Dating Tip of the Day

On this site I continually preach leading women, and assuming that they are ready to take it to the next level. This means lead by your actions. The more comfortable you seem escalating the encounter the more at ease she will feel following you. The important part of this concept to rememer is assume throught action. Never assume verbally. Never tell a woman: “Now, lets go back to my place and fool around.” In fact don’t even aknowledge that you realize that it is a possibility. If feel the need, you must mention it in a kidding around sort of way… “Lets go back to my place and check out that video I was telling you about… but no funny stuff I don’t kiss on first dates”

If you saw Curb Your Enthusiasm last Sunday you saw Larry blow it with Lucy Lawless by bringing up the fact that they might have sex if he goes back to her place. The reason you never do this because if you are amping up the woman’s defence mechanism. Women don’t want to look or feel like sluts. Sure she has a pretty good idea that if she goes home with you she’s going to sleep with you, but once you mention it she will automatically go into defence mode. Trust me, no girl wants to be percieved as a slut. And they don’t want to think that is how you view them. So by verbally saying something that lets them know you think something sexual is going to happen your basically telling them “you seem like a slut”

This theory goes for when you’re about to kiss a girl. Let her know through your actions that you’re about to kiss her, but never verbally tell her. It kills the mood and gives her time to object. Even if she wants to kiss you many times she will object out of habit or to play harder to get.

Everything must be expressed on a non verbal level. If you’re not sure how to do that check out Derek V’s Non Verbal Sexual Cueing audio program.