Flirting Demystified

Thought that flirting was only limited to members of the opposite sex? Well, contrary to popular belief, men actually flirt with other men! However, flirting in this context does not necessarily mean that it is sexual in nature. Humans foster relationships with one another through intimate playful interactions which can be viewed as both sexual and platonic. For example, when you are teasing your guy mates or sharing random stories with a few drinks at the local pub you are essentially ?flirting?. Flirting in this context is not sexual in nature, you are behaving in a way to form camaraderie.

It is natural to flirt with every person you interact with, from the guys who are your friends to the woman you want to enter into a relationship with in the near future. The reason being it is entertaining to flirt and is enjoyable for both parties (most of the time anyway). If you are having a thrilling time with one another this leads both of you to be more comfortable in each other?s presence and you would be more active in engaging with this person more frequently.

Bear in mind that flirting differs between the sexes. Flirting with the guys is about using double entendres, being tongue in cheek and making jokes at their expense. For the ladies you are interested in, it is essentially the same, however, the double entendres and jokes are filled with sexual connontations. Flirting with a woman needs to be subtle with a light hearted form of teasing to build up rapport. The aim is to make a woman blush, touch you or converse with you in a playful way. There are a couple of traps that men walk into when it comes to flirting with women, such as, overly sexually suggestive conversation and negging. Expressing to a woman you have had your eye on, ?You are so hot in that dress, is it easy to get off?? does not resemble flirting. Nor is it ever appropriate to ?negg? a woman. ?Negging? is where a guy tries to lower a woman?s self esteem by remarking about a personal attribute of her?s in a negative way to make him look better by comparison.

During your playful banter the situation may arise where the lady remarks or signals to you she was uncomfortable by something you have said. If this occurs, ensure to address the issue upfront by apologizing if you agree or agree to disagree but never feign from flirting with her. If the flirting ceases, then the comfortable interaction is replaced with a feeling of uneasiness and awkwardness and you could find yourself no longer talking to this passionate young woman.

Some guys tend to act differently when around men in comparison to being around women. It is essential to always behave the same way with both parties. This does not necessarily mean that you should be more rough and tough as you would with your guy mates, but don?t change who you are around her. Your guy mates as well as she would appreciate and respect you far more.

The main thing to remember is to ensure you have an entertaining time when you are engaging with women, and not being overly focused on merely getting them into bed. Your natural flirting ability will enable you to be successful with women.