Day #30: How to End a “Fling” or Relationship

Let’s face it…

As you get better with women your standards go up.

You’re not going to settle for a mediocre girl that doesn’t really make you happy.

Because you have options.

And options means choice.

And choice means freedom.

Which is good news for you. But bad news for girls who can no longer use their pussy to control you.

So the time will come when you’ll need to end it with a girl you no longer enjoy spending time with.

It is never an easy thing to do.

But there is one constant rule that does not change.

The longer you wait to end it… the harder it will be.

Fact is, you’re not going to connect with every girl you meet.

You’re not going to want to make all of them you girlfriend.

But things get rocky when the two of you are on a different page.

You view her as “practice” or “fun for the moment…”

…She might have other things running through her mind (boyfriend, husband, babies)

And eventually you are bound to hear one of these 3 evil questions:

1. Where do we stand?
2. What is THIS?
3. Where is THIS going?

If you’ve been dating a girl that you have no intention of making your girlfriend… than you need to change the way you view these 3 questions.

I used to hate when a girl asked me one of these questions.

I used to fear it.

I’d pray that things would just roll along at the status quo.

I hated to have to lie.

…Or change the subject.

…Or be extremely vague with my answer.

And what I hated more, was months later, when I finally had the balls to end it. The girl would throw it back in my face.

She’d tell me “you should have just been honest with me when I asked ‘where are things going?'”

Well, now I learned to love when a girl asks me one of these questions.

Why?

Because I’ve taken their advice.

I’ve learned to just be honest with her.

She is GIVING YOU AN OUT.

If you’re smart. You’ll take it.

I wrote an article awhile back called Why You Shouldn’t String Girls Along (LINK)

In the post I talk about the negative effects of stringing a girl along. Not just on her. But on you. On your personality. On your heart.

The longer you date a girl that you have no feeling for the more the resentment will grow inside of you. That resentment is unhealthy for your soul (and hers)

This is why you should use the opportunity most girls will present you and come clean.

Be honest with her.

If a girl asks “where is this headed” and you don’t see it turning into a long term thing… tell her.

Tell her why.

She will respect you for your honesty.

Many guys continue dating a girl they have no feelings for because they’re scared or unable to give up the steady sex.

This is NOT the mentality that true player has.

There is an abundance of women available. The minute you free yourself up from one girl… you’ll be amazed at how quickly the next one shows up.

On Day 25 I talked about how to get better in bed.

Well, the fact is, when you are really good in bed you can continue sleeping with a girl long after she realized you’re not going to be her boyfriend.

Cuz she can’t give up the sex.

But this needs to be established as SOON as possible.

If you lead a girl on for six months and then tell her you don’t have feelings for her it will be hard to make the transition to “fuck buddy”…

If you let her know after a few weeks then it’s more likely she will keep you on the side as a booty call.

The secret to ending a relationship in honesty.

The more you try to sugar coat a breakup, the less likely she’ll take the breakup serious.

And this leaves her clinging on… filled with hope.

You need to CRUSH that hope.

I know that sounds mean.

But it’s a lot meaner to let a girl waste two years of her life hoping you’ll finally see the light.

She can’t have those two years back.

As hard as it may seem to tell a girl you don’t love her… or want a relationship with her, this actually allows her to emotionally move on.

And get over you.

Ultimately it’s about living with integrity.

The right decision might not always be the easiest.

But you’ll find that if you continually are honest with yourself and others… you’re life will be a lot less complicated.

You will also find that you feel a lot better about yourself. And your self esteem will increase.

Be bold!

Bobby Rio

P.S. Tomorrow is the last of the 31 days to Better Game series.

You’re going to be doing a S.W.A.T. analysis on yourself. And see how far you’ve come.

Talk then.

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