Day #25: How to Get Better in Bed
On day 10 I told you how it was NOT fear of rejection that kept my buddy Ed from approaching women.
… It was fear of success that kept him from talking to girls.
Like, what if she was interested? Then what?
A lot of guys are the same way when it comes to progressing towards sex…
There scared she will say YES.
There is a deep underlying fear that she’s gonna recognize your inadequacy.
…For me, it was that she was going to notice that I’m NOT very big down there 🙂
I’m all the smaller side of medium… and a lot of times there would be a little voice in my head saying “what’s she going to think?”
…And that little voice would prevent me from closing the deal.
But here is the thing.
I’ve had enough girls come back for seconds, thirds, and fourth to know that size is NOT as important as I used to think.
I also know that being experienced doesn’t always = being good.
Some people say the secret to getting better in bed is practice.
Practice will get your sexual confidence up.
But it won’t necessarily make you better in bed.
Other people say that improving your stamina, lasting longer, or adding more foreplay will do the trick.
All those things will definitely help…
But they still won’t necessarily make you better in bed
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Warm Her Up for Sex with “Dirty Talk”: Say THIS: Talk Dirty and Turn Her On
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I found there is only one secret to becoming a better lover.
The secret is to pay attention to what is working on a particular woman.
The woman you’re sleeping with will give you all the clues you need.
You just have be ready to read them, and willing to make the adjustments.
The key to this statement is that you have pay attention to each and every woman you’re with.
The reason this is so important is because every woman enjoys something different.
Sure, the basics don’t change.
But some girls like it hard and fast (yea, I’m talking to you Jackie)
Others like it slow and soft…
Some girls like massive foreplay…
Others like her clothes ripped off.
Some girls only cum on top…
Others can only get off doggie (I didn’t forget about you Beth 🙂
The best lover is attentive and knows how to read the clues she’s giving you.
Sometimes she’ll verbally tell you what she likes… but most of the time you’ll have to watch how her body reacts.
Recently I was frustrated with a girl I was dating cuz I couldn’t get her off orally.
I’ve never had that problem before.
The first few times with this girl it was driving me crazy.
I searched my repertoire for all the things that worked on previous girls…. and she wasn’t responding to any of it.
Finally about a month in, I noticed that every time my nose would press against her clit while going down….
….she would tense up tremendously and push her pelvis out to make the pressure of my nose greater.
The minute I realized what she was reacting to I went right along with it.
Needless to say she went from being indifferent to oral… to BEGGING me for it.
———————Golden Nugget————————-
A lot of girls tell me I’m the most amazing kisser they ever had. Here’s my secret. I adjust to HER style of kissing. Everyone kisses differently. Sure, you can try to change her style to match yours. But if you want that first kiss to be memorable; quickly note actions of her lips and tongue, and MIMIC them.
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This goes for all areas of foreplay and sex. If you notice a girl gets super wet and turned on when you whisper dirty commands in her ear. Keep doing it.
The fact is, most girls most girls want to tell you what is working and what isn’t.
….But they don’t want to hurt your feeling or make things awkward.
What you have to realize is that just because she ain’t going to open her mouth and say ” Bobby, I really like it when you stick a pinky in my ass, while groping my right tit, and spreading my legs over my head…”
Doesn’t mean she isn’t trying to tell you in every conceivable way…
The most common things to look out for is the intensity of the grunts and moans she’s making.
When she particular fancies something you can be sure she’ll let out a little extra moan in hopes that you catch on.
You should also watch out for her body language.
When she is enjoying something she’ll usually tense up, push herself toward you, or pull you closer.
She’ll do everything possible to prevent you from stopping or changing positions.
The key is to be extremely observant and act upon the given stimulus.
Make it happen!
Bobby Rio
P.S. Good sex is the key to keep a girl around. If you fuck a girl right she’ll put up with a LOT of shit.
P.P.S. A shortcut to appearing to be better in bed is to master the fine art of talking dirty.
Previous Lesson: Day 24
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the horse is in the pants and ready to ride. great stuff
Give her a great smash. Or she’s gonna dash. Good insight Bobby.
Long Post, but you’ll be glad you read it.
Here’s the Ancient Chinese Secret to get a girl to have an orgasm EVERY SINGLE TIME (and often have multiple orgasms). You don’t need a penis. In fact, penises just get in the way of pleasing a woman if you want to know the truth.
I’m a Straight guy, but moved in with a Lesbian buddy after my divorce. She was a Dental Hygienist and stumbled across this trick.
Before the Dentist puts the Novocain shot in, he will put something called “Benzocaine” on a Q-Tip and get you to hold it on the spot he’s about to inject. This numbs the tissue. Benzocaine is a Hydrogen or two from being Cocaine. It has the same numbing properties of Cocaine, but no euphoria, and it only last 20 minutes. And no, it won’t produce a false positive on a drug test. I have literally taken hundreds of drug test while using this product. And no, you can’t turn it into cocaine. Well you can, but it would cost 100x the nose candy to begin with and be just as illegal.
If you can get your hands on this stuff, and rub a small amount on her clitoris, it will become desensitized in about 60 seconds. This sounds like a bad thing, but oh my God! Once desensitized, you can do things for her that a clitoris would normally not allow due to being hyper-sensitive.
Next, start eating her out. After a minute, insert one finger while still eating her out. After another minute, insert two fingers while still eating her out. Next position your hand palm-up. Take your middle finger and place it “in and up, and almost back toward yourself” (on top of the G-Spot). Take your index finger and make a “V.” Place the index finger to the right and start randomly moving both fingers, but mostly the index finger to the side-wall.
Rub spots, poke around, be creative. Keep your middle finger in and around the “G-Spot.” Move your tong around randomly as well. Vary your speed, then vary your pressure, just keep mixing it up. DO NOT do same motions. Keep her constantly wondering what you’ll do with your tong and fingers next.
LOL. Be sure to pee, eat, drink water, and have a cigarette first. You’re going to be down there for a while! You might have some neck strain the next day.
She is going to have what appears to be a series of seizures. LOL. It’s O.K., you’re not going to kill her. When the orgasms have finally exhausted her, she will demand you finish her off with your cock. Though that’s just a reward for you at that point.
Warning: She’s going to want to have sex 2 or 3 times that night, then maybe again in the morning. LOL. Too much sex for me at 43 years old, but it’s worth the work for relationship reasons if nothing else.
You may be able to do this with a non-prescription product called Oragel (any Pharmacy), but it will have far less Benzocaine in it. I’ve got access to the real stuff, so I’ve never tried Oragel. You may be able to get a prescription from your Dentist if you just tell the truth about what you want it for. I will if my Lesbian buddy moves away, or gets fired.
You don’t want to know how many Girlfriends my Lesbian buddy has. I’m not sure she knows, LOL. Let’s just say more than Bobby & Rob. They would pile themselves on the bed back there and have 2, 3, 4, 5, & one 6-some. I had to listen to all that 6 nights a week (she takes Sundays off to rest and watch football). No, they wouldn’t let we watch. But they did let me listen through the wall, LOL. It sounded like a Mid-Evil torture chamber back there.
Try the Oragel thing and see if it works. If nothing else, you now know the “12-o-clock, 2-o-clock” finger trick. I’ve never had this not work. My Lesbian buddy has never had this not work.
Find you a Lesbian friend and pick her brain. There’s more tricks and techniques than just this. Bobby & Rob, you should consider putting a slutty Lesbian on the staff. About 5 to 10% of our “visitors” claimed to be 100% straight. Women know how to pick up other Women. And Women damned sure know how to sexually please Women.
I’m sorry this was so long, but I know first-hand (excuse the pun) that this works.
I hope this helps someone. My sexual confidence has gone up 1,000%. I know for an absolute fact my girl is going to have some orgasms every time.
…now if I could just attract more women…
Dan
This is incredibly true, and gentlemen reading this ought to take note. Even when I lost my V card, I was always naturally a very empathetic person, so I’ve always been in tune with what’s working for a woman in bed. In fact, I find it more sexually satisfying to bring a woman to orgasm than myself. Don’t get too caught up in the moment, and use all of your senses to pay attention to what women are responding to, and if my last relationship was any indication, that woman will put up with a lot of shit if you keep satisfying her. 😉 Though, to be fair, I sure put up with a lot of shit for the same reason… lol.
Dam.I should of read this earlier.I freaking messed it up with this girl(I think she was a virgin).Like a motnh later after getting with her,I was in bed with her,kissing her all over,i started pulling her panties a little down,I started dry humping her she got really hot and started moaning.Thats where I pulled back with the feeling like I was doing something wrong & my hesitation killed my chances with her.She notice it & got disapointed with me.The next time I saw her,it was the beggening of the end.She started acting different.So I tryed to show her more interest,the more I did that the more she pulled back.The end result would be her confessing that she cheated on me and I got dumped right there.
i am having a problem with my penes its too small what can i do to enlarg it
Awsome advice! Im sold
Hey, this totally sounds like the most obvious thing that we all just seem to over look most of the time, nice job Bobby.
P.S. Love how there is only 5 comments below todays lesson. 😀
hi bobby.recently my chick is really begging for a fuck more often than usually.its getting to hot here.
you are good.
So true , I also had to figure it out by groans and wriggles myself because some girls are just too “decent” to tell you what they want. And yes , she cums back for more.
Thanks Bobby
Hi Bobby,
I just wanted to give you special thanks for today’s lesson.
I’ll look into this system.
I did the first version of 2 girls teach sex program a few months ago. after following their exercises and changing my mindset, my level of confidence change dramatically, not only in the bed, but in every area of life. there’s nothing more rewarding that knowing you can keep a girl happy, and that she’s gonna come back 200 times later!
Have an awesome day man.
hey rio does watching a lot of porn and masterbating to it fucks up your game with women please reply back