Day #27: Turning a Friend into a Lover (part 1 of 2)
Yesterday we talked about social circle game.
VERY IMPORTANT
It makes things much EASIER for you.
But there is one problem you might run into with social circle game…
..And that’s the dreaded friend zone.
So since the last lesson (and entire STL) focus on building up your social circle… You deserve a good strategy for getting out of the friend zone.
Below is the best I got 🙂
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While the material you are going to learn works. Sometimes you are opening a can of worms when you hook up with a female friend. Before proceeding, read this story: [link]
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For the sake of this lesson I’m going to make a couple assumptions.
First, I’m going to assume that the female friend you’re interested in has firmly placed you in the friend zone.
I will also assume that you are actually friends with her and not just acquaintances.
This means you spend a reasonable amount of time with her, and communicate with her through phone, texts, IM, or Facebook.
*Bobby’s Evil Scheme for Turning a Friend into a Lover (part 1)* TM
The first thing you need to do is disappear from your friend’s life. (In the Scrambler we call this The Black Out Phase)
This means cut off all phone calls, text messages, and visits.
Do this WITHOUT making her feel like you’re mad at her.
The whole goal is to make her wonder what is going on in your life that you don’t have time for her.
When she contacts you… don’t answer the call, text, or email right away.
Wait a day or two before getting back to her.
When you do talk to her be pleasant but VAGUE. (again, this is one of the 12 weapons we talk about in the Scrambler)
You should spend at least one month apart. The better friends you are with this girl, the longer the time apart should be.
What you are doing here is interrupting her pattern and confusing her.
The confusion will cause her to spend more time thinking about you.
Her simply missing you will NOT be enough to stir up immense attraction for you.
Although you will be vague, you should always be implying that really great things are going on in your life.
This is a fine line that you have to be careful to walk.
She can NEVER feel like you’re bragging, trying to make her jealous, or lying.
That will backfire the plan.
Your whole attitude should be that really great things are going on in your life… but you’re HOLDING BACK telling because you don’t want her to feel bad.
Vagueness is the key to this part.
(Have you noticed how I keep stressing VAGUE. Its what causes the confusion. The confusion get her thinking about you. Now, in Unlock Her Legs we go much deeper into this. If you don’t already own a copy, grab it here.)
Now you need to amplify the jealousy and the confusion.
A great way to do this is to call her and ask her to hang out.
Assuming enough time has gone by she will be relieved that you finally called… and her jealousy and confusion will dwindle.
Just when she thinks things are going back to the status quo… CANCEL THE PLANS with her.
When you cancel don’t schedule a new date. Once again, be vague.
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This part usually scares the shit out of guys. They are terrified to do this because they are scared she’ll be mad. She WILL. That’s the point. You NEED to get her emotions all out of whack. It’s part of the scheme. Do NOT skip this step
Much more on this within Unlock Her Legs.
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In the meantime, another great way to create jealousy is to take advantage of Facebook.
On Day 20’s lesson Facebook you learned a trick for getting girls to interact with your page.
You can be sure your friend will notice this.
It’s also important to change up your profile a bit. Add some cool new pics (preferably of you and hot girls).
But just as important….
The entire time away from her you need to be working on yourself.
If there are areas of yourself that need improvement, now is the time to get serious about change.
If you’re overweight, do everything possible to get in shape…
Another great idea is to change up your look to create a more sexualized persona.
———————–Golden Nugget——————–
If you want to get a fresh new start, and get out of a slump, sometimes the best thing you can do is get a new haircut. Spend the money. You are worth it.
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During your time away from her you need to be working on your social skills.
Luckily, you have an entire 31 day game plan for doing it 🙂
You should not spend all your time away from her thinking about her or planning your next move on her.
You need to be filling your days with exciting and challenging shit.
Stuff that is personally rewarding.
You should be doing everything you can to take her off your mind.
You should be out flirting and attracting as many girls as you can.
You should be hitting on other girls with reckless abandon.
This serves many purposes.
Above everything else, it gives you a chance to see if you really want her as a girlfriend.
A lot of guys fall for their female friend just because she’s the only girl in their life.
Not a good reason 🙁
Go out, meet other girls, and see if you really want her.
The other benefit of improving your skills is it will make you more attractive to your friend.
The confidence you gain through your improvements will show. (she’ll notice it)
Plus your new found confidence will impress her more than your new body, haircut, or clothes.
You will also be fine tuning your flirting skills which you’re going to need later on when you see her again.
The final benefit is that it will be much easier to create the confusion and jealousy that you’re aiming for to break her “pattern”.
If you’re avoiding her calls and breaking plans it’s much more powerful if you REALLY DO have better plans and more options.
This will come into play in tomorrow’s lesson when I discuss how to handle the meet up after your time apart.
In second part of the evil scheme you’re going to learn how turn this confusion and jealousy into a kiss.
Be Bold!
Bobby Rio
P.S. The ability to get her thinking about you when you’re not around is a very important part of this plan… You should already know how to do that if you’ve gone through the Unlock the Scrambler seminar.
Previous Lesson: Day 26
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Does this work if it’s a girl you has a short term relationship with?
She said she liked everything about me but had no feelings, I wasn’t all that into her but the sex had potential. I wanted to keep her around for FWB but she friend zoned me lol.
Hey Bobby,got a doozy here. I want to use this tactic, but the story is this. I have a female roommate who know my whole family. She’s so close that EVERYONE says she’s like a cousin. When introduced to people outside of the family she is introduced by them as our “cousin”. I am wild for her, and like I said we are roommates.
How do I implement this tactic of cutting off contact without her thinking I’m upset in order to win her over? As well as her not seeing me as I’m supposed to be out of contact?
If you can help with this…..
Thanks
Will this work for an ex who broke up with you and is now in the friend zone? Or is there a different technique for that
Does this work??? Well, I had just left a two decade relationship. I had no confidence, but ran across this program and decided to give it a shot I had this friend that Ialways thought was hot, but she was a lesbian. I had been around her for over a decade, men and women after her, she even had a couple long relationships, I figured I would lose anything if I tried something when she was single again, no dice but we remained friends … Then I tried this… We’ve been together for almost 3 years now!! made all the difference!
just thank you i have no other words bobby
Friend Zoned? Then keep her there as well.
Thanks again Bobby! Your advice is spot on all the time!
There’s this girl that likes me at this restyrant she started the flirting process but having a hard time closing the deal since she has customers to attend to I need your help bro
In love with a 40 year old French woman. I am English and 47, but she has told me she’s not attracted to me, BUT we spend a lot of time together, and she trusts and loves my company. Yes FRIEND ZONED and feels shit, really shit, as I want her as a partner a lot. Even though her I am not attracted to you message was blunt and bold, it is never possible to be sure if she means this or if other things are preventing her. Do you think I might be able to turn this around if I break the pattern?
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To bobby: I am 15 and I don’t know how but I did what this told me to do and I ended up getting “laid” with a close friend. But were become friends with benefits so ya thx!!!
And that was a mad up email…
Just wanna make up some shit
Just a bullshit story:
Note I am 14
My friend is a girl. Every chance I get I touch her pussy. She looks at me and touches mine. Then I tense up and stop. Shit I always stop. I just want to take her home and fuck with the bitch. One day she came over while mom was at work. So this is what she said,
– hey Sammy. I was thinking about our friendship
-and… What
She sat close to me
– I once saw you touch my privies.
– I… I… Was just playin around…
– we’ll I wasn’t
Then she kisses me slowly while taking of her shirt.
She stops then see her breast
I am totally a bi
She took of her panties and shit and now she was naked
– I love you Samantha when lovers love another, do you know what they do?
-ohhh…
She asks me to lick her pussy.
I do.
I lick it very slowly and she moaning.
She had to like it.
I then play with her boobs
I soon get naked
She plays around with my pussy and boobs
Our pussies are wet.
I ask if we can climax
She said sure but grabbed something from her purse
She has a dildo
I wasn’t sure if I was ready to put a fuckin dildo in my pussy
Note the dildo was 2 sided
She sticks it in side of me and then her.
We climax and we kiss
We got that fuckin cum all over my bed
We fucked for about a hour and a half
We fell a sleep on my bed
They next shit it know my moms car followed by 2 others are in the drive way
Trinity curses and my mom walks in
-what the fuck
She screams and trinity and her parents come up stairs
My 17 yr old bro laughs and says to me
-you had one hell of a FUCKING day! Get it?
After 4 months my mom still won’t talk to me. I even tried to run away. I heard trinity jumped in a fuckin chasm. Her mom said she did it because she had a FUCKING SPREE at school with these school girls and now she’s “TIRED”.
If you ask me that’s fucked up shit.
Did you like my porno story
Shit if you do thanks
Listen — pay attention ..use what he gives us … You can also use the law of attraction
Hi Bobby,
What about in a situation when you have taken the girl out and she likes you but you have to go back home to the U.S and slowly get into the friend zone because of the distance? and she might be back with her ex too, I am not sure.
Please help
Bobby I need help an I know how you love a challenge. I was seeing this girl I liked and we had sex a few times and going out things were great I’m sure you heard this story be4 so lets just cut to the chase. I am going to be a daddy with this girl and I am very happy but we arn’t talikng rite now I told her I liked her and basily email bombed the shit out of her bc she saw her ex the other day and she goit really uset thers more to the story but will save it for when we talk plese hel me get her back in my arms this isn’t for me this is for our baby and it’s future I’m graet guy and she deserves the best. She is worth it I told her I like her be4 she told me she was pregnant Thank you sir for your time
dear bobby,
how can act if she ask me to hangout with her should i delete her request or not ,please answer me what i do queckly.
Hey man. Just been friend zoned after pulling this amazing girl. Shes just told me she is now speaking to this other guy. Would this method still work?
Bobby,
I’ve been having a dilemma on how to pursue this girl I hang out with. Her and I goes at the same college and she is a very nice faithful christian girl. She went from a christian high school as well. In your rule, It is important to escalate into sexual topics. In my opinion, this girl’s background that sex is not allowed until they find the “right one”. I really like the girl, but if this is case, maybe I should just let it go and move on?
Dear Boby
YOU do not answer my question, same question again
Should i tell my any girl friend ( i have many ) that i am in love/ flirting with other girs allso
Regards. thanks for useful tips
Personally what I would do is forget about her and simply talk and hang out with other girls.
The indicator that she is mad at you because you removed her from facebook is personally, not my kind of girl. So I would just be like her loss and move on.
bobby pls answer my question dt march23 at 8.44 am i am waiting pls let me know if u want to suggest me something else
hi bobby she is a good friend unmarried says no more casual friends would like to fall in loves she is 42 yrs old i have been friends with her from the last 6 yrs just friends but she depends on me for every job sometimes i feel used because i am in the friend zone but actualy i am in love with her now implementing ur formula of turning friens to lovers love u loads thanks a ton
I have a question for Mr. Rio.
There’s this girl that I’ve really liked for a while now and we’re in the same friend group in college. In December 2011, I made out with her (I’m the only guy that she’s kissed in college despite her being very attractive). I know with 100% certainty that for the two or so weeks before I kissed her, she liked me (because she told my friend this). However, after I kissed her, I guess she thought I seemed too eager and she wouldn’t kiss me again when I tried (I tried about 3 or so more times over the course of a month).
After this, I stupidly told her that I didn’t want to be her friend because I liked her too much and that it was too hard for me to be just friends with her. I know this ruined any mystery that I may have had with her and I realize it really screwed up my chances with her. She started crying when I told her this and then she cried for two days after that. I didn’t talk to her alone for two weeks or so, but I still saw her when we were hanging out with people in our friend group.
Since then, we’ve talked and I told her that I still want to be friends with her but that I can never view her as just a friend. However, since I started talking to her, she’s been more distant and does not seem as interested in me as before. She also never wants to get lunch with me anymore (which she always used to do).
I want to create the feelings that she had for me back in December when I kissed her. However, I’m afraid that if I just started ignoring her, not sitting with her in class and never texting her that she won’t care because I already told her that I didn’t want to be her friend before.
Do you think I should just hang out with her more and get comfortable with her again? Or do you think I should try to stop texting her and start ignoring her for a bit? We’ve only been on good terms for about 3 weeks and she has not gotten with another guy in college yet, however, she is definitely not comfortable around me like she used to be.
Also, she knows I see her in a sexual light and I am already touchy and flirty with her.
I know you may tell me to move on, however, could you please let me know what the best action would be for me to get her to like me again. I really like this girl and I really hope that you can help.
Hey jeff, i have a friend we were best friends for two years, then she went off to uni and she just started ignoring me, she’s religious and won’t get with anyone but i want her back as my best friend what can i do about it?
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I fucked my Best friend, following yur advice. Hes a boy though nd i feel it was maybe gay
Peter perhaps i can answer. Im not bobby.. i really just have sadly never had serious success with women. I had always been shunned socially up until recent years by assholes in highschool and i built up in my mind no girls at school would want to talk to me. Now im looking to build confidence and learn to flirt. Anyhow, to answer i think you overstepped, woman see facebook differently. Girls delete other girls means they are cut, and if its with a friend over nothing they feel akward and
violated of trust. Bobby honestly should have changes the title. This whole thing sounds like a gamble depending on the girl and circumstances. He makes it sound like you have 100% control. Which you do, and this idea was interesting it would be like me going and grabbing a store clerk telling him to take a sledge hammer and bash the hell out of a corvette than fix it. Bobby also did say you had to be willing and accepting to lose her. Best to mourn losses brother… Cheers
Hey Bobby.All of this is great.But i have a small problem.I am in a bit of fight with my friend.She doesn’t wanna talk to me because of stupid facebook.I deleted her from friends and now she totally wants to ignore me.I didn’t know facebook is such a big deal -.- So what should i do? Does this lesson work the same in my situation?It has been almost a month,she is still angry,or is pretending to be.Pls help buddy and keep up the good work.Tnx. 🙂
Jeff, there is a BIG difference with YOUR SITUATION: ” i was having sex with one of my friends for 12 years….” This advice is NOT meant for a guy who has already had sex with the girl. It’s meant for a guy clearly stuck in the friend zone. It’s also meant for a guy who’s willing to lose her as a friend.
Yeah, i was having sex with one of my friends for 12 years…and when i did this to her she never answered another text or call. It’s been 2 years and she actually just texted yesterday, “Hope you had a great thanksgiving” If you don’t want to ruin a good thing then don’t listen to this regurgitated B.S. It all comes from the same get your ex back crap, and doesn’t work. By all means start flirting and touching her more, but don’t disappear and act like a dick…she likes you already, or you wouldn’t be friends!
I used this technique for a friend, and she couldnt stop calling me for a hangout. Which shows she was deff thinking about me the whole time.
Its happening to me. But dont know what to do after a long time apart with diffrent girls.
Hey Bobby
What if the girl in question is a housemate?
I tried this. She never talked to me again. Yeah. =) oh well.
haha oh yea im using this