The Rejection Barrier

One of the things I’ve realized recently is that every student has a certain number of rejections they can handle in a row before they mentally break.

This is ironic because there is also a specific number of rejections after which you stop seeing rejection as that big of a deal.

Rejections don’t tend to be these big dramatic things that most guys think of when it comes to approaching a woman.

You’re not going to get slapped, you’re not going to get made fun of, and you’re not going to get a drink thrown on you. Instead most likely the girl is just going to walk away or excuse herself.

It’s important to understand that rejection is a part of the game, anyone who says otherwise is lying to you.

So what is this rejection barrier?

It seems to vary from student to student based on their levels of approach anxiety, the way they view rejection, self esteem and how badly they want success.

For most students on bootcamps it seems like after 6 or so rejections they need to take a little break.

Other guys I’ve taught in coaching programs seem to be able to plow through 30-40 before they start complaining about pickup being a lot of work.

I myself once had 90 in a row, which sucked…

The key to dealing with rejection is to look at it as not only a necessary part of the game, but also as one step closer to success.

The last thing to keep in mind, is that the girl isn’t rejecting you, and I don’t mean that in the sort of “It’s her problem” misogynistic way. What I mean is when you approach a woman she doesn’t have time to get to know the real you.

In fact by the time I sleep with a girl neither of us have yet see the real core of the other person. The girl is rejecting the way you approached her, which is always something you can fix with practice.