Must-Read: How to Have Sex Longer

Here’s the thing about sex tips. Generally, they suck. They’re just about how to woo her, and what to do in bed, and weird sexual techniques and positions you should try that, in reality, are just kind of made up off the top of the heads of the people writing those tips. But, in reality, sometimes they are valuable and need to be shared with the rest of the class. Especially when it comes to lasting a bit longer in bed.

And so today we’re heading on over to Men’s Fitness where they have a list of tips from a wide collection of sex advice-giving folks about how to last longer in bed. Here are two of their eight tips:

2. Get Out of Your Head. ?Performance anxiety is the number one killer of sustaining an erection,? says sex coach Dr. Patti Britton, a board-certified Clinical Sexologist. ?Shift your thinking to a more confident inner voice, as opposed to a worried voice.? Britton explains that a ?self-debilitating mindset? is what shuts guys down. ?When you begin to feel anxiety, the strategy is to stop, take a breath, and then focus on how things feel in the body. Stay out of your head and get into your body?focus on the feelings that your body is producing for you.?

3. Change things up. The best thing to do if you?re getting close to the edge? Alter your speed, advises human sexuality expert Catherine Toyooka, the founder of Catherine Coaches sex workshops. ?Try teasing her. Take your penis out and rub just the head of it sensually up and down and between her labia. Vaginas have lots of nerve endings clustered in the lower portion of their vaginal canal, so this move will still be very enjoyable for her to experience.?

Head on over to the above link to check out the others. And then get to start pleasing her, guys. Do it already!