

What are acts of charm? Here are a few of them:

• Flattery?there is a difference between gawking and glimpsing, between polite compliments and rude commentary. The former especially is worth mastering. Flashing brief looks in her direction will indicate your interest. It will also show that you find her physically attractive, which is always a welcome feeling to a woman.
• Wit?telling lame jokes will not get you into her heart. And you should at least consider the fact that although your jokes may be funny to your friends, they may not be to her. A display of wit?of using irony and dry humor?is a more reliable way of making a woman laugh. It will also demonstrate your powers of intelligence and observation. And if you can make her laugh, you are half-way home.
• Manners?you should be courteous and respectful of her physical space. Do not break the touch barrier unless you are sure the moment is right. Otherwise, you?ll come across as clumsy; or worse yet, as a man trying to grab a feel.
• Eye contact?this is essential. Don?t stare in another direction while taking to her. Keep your eyes front and center. If she is especially endowed in a particular area, you will be tempted to look there. Resist this impulse.
• Conversation?make it as much about her life and her interests as you can. This shows that you have a genuine interest about who she is as a person. A shy girl will be reluctant to talk about herself. You will have to make an extra effort to get her to do so.

So what ultimately is the secret to charm? What is the guiding principle at work? It can be summed up as the giving of pleasure. Think about the little acts and comments that will please her, that will make her feel good about herself and being with you. If you cultivate his sentiment, you will become a naturally charming man and nearly irresistible to women.