Three Winning Attitudes for Picking Up Women
You get sick of being blown off all the time, and really sick of never
being able to reach them in the first place.
Hey, I’ve been there.
We all reach a point of disgust and anger about all the silly
social rules in the dating game and we throw in the towel.
However, this kind of reaction implies a few things. First off,
that you’re needing a particular result in order to keep going.
Well, that’s perfectly natural. You wouldn’t show up at your job
every day if you didn’t get the expected paycheck each week, now
would you?
When it comes to dating women and the whole pick-up game, you’ve
got to realize that you may have to walk a while in the desert
before you find the oasis you’re looking for. Hey, if that’s the
worst news someone had given me a while back, I would have said, NO
PROBLEM! Bring it on!
Now the good news is that you can shorten the path to your oasis by
being smart about how you get women interested in you.
So, in keeping with this, I’m going to tell you about three attitudes
that draw women to men.
As you read these, I want you to try something for me. No matter
how ‘obvious’ what I might say seems, I want you to re-think your
beliefs about them, and see if you are still, perhaps, working
under the opposite belief in some way.
If that sounds confusing, just wait and we’ll go into it in more
detail.
Let’s start with things that women find alluring. These are my
top Three Attitudes that will improve you 100+% in the eyes of the
women you approach and date if you’ll work on them.
In fact, if you really get what I’m about to tell you, you’re going
to have a problem finding time for all the women that will want to
get with you.
I’m not hyping it up here, either, dude. I’m serious. With my Alpha
hobbies, helping you guys, and the women in my life, I’m starting
to forget to pay bills and keep enough water in my dog’s bowl. BAD
Carlos, I know.
So here are the Three Success Attitudes:
ATTRACTIVE Attitude #1 – Guys who like themselves
Yes, even though we’re men, we still have PLENTY of things to like
about ourselves. Contrary to the popular media that demonizes us,
guys are pretty cool. Having a pecker rocks!
I mean, let’s start with the obvious things about guys that are
cool: We invented beer and stock car racing. What more do we have
to do, after all? Yeah, I’m sure we invented the remote control,
and probably the electric guitar, while we’re at it.
We’re GUYS. We make cool stuff.
But that’s not all. You see, women really pick up on guys who LIKE
being guys.
And not just guys who like their gender. Women really like guys who
like THEMSELVES. It comes across in the way we treat ourselves and
the way we treat others. If you like yourself, you probably aren’t
a dick.
It’s an easy deduction, because the ironic thing about confidence
and self-esteem is that the men you THINK might have it (i.e.,
Jerks) actually DON’T have it at all. They’re making up for being
horribly insecure dweebs.
Ya dig?
So the more you communicate a self-liking, the more you’re going to
cultivate a more interesting and vibrant personality. And that
“vibrant” turns into a “vibe” that you’ll get with a woman when she
picks up on it.
Just don’t self-like yourself TOO much there, spanky. Keep the hand
lotion out of sight.
ATTRACTIVE Attitude #2 – Guys who are fun to be around.
And when I say fun, man, I mean FUN.
Not that you have to juggle and tell great jokes, but you should
definitely have a little personality to show that gets people
interested.
The easiest way to cultivate this trait is to open yourself up to
being more PLAYFUL.
Being playful means having a slightly childish part of you that you
can bring out on occasion to have a little fun with women. Tease
them a little. Poke them in the ribs. Tell her she’s got cooties.
Another great way to be fun is to go PLACES that are fun. I like
meeting women in interesting spots of San Francisco so we can be
interactive.
There’s a great place here called the Exploratorium where you get
to interact with hundreds of experiments and scientific
demonstrations – from magnetism to music to glow-in-the-dark
bacteria. It’s a hoot. And there’s a LOT of possibility for
physical interaction between you and HER there, too.
Make a list of all the cool places you can go with her. She’ll
associate the feelings she experiences WITH YOU. Remember that.
ATTRACTIVE Attitude #3 – Guys who are confident and go after what they
want.
This is the one that a lot of guys have a tough time with.
“What is ‘confident’?” they ask.
Confidence is simply your willingness to be who you are with no
regrets, guilt, or anxiety.
You don’t care what other people think. You’re validated from within.
See, I can define it for you very simply, but feeling this
sensation and demonstrating it is something a little more
complicated.
Very few of us really grew up in a way that allowed us to develop a
really good sense of self-confidence. In most families, we were
subject to constant put-downs and undermining comments from our
parents and siblings about our value. We never really got
compliments.
As a result, most guys have struggled to feel the kind of
self-confidence that allows them to have real success with women.
And if you ask a woman what the most att ractive thing about a
guy is, it’s his level of confidence.
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About Bobby Rio I'm Bobby Rio, one of the founders of TSB. I tend to write about what is on my mind so you'll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences. For a collection of some of my favorite articles check them out.