Day #24: How to Get the Kiss

I was just watching the movie Glengarry Glen Ross last night.

In probably the best scene of his life, Alec Baldwin states an eternal truth:

A-B-C.

A- always

B- be

C- closing

Always be closing! Always be closing!!

I remember when I first saw that movie.

It gave me a nagging feeling.

Because deep inside I knew the truth.

If coffee was for closers… I wouldn’t get any.

I’d have a great conversation with a girl. Sometimes talk for HOURS.

She’d be laughing. Giving me all the signs.

Sometimes she’d even come back to my place.

But for some reason, I couldn’t get the “kiss”

And the next day, I’d have to make another excuse to my friends why I couldn’t close the deal.

They probably thought I was gay.

But I wasn’t.

What I had was Kiss Anxiety.

It got to the point that I couldn’t enjoy going on a date with a girl.

The entire time I’d be worried about how I was gonna “make my move” later on.

Later never came.

I’d built it up so much in my mind that I’d always talk myself out of the moment.

Which was a horrible mistake.

Again and Again I learned that if you don’t “get the kiss”…

You ain’t got SHIT.

———————–Note——————

If you haven’t watched this demonstration video yet, its a great way to prepare her for the fact that you’re going to kiss her.

———————-/Note——————-

There are 4 reasons getting the kiss is so huge.

1. The girl becomes “invested” in you. Makes it much more likely you’ll see her again.

2. Girls are awesome at rationalization. This means once you get the kiss. She looks at your good qualities. This helps her justify her decision to kiss you.

3. If you don’t get the kiss you run the risk of being “Friend Zoned.”

But most importantly…

4. Just like men, women have natural horniness. So by hooking up with you. She gets closer to sex. She realizes this. And begins imagining sex with you.

Bad new first…

If you build up the attraction and don’t go for it. The tension evaporates and it’s VERY HARD to get it back.

Now for the good news…

It’s easier that you think to get the kiss.

A few years back I learned a lesson that changed my life.

I mean, it literally changed my life.

Here it is:

There is absolutely NO DAMAGE that can be done going for the kiss. (assuming you sense some attraction.)

In fact, even if she turns her cheek or rejects your attempt…

SHE RESPECTS YOU MUCH MORE.

And she becomes 10x more attracted to you.

When I figured this out I became a MACHINE.

All the kiss anxiety disappeared and it turned into a sort of game.

I no longer waited to the end of the night to kiss a girl.

I would kiss them at the most random moments.

And they loved it.

———————Golden Nugget———————
The best possible time to kiss a girl is mid-sentence. When the tension is increased. And the moment is there. Right as she is talking. Lean in and kiss her. Drives them crazy.
——————–/Golden Nugget———————

As she was in the middle of telling me something I would kiss her mid sentence.

If we walked past a secluded room, I would lead her in and quickly kiss her.

I’d kiss girls in parking lots.

Coats rooms.

Gas stations.

It didn’t matter when or where.

In fact, it didn’t even matter if she pulled away or stopped me.

Because I showed her that I was the kind of guy who could MAKE IT HAPPEN.

And that is an extreme turn on for a woman.

Much more than a guy who spends the entire night second guessing himself.

Or weekly attempts an “end of the night” kiss, or worse, ending the night with a hug or handshake.

Make it Happen!

Bobby Rio

 

 

 

 

P.S. If you need a swift kick in the ass watch the Glengarry Glen Ross clip before your next date.

Previous Lesson: Day 23

{ 26 comments… read them below or add one }

Rodger March 14, 2016 at 7:48 am

Did the hug and when she went to kiss my check I quickly turned my head and kissed her on the lips. She said “Don’t ever do that again!”
Any more advice the don’t work?

John Hunter October 7, 2015 at 7:08 pm

Kiss her or lose her. A simple but very painful truth when ignored.

kelley October 13, 2014 at 4:28 pm

the video says it isn’t available in my country……….where do i have to move to view it? lmao

Ivan August 22, 2014 at 8:00 pm

I’ve never had a problem closing the night with a kiss in fact I always tend to be very touchy and all over a girl but at the same time I play mind games because they don’t know if I really like them or am just messing around . My problem is when I find that one girl I think is the one . I always get nervous , needy , anxious , etc… And we all know that’s a big no to get the girl you want . I think am starting to figure this out I used to get laid all the time and suddenly it stop but I know now it stoped because I started to doubt myself and having al sort of issues I wanted to be a nice guy , but to everyone here listen to me , ever since I started playing me nice guy I haven’t gotten any in exactly 3 years. , well I bang this girl but doesn’t count bc am not even attracted to her I just needed a fix .

eddie February 8, 2014 at 4:37 am

hey Bobby
What if women wanna pay for drinks/meals or even buy you presents? This has been happening regularly lately, but in the friend zone, as sometimes the girl talks too much about an ex partner or I don’t feel a 100% interested.

What’s your take? Is it a way of them asserting power?

I definitely appreciate the last few days messages as power is important, and breaking off quickly and cleanly is best, rather than trying to stay friends or being nice about dysfunctional behaviour that should not be tolerated.

Cheers
Eddie

Eddie

mackman1 July 15, 2013 at 3:45 pm

Man thanks I am so fly I come in clubs, bars, parties whatever kissing pretty girls women older and younger and every hottie in between. The thing is I am allowed too 99% of the time. Dont try that at home fellas. I am too sexy for my shirt. oh one thing if you do attempt this amazing feit just make sure there female. I live in LA.

LEON November 3, 2012 at 10:48 am

Hi Bobby,

I want to known if the documents Day1-Day31 is life time access or if it is necessary to download them and save them . I am sorry not participating but first of all I am too busy for the moment and the study of yours lessons take me time because english is a foreign language for me .

Yours

Richard

Bob B. August 30, 2012 at 8:33 pm

Hey Bobby, Great info as always,I’d like to get your key-lock texting program soon I feel anything with you and Rob has to be the sh**.
By the way I did not receive day # 23 Bobby. Thank you
Regards,Bobby

Mike August 25, 2012 at 2:13 pm

What movie is this from

Filip Antonijevic July 25, 2012 at 2:02 pm

Bobby please respond!!! Thank you!

What do i do after trying to kiss her if she pushes me back or just avoids the kiss?

CJ June 17, 2012 at 9:36 pm

i like the phrase from another post “Weapons of ass destruction” ha and it works boys im tellin u. Be bold and use these techniques, you may not score every time, but you will be happy that you had the balls to do what you wanted to…. and she’ll notice too

Maximillion April 19, 2012 at 7:00 pm

YOLO!

Devon W April 5, 2012 at 8:41 pm

Poorly outdated video. Darn!

This is probably the key to the whole thing:
“Again and Again I learned that if you don’t ‘get the kiss’ …
You ain’t got SHIT.”

I have never kissed, but some of my dates have been bellow my standards. Now I just need to up my game some more and get those that are at or above my standards.

Now get to smoochin!

Devon

Dilean March 26, 2012 at 12:10 am

Aww man! i should have read this a week ago! damn, this is gr8, thxs for the lesson today, gonna make it happen next time

julz March 17, 2012 at 9:22 am

Great, video, I will be closing, closing, and closing, as alec showed, you have to have a steel set of balls…. something that separates the men from the boys…..

Ron Landers January 18, 2012 at 7:54 pm

Never tell a girl you like her untill you have been intimate! You can show her by the things you do (teasing, banter, ect) BUT NEVER TELL HER!

andy January 6, 2012 at 12:36 am

you told her you liked her, your too easy for her.

Jay November 7, 2011 at 11:57 am

Hy!the this girl i used to chat with on Facebook,we got to met and i told her i liked her and she said she liked me to but she wanted to know me better before we could date.so she told me to be patient but shes lost interest me right now.. why????

Dave October 21, 2011 at 4:41 pm

I had that cheek turn happen to me when I leaned in for the kiss with a girl I really like, I took it as rejection, but we have talked many times since then. She even told me one time that she doesn’t look at me that way. Now I think that is BS and I should have gone for it again. Seems like it was my fault now. Am I right about this ? I feel like I should go for it again.

Richard October 5, 2011 at 10:33 am

Yes the kiss test of David D and the mid of the sentence kiss should work together. First of all see if she is comfortable you touching her.

brad October 1, 2011 at 5:18 am

also read up on David D’s “the kiss test”.
It is a sure fire way to know she’s willing and ready for the kiss.
Been working on it, and tried a few times, and it’s definitely a great signal indicator.

phil muzalewski September 11, 2011 at 4:23 pm

mecca… the ah-ha moments keep rolling in for me at the mo!! brilliant stuff Bobby. You da man! 🙂

no one August 25, 2011 at 7:51 am

ha ha ha then why do you call her your girl?
coz she still dnt know that she is yours and its ‘your mistake’ find out.
If you cant I will later let you know.

nwachukwu kingsley August 14, 2011 at 6:45 am

If a ur girl dont talk 2 nd dont call,she introduce u to her friend as a friend hw dos it sound.

patrick July 9, 2011 at 9:37 am

great advice bobby. but if alec baldwin ever talked to me like that id slay the fuck out of him lol

djim omari June 29, 2011 at 5:09 pm

wow i have learned that you have to close it and go for it.