How to transition your internet relationship to real life

How to Escape from Email Ping Pong

The internet brings a great many opportunities for meeting people, and with tools for constant communication online, it is easy to stay in touch and build up intense relationships without ever meeting in real life. Once you have established the precedent of chatting online, it can be difficult to move your interactions to real life.

Don?t be constantly in touch

Messaging back and forth all day will come across as intense, and you will find it will be more difficult to move your online relationship to real life. You do not want to come across as too available. It is fine to have conversations by instant messaging, but do not linger on there all day. When the conversation is dying, say you have to go, and start a new conversation another time.

Take it to the telephone

It may seem strange to pick up the phone and call someone when you have instant messaging at your fingertips, but talking on the phone will test if you can keep a conversation going. Moving from messaging to phone chats escalates your relationships, and takes you a step closer to meeting in real life.

Meet as soon as you can

You can get to know another person quite well online, but you will not be able to ascertain if you have chemistry. Meeting in person ensures that you have a good chance of discovering problems before you are too attached to your online relationship.

How soon you can meet will depend largely on your finances, and the distance between you. Neither of these can be helped, but it is worth trying to make it happen. If there is no way to meet in the foreseeable future, be ruthless and cut off your internet relationship.

If you fail to meet as soon as you can, you may find that you never will. You will lose the momentum and excitement which would encourage you to meet up.

Suggest a public meeting

If you are seeking a relationship rather than something more casual, the first time you meet should not be at one of your houses. Women are also often reluctant to meet with strange men from the internet. She will be more comfortable if you suggest meeting for coffee, rather than inviting her over. This translates into her being more likely to actually see you- many online relationships fail merely due to a lack of real life meetings. Keep in mind that some women are on the cautious side and will want to schedule a lot of meetings in public places before inviting you over; do not interpret this as a lack of interest.

Make it a date that she will like

You can never go wrong with a dinner date, but it will be a better experience if you can target a date to her interests. For example, if you her profile picture is her with animals, you could suggest a trip to the zoo. She will appreciate that you thought of something she will like, and it will be a far more memorable date.