Changing Your Image in High School (L2) part II

This is the 2nd lesson in my How to be Popular in High School program. I highly suggest reading the introduction, and starting this program from the beginning if you haven't already done so. This is the second part of Lesson two. If you haven’t read the first part, go back and read Image is Everything.

Lesson 2- Changing Your Image

In the first part of this lesson I gave you an over view of the best possible way to change your image. Image is about the way you present your self to other people. We learned that that you need to be up to date with the trends when choosing what clothes to wear, what music to listen to, what haircut to sport, and what TV shows to watch. We also learned that image is also about the way you carry yourself. It is about projecting an inner confidence. In this next section I am going to show you specific steps you need to take to transform your self. I will be citing a lot of material from a great post called The 7 Elements of Charisma, which I suggest all of you read.

You need to always be conscious of how you appear to other people. You need to give off the impression that you are an important person and are considered an important person by others.

* Before speaking to a person, you ask yourself: How is this person going to interpret my next few words? What kind of effect are they going to have? What effect is it that I'm going for? Will I sound like I know what I'm talking about? Or will I sound like a fool? Will I sound confident? Or will I sound cocky? Will I sound sincere, or will I sound fake? Will I come across as a good conversationalist, someone who listens more than he speaks? Or will I seem as though I talk too much and therefore am not a good conversationalist?

The above advice is sound, but you don’t want to fall into the trap of constantly being inside your head worried about what you are going to say. What you say doesn’t have to be perfect.. you just want to think for a brief second if what you are saying conveys confidence and coolness, or if it makes you sound like a showboat, a coward, or hurts your image in any other way.

You need to be a good conversationalist. If you don’t have any clue what makes a good conversationalist read through some of the articles on this site about building conversation skills. These articles should provide a nice foundation for becoming a better conversationalist.