Day #5: How to be “Wanted” by Women
In the sixth grade I copied the lyrics to “Sweet Child of Mine” onto a piece of paper. And in a moment of quiet desperation, I handed them to Kristen Tutor.
(Classic “Nice Guy” Behavior)
Back then my little 11 year old ass was hopelessly in love with her.
I handed her the note.
I watched as she read it.
She smiled.
Told me it was the “nicest” thing any guy ever did for her.
And then later that night she let Anthony Scarpuzzi get to second base with her.
Had his grubby hands all over those little titties.
My heart was crushed…
But I learned a valuable lesson that day…
Unfortunately I was too young to realize it.
Flowers, poems, songs, mix-tapes, bottles of perfume, teddy bears, pajama grams, and any other sort of confession of love do nothing to make a girl want you.
In fact they do the opposite.
In most case they reek of desperation.
And they scare her into the arms of the Anthony Scarpuzzi’s of the world.
Yesterday I recommend that you “WAKE UP” and realize that everything you think you know about women….
It’s probably wrong.
Especially if you learned it from television, movies, your parents, or listening to what women SAY they want.
Let me tell you right now…
What women SAY they want is usually the complete opposite of what they really want.
Even back in the sixth grade that was the case.
Out on the playground during recess I used to sit and listen to Kristen Tutor talk.
She talked about how much of a jerk Anthony Scarpuzzi was.
…How he flirted with all the other girls
…How he paid her no attention…
She told me she hated him.
And she probably wasn’t lying. She probably hated all those things about him.
But girls also tend to be attracted to the same things they hate about a guy.
Read that again, it’s and it’s worth writing down: Girls also tend to be attracted to the same things they hate about a guy.
And they tend to be repulsed by the same things they swear they want.
————————Golden Nugget—————————
Stop trying to show girls that you are nothing like her ex-boyfriend. No matter how much she bitches about him. No matter how much she claims to hate him. He is is an exact BLUEPRINT of what kind of guy she is attracted to. You want to know how to get her? Do what he did.
———————–/Golden Nugget—————————
Today I want to give you a little shortcut.
Women have “make up my mind for me syndrome.”
Most of them don’t trust their own judgement.
Probably because for years expensive advertising campaigns has been telling them what $400 purse to buy. What shoes are in high fashion. What shampoo to use.
There ain’t no advertising campaigns telling them what guy to like.
So they get a little confused.
And they start to look around and see what the crowd is doing.
The crowd likes Anthony Scarpuzzi? Guess that’s who I’m supposed to like.
Little Bobby Rio is alone. Writing me poems. Seems pretty eager. Crowd must not like him. Guess I shouldn’t.
…Damn you Kristen Tutor.
Lost my train of thought there for a second…
Here’s my point.
We want any advantage we can have right? Anything that makes it EASIER for us? Correct?
So if you want a girl to want you. Then make her think that you’re in high demand.
That other girls want you.
A girl sees an attractive girl walking around in a pair of Gucci boots. Girl suddenly wants Gucci boots.
I have this strategy I call “Crowd Control”.
Basically a few simple things you can do to control the way a woman perceives you.
Tomorrow I’m gonna share a few of my favorite “Crowd control” strategies with you.
In the meantime, I want you to take out a piece of paper.
Grab a pen.
And write this down:
“I will never confess my feelings to a girl unless I’ve been sleeping with her for at least one month.”
Declarations of love NEVER work.
Never.
Bonus Video: #1 Way to Make a Girl FIGHT for your Attention
Bobby Rio
P.S. I got a little ‘sick’. Stalked out Anthony Scarpuzzi on Facebook. He’s married to a fat wife. He looks miserable. Probably working a job he hates.
Chalk up a win for the good guys!
P.P.S. I also got a little sick and stalked out Kristen Tutor. She’s still pretty cute. But her titties haven’t grown much since the sixth grade.
My girl blows her away.
I win 🙂
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Hey Bobby, I couldn’t help but notice several guys have left comments about confessing thier feelings to a girl after dating her for a month, and then complaining that you gave them bad advise. I am not sure why you haven’t responded to them, so if you don’t mind, allow me….. it appears those of you who are complaining about this were not paying close enough attention to what you were reading and you missed the most important part. What Bobby said was not to confess your feelings to a girl until you have been dating “AND SLEEPING” with her for at least a month. If you have been dating the girl for a month and and only slept with her once, “DON’T CONFESS”. Now bobby didn’t say how many times you should sleep with her during that month, but I can guarantee that once is not enough. Now Bobby might tell you different, but I would venture to say that it should be at least 4 times! So you guys, don’t blame Bobby for your stupid ass mistake.
Guys, what ever i paid for you, this video paid back, these are the three mistakes i was making all these years and also i know i was making these 3, now u conformed it.. i lost really beautiful and upscale 10 out of 10 women of any mens dream girl friend or wife at least 15 of them…
Is there any situation you can give flower to girl?
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I’ve been with my ex for one and half year, she was always telling me how much she likes and wants flowers and tried to persuade me to give her more of them. I had always told her that she probably don’t know she don’t want them, but no effect :D.
But, I also thought that there have to be time you wanna give flower to girl in long term relationship. I did that on birthdays or one time totally random and I always try do to it somehow in special way.
The reaction was always the same, the time I gave her the flower, she didn’t show much of happiness. But later on when she tell it to her friend and the friend told her how amazing it has to be to get flower in such a way, she then somehow showed me it was actually nice and how much she likes me because of that.
So I still don’t know how much to give flowers to girl. I’ve heard tons of time girl telling me how her friend got wonderful flowers and how nice it was. I also heard girl melting on how she had got flowers on every initials dates with his current boyfriend.
So how to manage then this flower giving in a right way?
Thanks Rio, This stuff is simple but awesome… now it makes complete sense.
Is there anyway to turn things around if you screwed up and have confessed your feelings and blew it. Is there any recovery method to get you on the right track if you really like a girl.
Cheers Rio
Ok, reality check.
I moved from Colorado to California last year. Fresh start. Everything Bobby says checks out. Since I’ve come here, I have dated (more than once) exactly 11 women. All of them desirable. Eight of them, I treated like ladies. I was nice, consistent, flattering. Johnny on the spot. Every one of them dumped me. Seven of them gave me the EXACT same friend zone rap. 1) “I’ve enjoyed our time together.” 2) “You’re a swell guy.” 3) “I see you only as a friend.” One of the eight HATES me. The other three, for one reason or another, I treated poorly. I wasn’t flattering, flaked out on them, inconsistent, never talked about my feelings. They ALL three are actively stalking me today. Begging me to come see them. Sending me presents (two of them). To my eternal shame, I even mocked one of them. She’s the most persistent.
You look at photographs of these women, you can’t tell the eight from the three. Same with their resumes. The only difference is how I treated them.
Everything we’re being taught here is pure gold. I’m here to learn to control my behavior so it works out for me and whomever I’m dating. Responsibly.
The P.S. was my Favorite part, It made me feel Good. I’ve done the same with past girls I had a crush on, looking them up on Facebook and Twitter, and I got the same results, Only All of these girls look terrible. It makes me more mad at myself that I let all of these girls hurt me, and I kept my feelings for all of them bottled up inside me, Now realizing that I wouldn’t want to be with any of them today. I wish I hadn’t held onto these feelings for long. Now understanding Your teachings of the Scrambler, I now know that All that I’ve been doing was wrong and not worth the effort. The less effort, the better the results. Thank you Bobby Rio!
My initial reaction is that some of these (clearly powerful and valuable) techniques kind of turn me off, like actually make me less attracted to women and more disgusted. That disappointed way you might feel if you suddenly discovered you were having sex with a robot without a personality or life of its own. Has anybody else had that type of reaction at first?
I think they’re great techniques, though. I just have to wrap my mind around some of the “drug dealer” and “playing dirty” parts, because I feel guilty for using them. And guilt gives me a limp dick. If by the end of this program I can genuinely feel that every one of these techniques I was using for her benefit, out of a real act of kindness (which is who I see myself to be) – not to string her along – but to leave her far better than I found her, I’d consider this program a real milestone in my development.
I had this gorgeous (shes probably a 9 or 10) 24yo girl infatuated with me – I’m 33 and successful but just divorced. I met her at the end of September and we dated through mid-December. She had me meet her parents, told me repeatedly how much she liked me and she went on trips to Haiti and the Bahamas with me and then dumped me cold right before New Years after I confessed I was “falling” for her. I think 1 month is not nearly enough time before confessing feelings Bobby! “Once a girl figures you out, she has you and you can’t have her.” I think that really hits the nail on the head. I’d love to meet you in person Bobby. Thanks.
I recently made the same mistake by revealing my feelings for a woman I’ve known for years cos she looked ill. Turns out she’s a total cock tease and has gone quiet on me now.
Here’s my 2 cents from some of the comments I’ve seen posted here. It’s best to stay away from married women who are messing around behind their husbands’ backs! Think about it the other way around. If they are cheating on him, what makes you think they would act any different once they’re in a new relationship?
I agree with Rodger’s post. This crap you post is so lame. You don’t respect women and it shows in every newsletter. Women want respect more than anything. Yeah, if you just want get laid one time, be hard to get. If you want a real relationship, like adults do, treat her with respect and be someone who can protect and provide for her.
Most millennial guys today couldn’t protect themselves, let alone a woman. That’s why twenty-somethings don’t get the girl.
Any girl who would fall for your line of BS just isn’t worth having.
I just confessed to the girl I work with (she is 12 yrs younger to me)that I am attracted to her and she responded that she looks up to me as an elder brother. (I confessed because she was flirting with a handsome young guy a work and I got jealous and anxious 🙁
I said then I have to distance from her as I have feelings for her, she said she can understand this however wants to keep in touch as she has learnt a lot from me and in future could use my advice. 🙁
I feel its over.. she has made it clear and set strong boundary..
I’m hearing a lot of talk and reading a lot of stories. But nothing of any real value. You took $80some from me for what? In your videos there are no examples. VERY DISSAPOINTED and feeling robbed.
Sup!!!!! I just wanted to let everyone know now thanks to technology, I am required to be a registered sex offender and change my photo every year. I shouldn’t of had sex with that 13 year old boy on my 19th birthday smmfh
Read a few comments before writing mine, I find out many did my mistake (confessing my feelings to early). And have the same cuestion, do I still have a chance?
thanks for the insight look. life is going to look much nicer.
They bait you into this. Yup, I fell for the bait on the last one. Usually I don’t, but this one was playing the game on me. Serious game. Do not tell them how you feel about them aside from mindless clues that they have to think, does he or does he not. The flower pedal game girls play. Learning tons here, thanks Bobby
Bobby I made the mistake of spilling my guts to a girl I absolutely fell in love with
Can this be fixed
Love this advice! I’ve had this experience myself and yes, years later, the girl who crushed me doesn’t look so hot anymore. No more Mr. Nice Guy!
“I will never confess my feelings to a girl unless I’ve been dating her for at least one month.”
OH, like many other guys i see now that it is the most important lesson. Also me learned it too late. Why I don’t know about it 1 mth ago?
But what I can do now? How to deal with girl after you did such mistake and confess her what you feel?
So, many guys did this mistake. Hope you have some solution? But other than find new girl 🙂 ’cause I wanna this one.
By the way, a Baby Boy is actually a unrepentant Bad Ass Man. Then again,you already know this Bobby Rio. Thanks for today’s lesson man.
Whenever I was in demand, popular or successful with women it was because they liked, loved, or wanted me more than I wanted them I.e. being a Bad Boy. But whenever I started acting like an emotionally honest and sensitive guy I.e. a Good Boy, I got dumped faster than a load hot and smelly horse shit lol! Therefore I’m back to being the consumate ice man with any and all new females I meet. And thinking to dial it down, with all the other women I know, simply because my Baby Boy mindset has returned stronger than ever before.
Will your teaching work on married girls? Or is this just for the young and full of cum guys?
Ah, damn Bobby!
“I will never confess my feelings to a girl unless I’ve been dating her for at least one month.”
Wish someone’d told me this months ago….arrrrgh!
This was my “ah-ha!” moment…
“I will never confess my feelings to a girl unless I’ve been dating her for at least one month.”
Wish I had someone tell me this years ago.
Thanks
There is a fine line between a girl digging you and thinking you are just another guy….. One month into a relationship and if you think you can open up think again…..they either are crazy about you or their not….no matter what you say or don’t say. I say keep them guessing because they will do it to you no matter how long you are with them. Nice guys finish way last so live itch an edge and keep them guessing.
“Stop trying to show girls that you are nothing like her ex-boyfriend. No matter how much she bitches about him. No matter how much she claims to hate him. He is is an exact BLUEPRINT of what kind of guy she is attracted to. You want to know how to get her? Do what he did.”
Ouch… 😉
Lol life’s good
Like…..Had a similar experience…I got the girl that I wanted and 30 years later My wife left me. The girl that I put down was into me and I made the trade off for my ex…I lost tract of the other woman until last year and read her obit on the internet. Now I must start over with a new page. What an opportunity at 77. The fat lady has not sung but gave me a hug the other day….Blessed
All this applies to every type of women, high maintenance, innocent, etc. stereotypes. I get attention, but I need to date. Scale is mixed signals from just obvious.
Is she flirting or turned on? How to decipher each one. A coworker was biting her lip while I was talking to her… again, horny or friendly, testing me! No touching, just making comments, suggestive behavior…once or twice accidentally bumping, held me from falling… grabbed her wrist
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W? Bobby
So true about women wanting you more when they know that other women want you too.
One night I was banging this really awesomely GILF, something about older women makes it it tick for me… must be the experience
;-P
and as we are getting at it, she looks at me and asks how come sucheck an awesome hot guy hooking up with her and not with some young hotties????
I give her a smirk, stay silent for a few seconds, LET the tension build up, then lean in and kiss her. Then when I pull away from the kiss I ask her: ” what makes you think I don’t? ” with a smirk on my face still on.
She smiled, turned around and kept on riding that pole. 😀
THE END of my HAPPY ending…
Great stuff Bobbie Now it makes sense
good stuff, Bobby……..i learned that back in high school (i’m 56 now)……..and i used it a hundred times on freshmen and sophomore girls…..(the junior- senior girls i had already been through)……….i’m still using it today, online, believe it or not……….having a ball……..great newsletters…..keep ’em coming…………kelley
I have a girl coming over mine tonight she is girl I would have always thought out of my league but on our first date I followed all your advice and even though it was my first attempt and I did struggle it worked! I think the most important thing I picked up was not being logical but attempting to understand her on our second date I did not even have to make the move she said that I really understand her and before I knew was all over me! Good times 🙂
Hey bro, I just experienced the exact same thing. Had 3 really good dates with this girl, with the last date even had her calling me her boyfriend out in public bar. Then i didnt see her for a few week over summer and now no response after i texted her once. Did you get any advice?
AH haha! Atta boy Bobby. I’ve Just been eating up the material and having a blast. I’ll have some stories for you real soon 😉
Hi Bobby – I never received Lessons for days #3 and #4. Can you forward please?
Hey Bobby, I have done this as well, though I had a little more luck than rejection. But here is something else to keep in mind; even if they do get with you, you have become the nice guy who will do and get them whatever they want. So I can say in experience that its all about balance leaning a little bit more to the bad boy side.
Hi Bobby, yes I was one of those fools and realized just how much money I’ve wasted on gifts for women with little in return. I think sometimes that they think that they have a “money box” or “sausage wallet” between their legs.
I had 4 intense dates with this girl love vomited after the third she disappeared after the fourth. No response at all. Any chance of undoing this and getting her back into me. First “poof” disappearance I ever had not sure what to do. I have not tried to contact her in a month and nothing from her.
This info is great I want to keep reading every emails from u thanks bobby!
I don’t get why we have day 5 it talk about crow control but you have wait til tomarrow to read I just reading the story then
Bobby this is so true! Wish I had this info two months ago. I was in love with my friend I’ve known for 16 yrs she recently became single after a bad relationship. I made the mistake of trying to make her happy & the worst, telling her how I felt about her & being nice to her. I should had treated her like I did the women I had sex with but not wanting a relationship with. I couldn’t keep them other women away. Being to much of a “nice guy” & tell her how I felt totally killed any chance I had even though we had a little foreplay & kissed for two nights. She slowly quit texting, or responding to my texts Treat them like you don’t care & you can’t keep them away from you.
Bobby this is so true! Wish I had this info two months ago. I was in love with my friend I’ve known for 16 yrs she recently became single after a bad relationship. I made the mistake of trying to make her happy & the worst, telling her how I felt about her & being nice to her. I should had treated her like I did the women I had sex with but not wanting a relationship with. I couldn’t keep them other women away. Being to much of a “nice guy” & tell her how I felt totally killed any chance I had even though we had a little foreplay & kissed for two nights. Treat them like you don’t care & you can’t keep them away from you.
Loved that letter!
Could really relate to your finale – as they say – “watch quietly by the river, as the dead body of your rival is floating”… revenge is indeed best served cold 🙂
About your task for today – that’s a rather tough one to swallow, of course – but I can see how I blew chances, not only related to women and sexuality, by violating that one.
I suppose that there would be some exceptions, though – probably you could allow yourself a bit of leeway when it’s somebody you really like, and she tells you on the third or fourth date about how she feels (of course, you went to bed the first or the second time, goes without saying)
Preach Preacher
This is good shit. I want to see this in my email EVERY DAY until I’m cured!
What’s up Bobby
Yo I wish I read this 4 months ago I think I blew it with this girl I expressed my feelings for, I texted her how I felt and the response was good at first but after one date (A great date at that) we kind of fell off and I think its cause she knew she had me in the bag. I stopped texting her because I felt like I was wasting my time, what do you think I should do?
H Bob, there’s this women where I work,she’s a babe and married to a
guy with a few extra pounds on him…can you give me a few tips on how
I can get her.
I am having trouble drawing the line between making a statement of sexual interest and confessing your feelings for a girl. I know it is a good idea to let the cat out of the bag as soon as possible, and a way I thought would be good is to actually say to a girl, something like “I think you are really cute, let’s go out sometime”. Would you consider this as a confession of feelings? I am not saying, “I feel like we are getting closer everyday” or anything like that, but how do you draw the line between letting a girl know you are attracted to her, which is good to my knowledge, and confessing your feelings too early, which is bad?
boy i have been fucking up…thanks man…i see what you mean…
good to hear man!
ALL girls are the same in terms of how to deal with them.
hi boby what about a lady in who is a college mate
It seems incredible that reading and studying your advise I finally got it. My present wife made a play for me and I fell for her seducing me. I was mister good guy. This is story of my life. Missed flagrant opportunities of women coming on to me.
I was flattered that a much younger woman would openly flirt with me. We had a hot and heated affair for almost a year. My first wife found out and was destroyed.
She died of brain cancer( I did take care of her) but I think it was a broken heart. My GF at that time told me I don’t know how to seduce women. I was a member
of a large group. Reading all the comments I am happy to see that many young men are getting it. Today, I am miserable with a wife that is frigid and I haven’t had sex since Valentine’s Day. She now has lung cancer so it tough pulling out but I have gone out with other woman as Mr Nice Guy. No sex. Thanks for everything and you better believe I am following everything you write.
Excellent info, kind of complement what I was thinking “without thinking” 😀 and that P. P. S. is epic!
I agree with Stephen, too much being a jerk, badboy or someone your not is a big turn off in my experience. There has to be some mix without you seeming like a phony. Also if she left her previous Bad Boy ex because she said he slapped her around and put her down I still don’t see how that is going to make her want to be with me.
Hi Bobby!
I need thank you for taking the time and effort to share your knowledge on this topic.
There is this girl I’ve been in love with for years; I’ll call her DD. She’s 18 and I am 24 now. I’ve been playing the role of the best friend for too long and didn’t get what I wanted. I had already found out before DD that confessing never got me what I wanted, so I never gave in to the urge to tell her. Plus the fact that she’s younger and might freak out over the matter.
Have you any suggestions on how to reel her in? Are there reports on this matter?
It’s so true that being nice doesn’t makes you unattractive to women. They claim they want nice guys but do the opposite of what they say. But being an asshole doesn’t work either. it is a turnoff if you try to be an asshole on purpose. I suppose it could work if you say to a girl that you are an asshole and you are taking classes for it. Making a joke about why she should stay away from you. But there has to be some push and pull. Not all push but not all pull.
Hmm….Bobby Rio…..Thanks a bunch…..This deep insight is a spiritual key you have placed in my hands to open the door to the treasure I desire “Women”…..Having read all these, this is my understanding, there are some things if you are not shown you may never see it and there are others if you are not taught you may never get it…….In conclusion….there are some things that seem right, but in the end they are dead wrong…In the case of women…This is the truth.
My take on it is that there is a difference between a woman hating a guy and not liking a guy.
Just something I need to have cleared up for my own mind.
I’ve always thought that woman don’t trust themselves. They always look to their friends and family for advise instead of trusting themselves.
How can I find out what a woman’s ex. boyfriend was like and did so I can do the same. Sounds like the perfect plan.
Hey, Bobby ! Thanks for Your advice!!
I’m blown away by the advice given here…. And how it ACTUALLY WORKS, makes zero sense, but it works… I stumble sometimes and go off script, and I pay for it every time, girls are truly strange creatures.
Emergency! Hey bobby,need help!
I am the posterguy for the mr nice guy, the guy that can’t talk to
women,can’t get women to be attracted to me to save my life guy.
However I managed to meet this girl on a dating site. We talked back
and forth a little and we decided to meet. I thought wow this is great.
we were going to meet for something to eat (I know now not the best idea) and then go out dancing. So we meet and have something to eat
and then she says shes tired and some lame excuse about not finding anyone to take care of her dog so she has to go home. she has not answered my text, phone, email since. I guess I blew it being mr nice
guy and agreeable and showing her I liked her, and not creating attraction and every other mistake anyone could possibly make.
Problem is I really want a chance with this girl.
Can you please help me create some attraction from her towards me ?
She is going away for Xmas,wanted to take her once before then so don’t have much time ,only this weekend.
Please Help
First of all, thanks Bobby for your great work!
I live in the Los Angeles area, and would like to know if there are any guys that would like to go out with me to clubs and bars together to pick up chicks; we can get a chance to practice and learn from each other, and also, in a group, we keep the energy up!
let me know, my email is capi562@gmail.com
good luck to all
Why is my name even mentioned here?? I haven’t been with a woman since I moved out of avenel. I don’t even like women anymore. I’m curious who did this article.
Bobby my name is Hector and I’ve been stuck in the friend zone for over a year now …we do so many things together we go out all the time , met her whole family get along with all of them very well give many gifts , share many things asked her out three times and all I got was I realy value our friendship…thats all,,,I am not a quiter…need your guidence or please use me as an example to your method to let every one know it works,,especialy me..muchas gracias,,,
Hi Bobby first I want to thank you for those helpful advice Thankyou .. Now my big question, I have notice theres is advice on how to text a girl and what to do and not do, now am a really busy guy I dont have much time to go out and meet people outside my question is there any advice on how to approach a girl in a social network website How to start a conversation, how to stand out of the crow etc. I know theres a bunch of advise opn how to talk to a girl, how to approach even how to text, What about, what to say when approaching a girl online? Thanks for your time Bobby 🙂
Bibmaj, When you told her you liked her, you made it too easy for her. Give her a challenge. I will tell you how I picked up a ten in a bar one night. I saw her, approached her, and started a conversation with her. If I remember correctly my opener was talking about rock bands from the 80’s that were playing. She then gave me the speech, I just got out of a long term relationship, and I am not looking for another one right now. This is what I did next: I leaned backed further, looked her in the eye, extended my hand, and as I shook her hand, I said this to her. Cool, let’s just be friends. She said ok. I disarmed her. I then talked to her a little bit more, then left and went back to my friends. The I would get up every now and then and talk to her. Then later on, I looked over at her, and said the party is over hear, come on over. And she did. Long story short, I was playing with her ass as I was making out with her later. Got her number, email addy. Heck If I was trying to go for a beer, she would get up and get it for me. I remember running out of smokes, I told her I would be right back. She looked at me, and said no way, your staying with me, you can smoke my cigs, and if we run out, I will go get more for you. My friends kept asking me all night, how I scored her? LOl. So woman will give you some kind of excuse, to see how strong of a man you are. Just brush it off. I never introduced myself until the end of the night. I was know as babes to her all the night. Guys just do something different, get her to work for you. It’s killer. You don’t have to be a badboy. To get the girl. Just show confidence, and not be a push over. Remember, act like you don’t care what she says, just let it bounce off of you. Question? What separates you from the rest of the 100 guys who approached her? Think about that? Dude Here is what you do to score that girl. Number one: tell her it’s so great being good friends. If she agrees with you, then you tell her this, wow your being so agreeable, almost like we we are an item. She will say no way. You just look her in her eyes, and say to her, yeah your right, we could never have a physical relationship, and then touch her, and push her away playfully. Then you tell her, I want to tell you a romantic story about two lovers, then as you tell her the story, you insert words, like penetrate, inside, warm, wet, sexually get her aroused. Then when you see her eyes go glossy, then grab her and then slowly go in for the kiss, just stop just before you touch her lips. If you have done it correctly, she will kiss you. Remember anticipation is killer for woman. Have fun. Enjoy your friend into lover. Watch it happen. OH yeah enjoy getting laid too. You will.
Joe
Hey, Bobby ! Thanks for Your brillaint advice ! And for opening my eyes to what goes inside a female’s brain ? 😉
How dare you, Bobby?!?! This is my private life. And I’m not miserable. I’m a great guy, and my wife is not fat. She is just pregnant caring triples. I’m happy and I work a wonderful job – I’m a janitor in a school. Hell yeah!
Actually I’m not Anthony. I’m just trollin’. 😉
Good post, man. I used to be a nice guy, but now I’m reading your articles and I’m finally letting it (the nice guy attitude) go. But I won’t become mean, or something… Just more attractive. 🙂
Tnx
Had something going pretty good on one of the dating sites, had a babe that wanted to meet for NSA sex, then apparently I blew it when something she’d written got me fantasizing and inspired and I wrote a song and sent her the lyrics. She hasn’t written since… hard to keep the “nice guy” stuff inside when it wants to come out… so, having the one month rule certainly helps.
But I’ve got a question, Bobby, cause I’ve seen it mentioned more than once in some promotional materials you’ve got out there but have yet to find anything actually covered in the materials I’ve gone through so far – what can you say to get her interest again, to get back in the game once you’ve blown it like this…?
I’d really love to know the answer to this… Thx…
This is soooooooooooo true. I dated a girl for a few months, everything going great, great sex, great “chemistry”, everything, so I started growing feelings, real feelings for her. The secong I let her know I want more than just sex she became stone cold. Almost like I have insulted her or something. Not answering texts messages, phone calls, she barely answered an e-mail I sent her basically asking wtf was wrong. But they never tell you, just walk away. I thought she was a cold hearted bitch (and perhaps she is), but now little by little everything kind of starts making sense. She liked me but I murdered attraction when I confessed my feelings to her. And truth is that I know for a fact that when we met she was pretty sure I was sleeping with other girls too, which didn’t stop her from sleeping with me too. It’s odd but a woman will want you IF other women want you as well. Thinking as a girl gives me a headeache 😀 Keep up the good work Bobby! Guys need to be aware of this. They’re not cold earted bitches (mostly). Just women
Bobby, you BIG stalker!!! lol…Ahh but Facebook…..brings out the stalker in all of us! But it sounds like Kristen Tutor really WAS your Tutor. Girls are insane huh.
Thank you for all the lesson Bobby..
It’s very insightful..
Great explanation… cant wait to get the rest…
Bob i agree with you a 100% on this…..i have the same problem when i was a little boy going to school….and i have the same problem today,and i was wondering why that was.Now i know…by read what you said.I going to be a pro in the near future…thank to you.I look each day from i started to read what you have to say.
hey rio i like teachings… i am learning alot of things that a clearing up some questions in my head about women…. however my problem is a little complicated don’t know how much help or advise u can give to me on dealing with it… but where it comes to women i have no fear in approaching any i can do so i even get them to meet me and if possible we hit it even on our first date how ever in my case i seem to grab the interest of the wrong women most of the time where by i don’t really like them even though they are very attractive and good looking some of them are also women that already have their main guy but still after me. But the woman that i really love and want to settle down with that is where my problem lies cause she much more a challenge where it comes for me i can get her out anytime i like or want a date with her she don’t refuse me or turn me down i can do anything with her she don’t mind but to be in a relationship with me she just refuse to cause i am 9 years younger than her and she feels a way to settle down with me cause i’m younger than her and we are from different religion so she kind of have me in a friend zone at this point and time for about 5 years now but we still see each other we still go out on dates and so on but i just can’t get her to be in a relationship with me and we both have each other in our life we spend most of our life and time with each other other than the few one night stands i hit sometime when she is not around i need your help to get pass this barrier with her about this age problem and religion and get her to go full into the a relationship with me cause she the only girl i feel comfortable with spending the rest of my life with really so Rio please help out here?
Bobby, good point about the Gucci boots and the $400 purse. It is incredible that a woman will want these things even when there is not any practical advantage to them. And I think men have no comprehension of what is going on in a woman’s mind that makes her so greatly desire these things.
I’m still trying to get this point. There are women who don’t want the Gucci boots, right? But I am not sure. Do we want a woman who distinguishes between men as she does boots? Perhaps we have no choice because all women are this way. Damn, this is confusing.
hey bob theres this woman i like but i dont know what to do,should i be a jerk like u said or be a funny guy like i have been doing? shes a nurse to but damn she hottt
This shit cracks me up. “Her titties haven’t grown much since sixth grade.” Hahaha gold.
Yeah, I had two painful episodes like this in elementary school, although I was spared knowing who ended up pawing her little titties! lol! First time was in like first grade. I bought some cheap little ring at the “dime store,” and gave it to the cute little girl I had a crush on. It’s been so long I don’t really remember the details, but I do remember the pain, humiliation and embarassment of the whole thing. Fast forward to about 4-5 years later, I “professed my feelings/love” for this cute blonde who I always believed was “shy.” Once again, I was rejected (I seem to recall her laughing at me!), and experienced the same “punch in the gut,” and probably worse than the first time! I later found out that this girl real popular with the guys, if you get the drift! Not saying she was a slut, but she started dressing, looking and acting slutty, just not with ME! I had to keep seeing her through high school, because even after my family moved out of the area and I went to a different high school than I would have, so did her family! Oh, the horror! lol!
If she already knows that you like her, is there any chance to get that girl anyway?
Hey,bobby you stupid
Damn you Anthony scarpuzziy took your poem and rubbed kriston
Titties with it,
And then you went their,and saw kriston in the future with those A
cup tits and for the win anthony scarpuzzi,fat wife ,he looks miserable making coffee at Dunkin Doughnuts .
I will never confess my fellings to a girl unless I have been dating
Her for at least a month .I was
A surge of relaxed confidence,fun and sexy conversation.
If the girl would’ve walk over and kissed me in public and told me
I was adorable and she allowed me
I would have her skirt up in the corner some where eating her pussy and pulling her panties down to get it in
In grammar school I was the shy romantic freak ,writing notes and touching women teachers Asses in those low open back plastic chairs,and got obsessed,touchingwomen Asses in public ,my favorite the mall ,those benches where there is just enough room
For both us to sit behind each other ,I would put my hands behind my back and press very gentle on that fat round soft ass of hers and hope I can have this feeling as Long as it last
Haha score!! Must’ve been a great feeling knowing where they’re at now after they screwed you over all those years ago! Chances are they’ve scoped you out too, so score 1 to you!
your material is phenomenal bobby, im looking forward to the next lesson good shit
Bobby Rio is the man, teaching us how to hook up with the sluts. Good advice.
how long do u have to put off the love confession thing with a girl u r serious about…..am doing it and its working but most of these girls are used to hearing “i love you”
hey bobby u awesome cant wait for what you have next.
Thanks for the 411 It sounds right to me.
Hey booby I meet this girl in festivel. But she was to fucked up. Next few day I found her on facebook. I add her she accept. I MSG
How her day was and told her she id good looking. She get back to me and ask for my number. And ring me with in the 5mins. I spoke to her for like 2hours. Few day off calling and back and forward. I met up with her at clubs I was spending and trying to impress her. We hooked up once for like 20seconds but was it. I was being so nice to her. My friend end driving her and friend off in the car was ever awkrad. We didnt say much. They fail sleep. And at the end I went for the kiss she pull away.
She call me the next day. But I didn’t have my phone.
She end going out with her guy friends.
She has not called me since. I called her talk to her after 15mins. She will say I will you back never those. So I didn’t call her for 3 days. I txt. She get back to me saying. I’m busy I will call you soon. Nothing yet. Please help booby I really like this girls. 🙂
She already knows by the way you look at her 🙂
hi check you spam folder/ junk folder
Hey Bobby i hope you still check these comment boards.. this was the last lesson i received, i haven’t gotten anymore over the past few days, how do i fix that?
Hey Bobby, I did that stupid mistake like you did (probably, but in a different way) by giving an “unknown” girl, a poem on her. I didn’t use “I love you” but just “I like things about you” in it (cause I knew a little about her till then)
Didn’t talk to the girl since 2 months though we see each other almost daily!, cause her friends messed up before she could respond.
I didn’t say anything. Her friends just messed up.
You think I got a chance?
I’m quite popular after that incident though. 😀
And I see subtle signs in her of wanting to talk to me, but both of us are covered in our friend circles almost all the time.
Help! I really started liking this girl more after that incident, but don’t give her a single bit of importance in reality, behaving as nothing happened. 🙂
So got any help for me Bobby? 🙂
Keep doing your thing Bobby it works for me
OMG!! i had a story like this like a year ago (im very young >:P) and i was like *playin russian roullete till’ i win* but then some friends told me i looked so gay followin her while she was with another guy, so i decided to stop doing all that shit and now, well i’m still in love with her (dunno why the f*ck i still want her) but i have a girlfriend, and this day made me wonder “WTF his last BF of this girl was horrible!!, so what the hek about me??? am i ugly too? what i made to attract her like his ex??” very confused, but now i guess i can have a better game with other girls by doing the things like this way u just said >:)
TY Bobby, very useful stuff u post always 🙂
oh i made a mistake dimples******
am waiting to see what rio have in de res
days
Yo stalked out them too and u came out on top i like that, gets me even more excited to finish this, now Question… these girls i known for a few days but i barely talk to them cuz i just be all over the place in the lunch room(FYI im a senior in high school) they started going goo goo ga ga all because i had pimples, now i got the “hot Cold” thing goin on but i wanna capitilize on this, how do i do it?
You know, it’s actually pretty cool though when a “guy” is in high demands when it comes to women. Good stuff Bobby and keep it coming!!! Your stuff rocks!!
Maaan! looks to me that almost everything i was entitled to doing with woman was wrong. I read a thousands of millions of articles every now and then but this shit right above? That shit is the crude game man.. At least something finally made sense to me. You the genius man how did you learn this stuffs?? 🙂
whaoo !!!! You are the man
You’re amazing! Women’s psychology is so fucked up… they don’t even know what they want and yet men try so hard to give it to them anything…. I hope I did not lose my chance with this dream gal. I opened up after a month and having a weekend with her. She has eight years relationship with her bad boy fiancee and wanted out. At least that’s what she told me…. I just let the time takes it course. what do you think?
Am so happy to know u,may God bless u very much thanks.
There’s a beautiful older woman in my office who basically has a leash around most of the guys here. She never pays for lunch, yall know the type. We flirt a lot and have good rapport. There were 5 of us in the break room this morning and I was using the microwave. She asked a guy to buy her something out of the vending machine. He did. Then she walks over to the microwave and knocks on it as if to say, “Your coffee is done. Remove your shit.” All eyes were on me. I walked over to the microwave and added two minutes and pressed start! She was shocked and walked out with a salty look on her face. One of the guys walked up to me and said, “I can’t believe you did that!” 10 minutes later, she is emailing me and we’ve been going back and forth all morning. This stuff works, yall! Thanks, Bobby.
Its a 31 day program dude lol… I specifically stated that the first week is theory… and then we move into examples and techniques… As you can probably read by the comments… A LOT of guys didn’t already know this stuff. Which is why I need to cover it 🙂
Things we instinctively know but we don’t always do them. A lot of theory but no examples. It’s like getting emails on how to build a house, but all the email says is you need to swing a hammer and hit the nails.
i’m feeln ur flow…make out lots of examples next time pls
nice one thanx.
ill never do it. at leas i dont like her no more. ups.
hello bobby i need your help on this…i know a girl 1 one month and she gave me her number by herself after our first meeting..we went out alone in parks or for coffee few times(both asked each other to go out)…she is kind of famous in the city and very beautiful…we are talking a lot when we are together…but i didn’t found yet the best timing to
kiss her…she s doing me this hot and cold stuff…i dont know how to handle it the best way…i would appreciate it if u give me an advise on this…thanx bobby you are great man
You Know, Bobby, you’re absolutely right. There is nothing more crazy than a woman’s mind. But fortunately for us there’s a guy like you who is willing to share everything you’ve learned about it, and you’re damn right in every word that you say, or wright. But even than I always get amazed by all the tips you show us at every day’s lesson, besides I’m a little late in those. But it doesn’t matter, I’m learning a lot. Man, you deserve heaven !
you are the man!
this article are so useful to me
thanks Bobby
rogar that
this is so true and something I found out long ago and had many women admitting….
I had a lot of female friends that I would get together with on occasion for a drink, etc. Only a few of them were FWB’s… but they all were attractive, dynamic, etc. (this is when I was living in Europe, so its not hard to find good looking, interesting women)…. well, everytime I walk in a bar or a lounge or anywhere with a good looking woman, it never failed… so many women in the room would start flirting with me, checking me out, etc. no matter they knew the relationship between the woman I was with or not.
The social perception of stature does go a long way in shaping how others perceive you… but its also dangerous: if you play it up too much, rather than just being yourself, you have nowhere to go but down.
Hey Bobby great work on this, i was a bit busy but now i have started reading through your program. I am handsome, i know that and girls always look at me and give me the looks but the problem is that i am shy and not confident enough to talk and dont know what to say to make them totally attracted to me. I am a nice guy so if i want to become the bad guy can you give me some tips. I find these girls at shopping malls, university and grocery shops.
Please help me and thanks.
Ok mr rio i c u talkng about not ever confessing feelings 2 a girl ,bt how exactly do u get her 2 knw that u love her cause i thnk thats the only way ?
hey, i have a friend. she is my class mate and she often used to come online in gtalk just to chat with me. she likes me for my character. Many of my friends told me that she really loves me. What can I do now?
thnx Bobby and Stoppable…………i don’t know how to attract her …but i will definitely not be easily available ………f i will lose her ..it will make me stronger…….
if any one could suggest how to attract her..then it would be interesting to try out something new………AS THERE IS NOTHING TO LOSE…
Bobby,
I told her we can be friends , and i stopped talking with her ….
But how can i build the attraction as she is telling she can’t forget her ex and she don’t have any feeling for anyone……..
plz advice….its too much….she told me she had physical relationship with her Ex. so she can’t accept anyone else …………
what to do …and how to do……….
waiting for ur response…..
Great advice! Awesome stuff!….question?….what would you do if you already confessed you liked a girl and still want to get her to notice and become attracted yo you?
Sort of, in this one we’re stressing not to confess feellings, and what really attracts women. Tomorow you get some tips how to pull it off
hey isint the same thing as yesterday to not be nice be a little jerk to them right 🙂
Very informative and dedicated venture, Mr.Rio
You are a champion. The girl who did not realise your worth will be remorseful!
You have come out of fear of being discovered, and now with a determination you are forging ahead. you need two or more things to do depending on your already employed strategy
Hey, i had been in the same situation as you are now.
I confessed my feelings to her in a letter. i tried to make her fun with some self-written notes on FB, draw her and give it to her… tried to make her forget her ex-bf in the hope that after she’ll forget him, the next guy will be me.
But you know what, it ain’t help me to get her at all…cuz all those things that u’ve tried for her, just make her feel so important to you, and she thinks that if she ask you for it, she’ll get it. There is no challenge, and as Bobbi said, girls like challenge, as well as boys.
So…if she have told you that “she can’t be into another relationship” to you…sad to say, but you would never get her if you keep going on your old track. [ believe me, my dream girl told me the same thing, and just 2 weeks later, she dated with another guy, work at the same company of her EX ]
I suggest you back off, and do what Bobby said, build some attraction, and let them come to you .
It’s may damn hurt at first, when you know your dream girl will never be yours, but it necessary…it’ll make you stronger, it’ll teach you how to control you feelings, and it’ll improve your chance of success with girls in the next times.
Hope you can move on 😀
Its HER loss!! -u Go MR Rio
Hey bobby,
Thanks for your advise man your program is legit. I’m learning so much with every email. I look forward to read the other lessons.
All the best dude.
i suggest you back off for a bit…
don’t express your feelings for her.. instead, build attraction…
Hey Bobby,
could you please suggest..what i need to do …
I like a girl ,who was broke up with her ex…
I already expressed her about my feelings to her , that i like her…
she told me, she can’t be into another relationship…, also telling me, if she was not a relationship then she could have accepted my propose….
however she is telling me ,,she needs me as a friend……
PLEASE suggest WHAT I NEED TO DO……….waiting for ur response…
Hey reo i know this girl i know her for 1 year and w r rlly close and i want 2 know how to be a bad boy if already i am being myself with her
and dont declare love got my point ???
How do I balance the “hot” and “cold” being nice and being an ass. In my case I am not the most comfortable but I can always make girls laugh if I want they recently hung with me and my comfort level is increasing my other question is if I make girls happy with my sense if humor will that trigger sexual attraction to me
HA-AH
I find that everytime I tell this certain girl that I want a relationship, she runs away. But everytime I tell her that we should just be friends, we hang out and have sex all the time as if we were actually IN a relationship. Is she just afraid of the title, is it something i’m doing, or is she just messed up?
I fully agree with you as we talk now i am exactly the victim of thatI..ie.confessing ur love to a woman premuturely, i can see i am not gonna win her. IF i had known this before i could have avoided this mistake, costly one indeed.
Thanx anyway.
Hell yeah, man! Win for good guys!
BTW, I just want you to know that I recently came out of a long term relationship that ended badly. I was always a ladies man (self made w/ david angelo), but after i left the girl I went into a pussy’s depression mode. I came out, and am using your 31 day quick start program to get back on my sexy stallion. Thanks.
So I’ve been the good guy all my life… you have no idea how many girls I didn’t bone because I was their “friend”… I have known this to be true about myself for quite some time… I got married and guess what… I was the good guy who got cheated on … enough sob story… Even though I am aware that this is the case for me and have it pretty clear that I need to change (and have somewhat achieved it, for I have gotten layed repeatedly with six different women in the past 10 months)… however most of my behavior is clearly defined and often struggle to make the mental shift necessary to adopt this new outlook and behavior. I am not a bad looking guy and women are often attracted to me… it is the jump that takes time. Sooo… do you have any suggestions on how to adopt this new dramatis personae?
nice bobby. tnks for ur advice nd carry up the gud work
I used to be the one at the back of the room dreaming and thinking up ways to get the girl, and never getting her. I felt obligated to express my love and care in the most (i see now) desperate ways, for example; I painted a sculpture of a bear one day and “secretly” gave it to a girl I adored, the next day I confessed my actions and she thanked me saying I “how nice I was”. We parted leaving me so happy like I really did it, she likes me… But no the very next she had her hands all over this “tough guy” who I hated even before all this started. We ended up fighting a week later haha, but the whole thing really was a blow to my esteem and dignity you know. I’ve never had that same feeling for another girl since, but that doesnt stop me from wanting one, you know lol.
Bobby Thank you. Your like my sensi. Your tidbits are helpful. Fav lesson so far!
Totally agree..
Loved the last part..haha..!!
Its exactly what bobby rio said hot then cold think about it this way if your to nice by pulling her in to much you suffocate her and if you push to much then your an assshole but if you pull her in by being nice then push her away by being a little mean not insulting her but just a little push then shell be like wtf because your giving her all these mixed signals. so being to nice your a betamale the “nice guy” Push to much your the “asshole ot jerk” but if you push then pull your the “alphamale” which is the top of the latter.
I remember the worst confession ever. I sent it in an email to a girl “SA” at a time of weakness when my “relationship” with my old live-in girlfriend had collapsed, and SA was a girl I worked with. So not only did I turn SA off forever and destroy any chance I had with her but she showed the letter to my boss. I almost got in trouble for sexual harassment. I did get warned. Guys, never never never do anything like that. If you are confessing your love for a girl then you are not only ruining your chances, but under the current laws in the US you could be in legal trouble or lose your job. Don’t do it!
Thanks 4 making guys be in charge, cos this secret is really too good.
The secret is “hot” and “cold”…. mix being an ass with being a cool fun guy…. push her away… then pull her back.
Okay I was practicing the “I don’t really care” thing on this one girl, and she just texted me saying “why do you have to be such an ass to me can’t you be nice?”. THAT means I triggered and emotion. and THAT means I can control them. I just don’t want her to stop talking to me because I’m an ass.. I tried to be an ass and haha it works xD I got a reaction out of her. Now how do I keep her from hating and stop talking to me?
Sooner or later, in every relationship, a girl will call you an asshole when she does not get her way! Expect it. Accept it. It’s no big deal! The bigger the love, the bigger the hurt. The more she badmouths her ex, the more she probably loved him.
I hope every girl cares enough for me to bad mouth me!!!
Lars
Hey Bobby I was wondering how to get started in the game. I had 2 girlfriends before, but between us I have no clue about how I ended up in a relationship with them.
I remember when I learned my lesson on this. I got the sickness and fell into temptation, sent a good 5 page text to the girl, and its just now that she’s talking to me again. And it happened over a year ago. You’ve got some great advice, love your work bro.
And the ps and pps part, fucking awesome XD
I’ll let her know I like her… and respect her feelings… but just cause a girl tells you she likes you doesn’t mean you’re home free. Their is still a game to be played.
I’ll be covering how to keep a woman atracted and balance “the game” with being real in future day’s lessons.
HEy RIO how about if she confesses her feelings to you first do you still hide yours and keep the Bad boy act
Thanks for all your comment and advice. It makes much sense.
I can’t even count how many girls I know that end up hooking up with a guy they swore they hated! There had to be a reason and now it makes so much sense.
Wow.. I’m impressed.. nice recovery from the earlier lesson. I never even thought of it like that but makes perfect sense about how women tend to think
hey rio,thanks for the advice can’t wait to hear what u got next