Screenshot-by-screenshot guide to securing a Tinder date

From the first message to the first date

Here is yet another play-by-play of a recent Tinder interaction of mine. In this example, one of my matches sent the first message. In another article I wrote, I explained how to generate a profile that gets more of your matches initiating contact.

My current Tinder bio instructs prospective matches to swipe left if they pronounce it “mann-aise” instead of “mayo-nnaise”:

She opened me, and now she beat me to asking for the date. I would have taken care of that around now if she hadn’t. When the dialogue is flowing as well as it was here, you can just have fun with it and ask for the date at any point. You can seamlessly ask for a date by incorporating the conversation you’re having into the ask, exactly as she did above.

Always be firm when setting the date. Avoid any “well I don’t know, what works for you?” kind of dialogue. Suggest a day, time, and place; she’ll let you know if it won’t work and you can take it from there.

In the past, I’ve advocated getting the number ASAP in online dating scenarios; but with mobile phones becoming increasingly integrated with social media, giving someone your number may also give them access to your Facebook or Twitter, which women can use to get a lot more information about you than you might want them to know before you’ve had a chance to meet in person.

For more examples of how to get dates on Tinder, check out this article. And here’s one where I use OkCupid.

And for a complete strategy guide on Tinder check this out.