7 Dating Quotes From Hollywood’s Best Known Hedonists

These three actors have spent lifetimes chasing women; here’s what they have to say

Jack Nicholson, Warren Beatty, and Rudolph Valentino are three of the most notorious womanizers of the 20th century, and they all happen to be three of the most famous actors over the last 100 or so years. Here is some of the wisdom they have to impart on the subject of romantic relationships:

1. Jack Nicholson

“There were points in my life where I felt oddly irresistible to women. I’m not in that state now and that makes me sad.”

Looks are transient. Getting too attached to your youth and outward appearance will definitely lead to an uncomfortable cognitive dissonance as you get older.

“I used to think that one of the great signs of security was the ability to just walk away.”

It’s like Neil Strauss wrote in The Game: To get the girl, you have to be willing to lose the girl. Nothing projects insecurity and desperation quite like clinging to a significant other who abuses your trust and loyalty.

In this industry, there are only two ways up the ladder: rung by rung or claw your way to the top. It’s sure been tough on my nails.

It’s the same thing with your dating life, especially if you’re trying to get it off the ground for the first time. Progress will be slow and painful, but adds up quickly when you keep at it.

2. Warren Beatty

“For me, the highest level of sexual excitement is in a monogamous relationship.”

and:

“Marriage requires a special talent, like acting. Monogamy requires genius.”

Interesting quotes from a man who has supposedly slept with 13,000 women. Although Beatty himself has rejected that figure, the real number is probably a lot greater than the average man’s. With the concept of polygamy gaining traction, due in part to dating coach Adam Lyons, Beatty, who has been married since 1992, renounced his womanizing lifestyle and is probably the most high-profile advocate of monogamy.

3. Rudolph Valentino:

“Women are not in love with me, but with the picture of me on the screen. I am merely the canvas on which women paint their dreams.”

This quote demonstrates why some men need to stop taking rejection so seriously. When you meet women, they form an image of you that may not be consistent with who you really are, so there’s no need to take their feedback personally. Merging your positive inner qualities with what you’re able to project upon people when meeting them — through fashion, body language, and intangibles such as charisma — is conducive to forming quick connections.

“To generalize on women is dangerous. To specialize on them is infinitely worse.”

This one demonstrates why you should be skeptical of any dating coach who thinks he knows everything about women. The best dating coaches focus more on teaching men how to be their best selves, because then having an abundant dating life naturally follows.