6 Steps to Blow a Good Date

Below is a short article on ways to blow a date. These
are specific things to avoid if you want to seduce a girl.
Like always, I appreciate comments and feedback on all
articles.

There are six common ways that people ruin a good
conversation. You need to be aware of them to ensure you
avoid these common mistakes:

1. Blah, Blah, Blah.

The Blabbermouth is the number one enemy of the good
conversation. The other party soon tunes out. Never letting
the other person get a word in, the word hog just continues
talking.

People who get paid to give talks run the risk of becoming
a blabbermouth. It’s an occupational hazard of becoming a
good speaker, to forget about the listening part of a
conversation.

2. Me, too!

Someone innocently starts a topic. The other person
basically grabs the ball and runs with it. (Or you might
say runs at the mouth with it.) You might mention that you
just saw a great movie. The ‘me, too’ talker will say: “Oh,
really? I saw the new Sci-Fi flick…”

Then ‘me, too’ starts to describe the movie he or she saw,
leaving you high and dry with your conversation starter.
This is something you might expect from time to time from
with a child, but you hope that an adult, with good
conversation skills won’t drive others away with such
annoying behavior.

3. Take My Advice.

At the drop of a hint of a problem, this person is quick to
offer advice. They are like a damn about to burst unless
they can find someone to dispatch their most needed advice
in the world. More men tend to ruin a good conversation
with this bad habit then women. Both men and women do it,
though.

There is nothing more annoying then talking to someone who
suddenly turns into one of your parents. If you have a bad
habit of doing this and are wisely trying to break it, let
the person finish what they were saying. Then you can ask
if they wanted an opinion or just wanted to express
themselves.

Chances are they have probably already thought of a
solution and just needed a sounding board. Don’t offer
advice unless asked for it, is still a good motto.

4. We now interrupt this program, because we are rude.

Interrupting before your conversation partner has had a
chance to finish their thought is annoying. It shows that
you think what you have to say is much more important than
what the other person is saying.

5. Contradiction.

A good conversation doesn’t play the ‘I’m right so you
should be wrong’ game. A better way is to let the person
finish. Then say, ” I have a different view than yours.
I’ll explain…” If you’ve allowed the other person a chance
to explain their viewpoint, they are more likely to listen
to yours.

6. Minimal Contributions Only.

There is a big difference between active listening and
someone who only takes from a conversation, but never
offers anything. It’s hard to trust someone who expects you
to contribute personal information while they sit quietly,
with a minimum of contribution.

Following these pointers will help you be able to carry on
effective and interesting small talk conversations. You can
avoid those strange periods of silence where you never
quite know what to say.

You will also be able to make the other person feel good
about your conversation. Small talk can be a good time. You
just have to know the right way to do it.

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