Why is everyone so worried about seduction going “Mainstream?”
Lately, guys are all complaining about how seduction is going “Main Stream” and sites like ours or shows like Mystery VH1 will “destroy” the community. What a bunch of bullsh*t! The only guys who are worried about this are the ones who generally have little or no Inner Game. Men who have established their own Inner Game are not fazed about pick-up secrets being revealed because they ARE the game.
You can’t build it backwards.
Although the routines and lines will get you started, it’s not enough to be a REAL MAN that women desire. I am not talking about a PUA, someone who can kiss close in 30 seconds or the maker of a new awesome groundbreaking system that got Joe Blow from Arkansas a lay within an hour of trying it.
Simply a MAN. In fact, the term PUA has lost a lot of credibility in my eyes; everyone is a “PUA” these days. It reminds me of the real estate business which I am very familiar with where everyone is teaching a course and bla bla…
Being able to attract and seduce women is a skill that is usually tied directly to confidence in oneself, not cool stories. I would think any person would eventually break down or feel like a creep unless they could make the transition in their head from the fake stories to their real life stories. Let me rephrase that, any decent human being “should” feel like a creep or eventually break down if they are walking around pitching canned material forever. This is why you have to have your inner game in check before you run around screaming out every opener you know to whoever will listen.
Learn the Process not the Lines
Learn how to attract women naturally. Learn about women and what they like, read Cosmo Magazine, WATCH Sex in the City
If you want to learn about something then you have to study it like you would anything else. If you like the subject (women) this isn’t a problem. If you don’t genuinely like women, then you shouldn’t be classified as a PUA or even studying seduction. Instead, think of some other counseling first..
My best advice to building your Inner Game
I have learned most of my game from failing and rejection; we learn more when we fail then when we succeed. Go and get beat up and rejected, you will become a stronger man for it.
About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.