Reading and Using Sexual Body Language
Here is a post from the always insightful David DeAngelo. Like I always say with David’s articles, once you accept that fact he is mainly plugging his “product of the month” you can always dig out some practical advice.
Reading And Using “Sexual Body Language”
Body Language is one of my favorite topics when
it comes to meeting women and creating MASSIVE
attraction. If you’ve always wanted to learn how
to use your Body Language and other communication
to trigger strong CHEMISTRY with women, then take
a minute and read THIS.
I have some interesting news for you…
Attractive women know within SECONDS of seeing
and/or interacting with you if you’re a sexually
aware, confident man.
And they make the SUBCONSCIOUS decision of
whether or not you’re a possible sexual partner
within a maximum of a few minutes of interacting
with you.
These subconscious decisions are made mostly on
the basis of body language and voice tone.
And since we know that “Attraction Isn’t A
Choice”, we can generalize the following:
1) If you don’t know what types of body language
communicate that you’re one of these “sexy beast”
guys, you’re probably not doing the right things
“by accident”.
2) The words you say actually don’t matter much.
What matters is HOW you say them, both with your
voice and with your body language.
3) It is possible to learn how to communicate that
you’re a “sexually aware, confident man” using
your body language and voice tone.
Learning this skill will make you MUCH more
successful at meeting women.
Unfortunately, most men are too caught up in
the idea of being macho and independent to work on
this area of their life… and as a result, they
waste most of their time in “quiet desperation”,
never seeing any real improvement because they
don’t seek help and use the help to improve.
In short, if you don’t know whether or not you
project the kind of body language and voice tone
that makes women feel that emotional jolt of
sexual attraction, then you can bet your last
dollar that you aren’t. What’s a guy to do?
Learn it, and then use it.
When I first started learning about how to meet
women, I can remember thinking that I needed to
learn pick up lines and other tricks.
I had no idea that this stuff was basically
useless without the all-important understanding of
how body language works.
After a lot of trial and error, I started to
realize that when my body language and voice tone
were correct, I could say ALMOST ANYTHING to women
and they would feel ATTRACTION.
Here are three things you can do to IMMEDIATELY
increase your attractiveness to women:
1) LEARN HOW TO HOLD EYE CONTACT LONGER THAN HER.
If you see a woman that you find attractive,
and she looks back at you, DON’T LOOK AWAY.
Most guys become very self conscious and look
away as soon as a woman notices them looking.
This is a HUGE mistake.
If you want to communicate all the right
things, you need to show IMMEDIATELY that you’re
not afraid, and that you’re not at all self
conscious about the fact that you are checking her
out.
A good exercise is to walk through a mall for a
few hours and look DIRECTLY at every woman you
see.
Walk into every store, and look directly into
the eyes of every single woman you encounter…
and DON’T LOOK AWAY UNTIL AFTER SHE DOES.
Do yourself a huge favor, and don’t open your
eyes really wide and smile like a serial killer
while you’re doing this exercise.
Women don’t tend to enjoy that.
Just learn how to hold eye contact with a woman
until she looks away…
This is very important.
2) USE CONFIDENT POSTURE.
Most men I see hold themselves in a way that
says “I am not very confident about myself or
anything I’m saying”.
And most of the guys I know who are chick
MAGNETS hold themselves in a way that says “I’m
the dominant male in this situation… I own this
place”.
Suck in your stomach, hold your head up and
back, pull your shoulders back, arch your back…
and generally hold yourself like you’re the most
powerful person you’ve ever seen or heard of.
Yeah, I know this sounds dorky, but do it
anyway.
You’ll probably feel strange and self conscious
at first, but not to worry.
If you continue to practice your confident
posture, you’ll soon become comfortable with it.
And more important, you’ll attract attention
from women.
Remember, women aren’t interested in finding
another average Wuss Boy.
Women aren’t ATTRACTED to WUSSIES.
Carry yourself like a manly man, and attractive
women will notice and have INSTANT positive
subconscious reactions to you.
3) USE SLOW, CALCULATED MOVEMENTS AND GESTURES.
Watch a few James Bond films. And while you’re
at it, check out “Dirty Rotten Scoundrels”.
Have you ever noticed that James Bond never
looks like he doesn’t know how to act?
And that he never fidgets or behaves nervously?
Everything James does is a little slower than
it should be. He’s just too cool.
Try learning how to turn your head slowly, how
to blink slowly, how to change facial expressions
slowly… and how to gesture slowly.
This makes a huge impact on how others perceive
you.
This kind of body language transmits the
message: “I’m so comfortable in my own skin, it
hurts”.
4) USE CONFIDENT VOICE TONE.
Most people speak with weak, squeaky voices
that conveys the message: “I’m not confident… I
have no self esteem”.
This turns women off. Big time.
If you want to attract beautiful women, you’re
going to need to take a few lessons from Barry
White.
Learn how to speak with a deeper voice.
Learn to speak from down in your chest and
stomach.
Add more bass to your voice.
Also, learn how to speak slower… and how to
articulate every word better. Become comfortable
pausing… it creates anticipation. Most guys talk
too much, too fast, and feel like they need to
talk because they’re nervous. Don’t do it!
Learn to lean back, relax, and become comfortable
with the tension that comes from silence.
If you work on using your BODY AND VOICE to
communicate that you’re a confident, sexually
aware, stud-muffin, then all the techniques you’re
learning from me will work TEN times better.
Really.
As you know, I really believe that it takes a
DEEP understanding of how and why ATTRACTION works
between men and women before you will actually
begin to “GET IT” at that deep level in your
GUT… which leads to ACTION.
And if you haven’t downloaded your copy of my
online eBook “Double Your Dating”, then go and do
that RIGHT NOW. You can download it right now and
be reading it within a few minutes… It’s here:
I’ll talk to you again in a few days.
Your Friend,
David D.
About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.