Roosh Says: Don’t Burn Yourself Out
Let’s reach into the mailbag for a new question…
A lot of my friends seem perfectly content with settling down with girlfriends and hanging up the spurs completely, but I can never seem to pull it off. I’ll get in a relationship, be happy with it for a while, but inevitably the itch comes back and I start looking for the door. I’ve put up numbers equivalent to theirs so I’m not sure where the disconnect is. Are some guys just hungrier for it? And if the criteria for packing it in is when the desire for new women dies out, is there really a chance of that ever happening?
I guess I’m just sounding off a bit because the ex is starting to resurface and I’m in one of those “fuck these dumb bar bitches, I hate them all anyway” phases. I guess my ultimate question for you is: what’s the end game? Where would you ideally end up, and when would you ideally exit the game? It’s tricky shit and I’m fishing for insight.
My Answer:
Go somewhere else than the bar! Change it up a bit. I get tired of the same flaky chicks in bars and then I experiment with day game until I miss bar game. Back and forth, back and forth, as my game builds in many areas along the way. Honestly if the only place to hit on a girl is in a bar, then I’d probably get sick of it too.
The end game of course is a girl you love. But by playing the game, you automatically make that outcome harder to happen (sounds like a catch-22, doesn’t it) because you know you will always have options. Still, there will come a point where your wingmen disappear and you get older and lose motivation to continue banging and gaming. I saw this in three former wingmen who were into the game hardcore, but now one is married, one is about to be, and the other is in a two year relationship. Differences in a man’s personality makes him more or less like to get in the game (and stick to it). Just like how some people are more likely to become alcoholics but others remain as social drinkers.
For many guys there is a point where they say “fuck it” and pick the best available girl and go with it, but Roosh says it’s best to do what you want to do, instead of letting your environment decide it for you.
For more on Roosh, check out our write-up on his book Bang.
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About Roosh "Roosh is a Washington DC native and worked as a scientist until he pulled out of the rat race to pursue a slower lifestyle. A member of the old Mystery's Lounge, Roosh built up his game after college, cumulating with the release of his book Bang almost seven years later. Currently he is writing his second book about his six month trip to South America in late 2007."