Yahoo Groups March 18 2006 “More Shit Test Answers”

Message: 1
Date: Sat, 18 Mar 2006 00:12:44 -0800
From: “Bill Lopez”
Subject: RE: Re: Some answers to tests/BS ?

Hey George

This reminds me for seminar practice.

The ability to not answer a question would make a great exercise. Some
people have a strong drive to answer every question even though they know
better.

One More Thing.

That virus dude is up to it again.

Bill

>From: “George”
>Reply-To: seduction_dating@yahoogroups.com
>To: seduction_dating@yahoogroups.com
>Subject: [seduction_dating] Re: Some answers to tests/BS ?
>Date: Thu, 16 Mar 2006 21:21:26 -0000
>
>Hi Chris,
>
>First the overall principles:
>
>1) Always keep your answers short– don’t overexlplain.
>2) Distinguish between qustions that signal interest in you(IOIs) and
>manipulative questions
>3) Remember, you do NOT have to answer every question just because
>someone asks it.
>4) If you can’t think of anything right away to say, ask her a
>question before you answer her question. Get her to jump through your
>hoop. [This can be your default response]
>5)It’s perfectly OK to say “I don’t know”.
>
>With that out of the way, I’ll give you my answers:
>
>
>— In seduction_dating@yahoogroups.com, “chris claridge”
> wrote:
> >
> > Can I get some input on some of these questions/statements/BS.
> > These are some of the ones that I never seem to have a perfect
>answer for.
> > I either cave in and act like a wuss, or 180 opposite, I get hostile.
> > Field tested answers please.
> > ———————————————-
> >
> > 1) Why didn’t/don’t you bring me any flowers ?
>
>I give flowers for special occasions ony. Not a word more.
>
>
>
>
> >
> > 2) Aren’t you going to pay for it ?
> > (right when you get food/drink and she gives a blank stare, or says she
> > assumed you were going to pay for everything)
>
>
>Never happened to me like this because if I invite, I pay. Period.
>
> >
> > 3) Don’t you want to be my friend ?
>
>Is this “Let’s just be Friends” type of situation? It used to happen
>to me long time ago, but not anymore. I learned to respond with “I
>have ENOUGH good friends” and shut up. The ball is in her court.
>
>
> > 4) So, do you have a girlfriend ?
>
>Sure, this happens when she is interested. I don’t have a girlfriend,
>but I do date. (she knows what “date” means)
>
>
> >
> > 5) What do you do for work ? (hidden message: how much money do you
>make)
>
>It doesn’t have to be…I don’t just tell her “I’m X” — I describe it
>creatively.
>
>But if I sense she is asking how much I make, I keep it short and say
>”I do well”. Period.
>
> >
> > 6a) I want a guy who knows how to treat a lady.
>
>Get more information from her– don’t assume you know what she means
>by it– “What do you mean?” and the focus is on her.
>
>
>
> >
> > 6b) I just want a nice guy.
>
>Get more information from her– don’t assume you know what she means
>by it– “What do you mean?” and the focus is on her.
>
>Don’t let the “nice guy” lable trigger a hissy fit from you. You
>really don’t know what she means by it. Draw her out and then respond.
>
>
> >
> > 7) I don’t want to have sex tonight because you’ll think I’m a
>slut/won’t
> > respect me.
>
>Again, the response should be short. “No problem.” Don’t explain and
>do NOT get angry whatever you do. Keep doing what you were doing.
>
> >
> > 8) Spending time with, or eating dinner with a girl, and she answers
>the
> > cell phone and starts yapping. I know what Tom Leykis would
> > say…..wondering if there are any other clever solutions.
> >
> > Chris
>
>First of all, I don’t do dinner dates unless we’re sleeping together.
>
>Second, I do drinks/coffee get togethers instead and I make it a point
>to turn my cell phone off in front of her and make sure I mention I’d
>like to spend this time without any distractions. Most will turn their
>cell phones off unless there is a phone call they must take.
>
>Hope that helps.
>
>Warmly,
>George