What Not To Do On an Approach – Video Breakdown

I was fwd this video and thought I’d write out a few comments on what this guy is doing right and wrong.

The video’s pretty funny in and of itself so props for that.

Obviously the guy is self amusing with the whole penis pick up idea which goes to show that you can get away with a lot when you’re having fun yourself.

This guy has kinda slumping body language though. The first thing I would fix is his posture, he needs to stand up straighter rather than trying to lean like he’s nonchalant.

Kong does a good job of transitioning from his functional opener (like asking where the nearest Starbucks or fancy restaurant is) into a statement of intent by admitting he doesn’t really care about what he was asking, he really just thought the girl was cute.

This is a good tactic when you get a positive response, though it does fall flat a few times in this video because he does it too early. Generally you want to use a statement of intent when the girl seems interested right off the bat.

The main thing that is missing in these approaches is teasing and a transition into attraction material. Kong asks some questions and builds a good amount of social comfort, but he never breaks that comfort in order to generate the necessary emotional momentum to move into the attraction phase.

He does use a few dis qualifiers like saying he’s a big dick, but it comes across more as him being over the top and goofy than as a real disqualifier that will make the girl want to win him over.

Overall this video was entertaining but I would be surprised if any of those girls answer his calls or texts.