Must-Read: The Most Important Relationship Questions

Is she the one?

So you’re sitting there with your girl, and you’re looking in your eyes, and you have this feeling in your gut that maybe you want to take it to the next level. But there’s something just kind of hanging over your heads where you’re not sure if this is the right move or not. Cold feet — whether we’re talking about a marriage, or simply moving in together, or even just asking her to be “exclusive” — is a natural course. It’s scary to commit yourself to someone, even if it’s the least amount of commitment. So, how do you find out if she is the so-called “one”? Luckily, there is actually a method to help you gauge.

Today, we’re taking you to Men’s Health in order to point you towards a series of questions they put together that you need to ask your lady friend in order to find out if she should be The One. For example, one of their sample questions that you need to ask:

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Don’t let her hotness blind you from facing facts if she’s a hot mess. “In context, ask her how she’s made important life decisions, such as accepting a job or making a move,” says psychologist Craig Malkin, Ph.D. “You’re looking for signs of a reckless, flaky approach to life.” If she’s thoughtful and reflective, he says, chances are she’s high in conscientiousness?a trait that suggests she won’t be flaky with you. Or ask her advice on dealing with a coworker of yours whose work has become sloppy. “You’ll see the standards she holds herself to,” says Rita Watson, M.P.H., a relationship columnist with Psychology Today.

Head on over to the above link in order to find out the other questions you need to ask her — and, most importantly, why to ask them — in order to figure out if she’s the one that you need to spend more time with.