Must-Read: Secrets to Female’s “Alone” Time

Just as anything in life, the only way that you get better at something is through practice. Lots and lots of practice. The thing with sex, though, is that practice isn’t always something that is available to us. Sure, if you’re good at it, you can basically get all of the sex that you want — and even some that you don’t. But if you’re bad at it, well, how do you then become good at it if no one wants to have sex with you?

In other words: How do you get educated about sex? One of the ways is knowing just what females are looking for in their orgasm. And one of the ways we can figure this out is by learning more about how women orgasm when they’re going through their masturbation routines. Yes, they masturbate too. And so today we’re heading over to Men’s Health where they have secrets to how females masturbate. For example, among their tips:

1. She?s quicker without you.

On average, women take longer to orgasm than men do. ?For a woman?s nerve endings to be stimulated and for the blood flow to get down into her genitals, it can take up to 15 or 20 minutes of foreplay,? explains Sadie Allison, Ph.D., author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris: Orgasmic Fingertip Touching Every Woman Craves.

But she might be a lot faster going solo than she is with you in the sack. That could be because she?s more focused on her own pleasure (instead of yours) or because she knows exactly what she wants. ?Many women can be there in 2 to 3 minutes on their own, but will take 10 or more?or can?t get there at all?with a partner,? says sex expert Carlyle Jansen, author of Sex Yourself, a book about women?s masturbation.

So head on over to the above link to check out the other information about the female orgasm, and how it’s accomplished without you there at all, in order to further learn a little more about what you’re doing right, and what you’re doing wrong.