3 New Year’s Resolutions That’ll Actually Improve Your Dating Life

The New Year’s Resolutions that won’t waste your time

Getting jacked. Losing weight. Making more money. None of these classic New Year?s resolutions will help you get more girls – unless you also fix the things that really matter.

It?s time to do away with the myth that looks and money are all you need to get girls. Neither of them are necessary. ?

Of course, health and wealth can be crucial for your overall happiness. You should work on improving them for this reason.

Still, if your main goal for 2019 is to have more women in your life, focus on these resolutions instead.

1. Learn to love yourself

Most classic dating mistakes stem from a lack of self-esteem.

If you suffer from approach anxiety, running out of things to say or poor assertiveness, it?s probably because you feel you aren?t enough for the woman.

Meanwhile, some men with high self-esteem can approach a woman, chat her up and pull her home without thinking…

That?s why it?s important to develop this self-love in 2019?

A lot of people pledge to fix their fitness and diet because they believe it will help them feel better about themselves. Indeed, regular exercise has been shown to release feel-good endorphins, while a healthy diet helps us feel revitalised. However, a lot of these people suffer from ?never enough syndrome?, where they continuously set targets and tell themselves they?ll ?only be happy when? they hit them.

Here?s a great exercise to help you feel great about yourself right now: write a list of 50 qualities that are awesome about you. ?

This large number forces your brain to concentrate on the positive aspects of your personality. Include physical attributes, personality traits and past achievements.

If you?re struggling, add things that you?re working on improving. This is still great, because most people aren?t doing anything to better themselves. ?

Congratulate yourself when you complete the list. You now have 50 reasons why a woman would love to have you in her life.

Once you believe she probably wants you to approach her, flirt and become physically intimate, ?it becomes a lot easier to do so. Make it your resolution to write this list and read it as often as you feel necessary.

If you like this confidence-boosting exercise, there are six similar tasks available here.

2. Go out more

It?s no use being an ultra-confident guy if you?re not going out to meet women.

The more women you meet, the more often you?ll find one who likes you.

What?s more, you?re going to improve at

• approaching women in a smooth way;
• speaking in a charismatic manner;
• flirting and building attraction; ???
• pulling women home.

These are all skills that can be mastered, provided you practice consistently,. ?

Make a resolution to go out and meet women a specific amount of times per week.

If you don?t like bars and clubs, practice daygame, search for fun social events online or try a new hobby. Whatever you choose, ensure you?re proactive about meeting people and flirting with attractive women. ?

If you don?t live in an area where it?s easy to get to these social events, consider moving closer to them. Improving your logistics this way is the best thing you can do to increase the amount of women you pull home.

Some people prefer online dating to meeting women in real life. There?s no denying that some men slay on Tinder, Bumble and the rest. Yet, it?s also true that there is more competition for women?s attention on these apps than ever before. The best way to make a lasting impression is to introduce yourself in the flesh.

3. Build an awesome Instagram profile

A lot of people will be pledging to spend less time on social media. It can be a time-suck if used irresponsibly.

Still, there?s no denying an exciting Instagram profile will help convince more women to date you.

To be comfortable enough to meet you, many women need evidence that you?re a cool guy. They want to see whether you?re fun person with a life they?d like to be part of. At the very least, they want to know you?re not a psychopath serial-killer planning to stalk and kill her family…

Instagram provides a platform where you can show this without coming across as too try-hard or boastful. You can show thousands of women the most attractive elements of your personality without being branded a show-off. It means you can meet a woman for five minutes, exchange IG handles and have her learn how awesome you in her own time… ?

And she?ll find the time… In 2019 at least, women are hooked on Instagram. You?d be a fool not to take advantage of this.

Here?s how:

• When you?re out meeting girls, swap Instagram handles instead of phone numbers. Social media is seen as more casual, so she?s more likely to agree to this even after only a few minutes of knowing you?
• If possible, film a quick fun Instagram story with her. Ideally, it?s you sharing a jokes, teasing her or doing something to make her have fun. Tag her in the story. Snap a few silly photos and DM them to her. This not only reminds her how much she fun she had when she met you – it shows all your followers that you?re a cool social guy who girls enjoy hanging out being with..This is called social proof and it?s the easiest way to show other women your value. ?
• Add your best photos into your feed. Include shots of you at fun events with beautiful women and cool friends. Add snaps of your passions and hobbies. Help her get to know you. Instagram lets you add one-minute videos in your feed, and longer clips on your IGTV channel.

Maybe you find it awkward to film selfie videos or ask people to take photos. Maybe you find it narcissistic and don?t want to live your life through your phone?s screen. It?s a fair argument, but the advantages of Instagramming your life outweigh the cons.

A weaker excuse is that ?you don?t have the time? to use social media. Building a quality profile will significantly reduce the amount of effort you have to put in to secure a date. A lot of super-high-value men are securing dates by sliding into the DMs of strangers.

Instagram is the most social media platform among young women in 2019. You can build attraction using Facebook, Snapchat and the rest, but it’s ultimately crucial to be popping up where women are spending the most time.

Still not convinced? Here are 7 reasons why swapping Instagram profiles is more effective than exchanging phone numbers.

These resolutions could change your life

These tips are generic enough to be suitable for any single man looking to improve his dating life.

They?ll leave you happier and more fulfilled with the opportunity to get to know more women than ever before.

The best thing is that they?re not too difficult. They?re certainly easier challenges than building a successful business or sculpting the perfect body at the gym. Once you build momentum, they should be fun too!

Whether you?re hoping to see in 2020 with a loving partner or a harem of party girls, these tasks will set you well on your way.