How To Get More Blowjobs
Four years ago, I was in a pretty situation common to many guys. The rest of my sex life was pretty good, but getting my girlfriend at the time to go down on me was like pulling teeth.
I personally LOVE getting oral sex, so I tried everything to make her go down on me more. At first I tried to give her the hint in bed by kind of moving her head down there ? that didn?t work. And then I tried having a ?serious talk? outside the bedroom about how I?d like her to go down on me more. This didn?t work either, and afterwards it seemed like she actually wanted to go down on me LESS. And when she did go down on me, she did a bunch of little things which ruined the blowjob experience for me (which I?m sure you?ve seen from at least one girl in your past):
When I asked her to go down on me, she?d make this face like I?d just asked her to eat dog food or something. Then when she did, she would just barely put the head in her mouth and rub it around a little bit. Then in like thirty seconds flat, she?d quit, deciding she?d given me enough oral sex for the day. As you know if you?ve gotten a ?blowjob? like this, IT SUCKS! So naturally, for a little while I became obsessed with the question: how do I get her to go down on me more, and be more enthusiastic?
The Mental Shift For Getting More Blowjobs
And this is the natural way for us to think about it as men. We want more blowjobs, so we ask ourselves ?How do I GET her to give me more?? But later I discovered that thinking about it this way was actually causing me to get LESS blowjobs. Here?s why:
If you?re thinking about how to GET her to give you more blowjobs, then you?re just thinking about your own pleasure. This causes you to do things like trying to convince her to go down on you more, and putting pressure on her.
BIG mistakes.
I found a much better question to ask yourself is ?How to I get her to LOVE going down on me?? Because if SHE gets a ton of pleasure and arousal from going down on you, she?ll do it all the time.? You?ll never have to convince or ?get? her to do it ? she?ll WANT to do it and will take the initiate to go down on you on her own. And once you start thinking about how you can make giving blowjobs enjoyable for HER?this is when you really start to make progress and get oral sex more often.
Five Tips To Get More, And Better, Blowjobs
Once you?ve made that mental shift, I?ve discovered five easy but effective things that you can do to make her love going down on you. This will lead to her giving you more oral sex, and being MUCH more enthusiastic when she goes down on you.
TIP #1: BE OBSESSIVE ABOUT HYGIENE AND GROOMING
It sounds obvious, but many women still complain that they don?t enjoy giving their boyfriends blowjobs because of bad odors and tastes. And if going down on YOU is physically unpleasant for her, she?s not going to want to do it.
So ? make sure to always keep your pubic hair trimmed shortly (to prevent them from getting stuck in her mouth). And be sure to shower often so that you taste good for her. And if for some reason you?ve been sweating a lot and you know that there might be a bad odor or taste, DON?T LET HER GO DOWN ON YOU! Although it?s tempting to try and get oral sex right then, in the long run it?ll hurt you. She?ll remember the bad experience, and will be reluctant to go down on you next time.
Instead, take a shower before sex or just wait until next time. She?ll appreciate it and will give you more blowjobs because of it.
TIP #2: GIVE HER ORGASMS THROUGH ORAL SEX
The 2nd most common reason women don?t give you oral sex often is that you?re not giving THEM oral sex very often. So they start thinking, ?why should I go down on him when he never goes down on me?? Or, if they are getting oral sex they?re not having ORGASMS through oral sex. And because they?re not getting the sexual satisfaction they want, they?re reluctant to give any in return.
The solution: learn to love giving women oral sex. It?s the fastest and easiest way to give her orgasms, and it can be very exciting for you to make her cum like this. And be sure to learn the skills to give her orgasms through oral sex. If you can really blow her mind with oral she?ll be eager to blow yours in return. In this video, I show you 17 super-effective techniques for giving her orgasms through oral sex.
TIP #3: USE THE 69 POSITION
The 69 position is great because she can feel the sensations of receiving oral sex at the same time that she gives it. This causes her to associate feelings of intense sexual pleasure with giving you a blowjob. It?s an incredibly powerful motivator for her to go down on you ? after you?ve done this a few times she?ll get wet every time she thinks about your cock in her mouth.
Despite this, many guys don?t use the 69 position because they don?t know the little details that can REALLY make it feel good. So here are a few tips for a great experience with the 69 position:
– The 69 position most women will like best is with the man on the bottom, and her on top. In this position, the angle can make it difficult because you have to strain your neck to access her clit. To prevent this, prop your head up with a few pillows. This will make you more comfortable during 69, and allow you to give her oral for longer.
– If she stops giving you oral sex, stop giving it to her as well. This will train her to keep giving you stimulation even when she?s feeling intense pleasure.
– Experiment with variants of the 69 position. Most women will prefer to be on top, but some women prefer to have the man on top. And some women will prefer both of you to be on your sides. Try these out and see which one is best for you.
TIP #4: HAVE HER USE A VIBRATOR WHEN SHE GOES DOWN ON YOU
Another great way to associate sexual pleasure with giving you a blowjob in her mind is to use a vibrator on her as she goes down on you. Here?s the best way to do this:
Buy a small vibrator that can be inserted inside her, which has a cord long enough so that you can hold the controller as you?re getting the blowjob. Then as she starts to go down on you, start giving her stimulation from the vibrator on the lowest setting.
As you start feeling more and more pleasure, start turning up the speed of the vibrator more and more. When you?re about to finish, turn up the intensity of the vibrator to the highest speed. This will really drive her wild, and will make your orgasm an exciting experience for her as well. If you do this enough times, you?ll cement the link between feeling pleasure and going down on you in her mind. This will cause her to get dripping wet every time she thinks about sucking your cock.
TIP #5: GIVE HER MULTIPLE ORGASMS AFTER SHE GOES DOWN ON YOU
The most powerful way to make her associate sexual pleasure with giving blowjobs is to reward her with multiple orgasms after she gives you a blowjob. If you can rock her world with amazing sex afterwards, she?ll start to think of oral sex as the way to get those orgasms she craves.
I had one woman who I got giving me oral sex CONSTANTLY because I made the association between her giving me a blowjob and having amazing sex so strong in her mind. Whenever the compulsion to get those multiple orgasms again hit her, she would rip off my pants and start giving me amazing head. She actually started doing it every morning to wake me up…and let me tell you, waking up with a beautiful woman sucking your cock is the best way to start the day.
Of course, in order to do this you need to know HOW to give her multiple orgasms. You need an arsenal of techniques to make her orgasm through finger stimulation, through oral sex, and most importantly through intercourse.
How To Give Her Multiple Orgasms
If you want to give her multiple screaming orgasms every night, I recommend watching this video where Shawna explains her favorite sex tip.??It?s a simple system that you can use to make her cum by tripping her four ?Orgasm Trigger Points.?? Once you know how to do this, giving her an orgasm will be as easy as flipping a switch or pressing a button.
About Daniel Rose Daniel Rose is the author of the Sex God Method. He teaches men simple yet powerful ways to give women sexual pleasure through using her "Four Orgasm Triggers." Once you know what these are, and how to use each one, giving her an orgasm becomes as easy as flipping a switch or pressing a button.