Take Charge Be A Leader

Here is a good newsletter i recieved from Stephen Nash. His ebook is one of the few new ones to come out recently that had anything new to say.How to get a girlfriend is a destined classic.

Being a Leader With Women by Stephen Nash

If you really want to expand your social circle, you will have to
take the lead and make it happen. Your friends may or may not be
interested in meeting new people. Your friends may or may not be
interested on growing out of their comfort zone. That is why it is
so important for you to be willing to go out alone – particularly
if it is something you really want to see, or experience. Don’t
wait around for your friends. Get active, get out there.

One way to lead is to organize events and activities. I used to
have a loft in Brooklyn, and would throw monthly parties as a way
to expand my social circle. After every party, I would have new
numbers of women that I eventually dated or invited to the next
party. Had I not taken the lead, and gone through the effort of
making the event happen, I would never have met these women. Also,
I made countless new friends in the process. Another fringe
benefit to throwing parties is that when you are out meeting new
people in other environments, you have an automatic way of keeping
in touch with them – “Hey, I am throwing a party next month, give
me your email address and I will send you an invite”. All of these
new people show up to your party, and now you are on your home
turf, meeting new people. Everyone wants to meet you because it is
your party!

I understand that you may not have the space to throw a party, but
most people are able to throw dinner parties, right? Here is an
idea – throw a dinner party, and ask each friend to bring someone
completely new who will not know the other people there. I used to
do this a lot, and it always makes for an exciting evening. Also,
develop a theme around the dinner. I remember one dinner party I
threw was based on a Mediterranean theme, and another was an
evening with different “stews” from around the world. Use your
imagination and have fun with it. Again, this is a great way to
meet new people. Feel free to confide in your female friends that
they are more than welcome to bring their single friends along…

If you are totally out of ideas, throw a party in another person’s
space. Ask your friends, who happen to have the killer house in
the center of town, if they would mind if you threw a dinner party
at their house. You will manage the invites, the d©cor, and the
clean-up, while everyone invited will bring a dish to the night.
All they have to do is get dressed and have a good time. If the
party is going to be big, get some friends to help you out. The
basic rule of thumb is to have one person helping you for every ten
guests. So, if you can only find three other friends to help you
with the party, be sure to have no more than thirty people
attend…this is supposed to be fun, right?

Lastly, if there is an interesting core of people at your place of
employment, yet no one has yet taken the lead to organizing an
after work drink/meal/outing etc, become that person. Work is a
great place to start meeting new people, as you are forced to be
around each other, and almost certainly know people with which to
socialize. Countless groups go out for drinks after work, to try
out a new bar or lounge, or a new restaurant. This is a very solid
way to start leading and expanding your social circle.

If you use your imagination, and take the lead, there is no way you
can be stopped from expanding your social circle. In fact, one of
the nice fringe benefits to leading your social life, is that other
people will naturally call you with invitations to their cool
events. Most people are interested in expanding and enhancing
their own social circle. If you help them in doing that by
inviting them to your outings, they will often reciprocate the
invitation. Taking the lead and getting active is a no-lose
situation for you.

Guys – get started TODAY with this…if you are looking for a
girlfriend, or even just a date, taking charge of your social life
is THE way to do it. Use some of these ideas here and put them
into action