Day #19: Text Game

Bobby,
I have been listening and watching your programs and must say you are spot on! I recently just got back with a lady that I dated 6-7 years ago. She started out by sending me a friend request on FB. From there we chatted a bit then went out a few times. This is BEFORE I got your program. Its been so much fun with her now than it was before when we were together. I’ve implemented some of your tactics and can say it is working! I get random texts from her and just recently re-connected with her family! She even was the first to “go in for the kiss”. Dude this is by far the BEST training I have been through. We are planning things to do together and with our families. I cannot thank you enough for your trainings and teachings.

Bobby,
You always bring me what I need to be reminded of, exactly when I need it.

I believe I bought “Magnetic Messaging”. I know I bought something from you. My hard drive died and it is uncertain if the data on it can be retrieved. How can I find and download the product I purchased. I may have ordered it under the email address of hizaleus@yahoo.com. Texting had never been a relevant topic for me until recently — nobody to send texts to and did not have a phone with which I could text. Now this information is important and I need to review it to maintain the interest of a long distance hottie, or find a replacement that lives closer.

Hey!

I purchased your texting ebook and I think it’s brilliant. It’s definitely improving my dating life. I managed to get a date with a cool chick and I made a bit of a mistake and I was wondering what you think I best should do.

I was out at a club in town and I happened to see a chick I know (we’ll call Tina). Very cute, though a lot younger than me. She’s 18 and I’m 30. Admittedly I’ve been attempting to hit on her sister (We’ll call Alice) (20 years old) a couple of times and there’s been a couple of strange kissing moments with Alice though it’s never gone anywhere plus Alice has a boyfriend now.

I’ve always had a good friendly relationship with both Tina and Alice with a good level of fun and rapport though I’ve never been out separately with Tina.

I say hello to this chick in the club and she’s happy to see me and very quickly tells me that she’s broken up with her boyfriend (who I know) and that she was the one that did the breaking up. I take that as an IOI though maybe that’s unjustified.

She later moves on although I see her again later in the night in another club again pleased to see me etc…

I decide to drop her a text over Facebook saying;

“Where you at I wanna hear more about scared snails”

This directly references something we were talking about so it’s not completely random haha.

Later the next morning I get a reply from her saying;

“Scared snails?”

I childishly banter back by saying;

“You’re a scared snail.”

I bit more banter ensues until we get to the bottom of what we’re talking about. I then say;

“My eyes feel sour, can you sort them out.”

Her reply is;

“If you bring me food I’ll consider it.”

Me;

“I can only do that if you’ll be in town in the next hour.”

Her;

“OMG effort
I’ll settle for a home made cheese toasty”

Me;

“You can stick your cheese toasty up your jacksy sunshine.”

Her;

Wow not jealous at all.

Me;

“I’m getting Brazilian food from an amazing place I found. Come with… Tell your cheese toasty to fuck off, it’s dated and overrated.”

Her;

“Woah don’t dis the cheese toasty.
I would but Brazilian food is poop.”

Me;

“Not this one… Plus I’m there so it’s 20 million times more awesome. Fuck your cheese bastard (toasty) off.
Meet me at XXX street in an hour.”

“That’s true it would be 20 million times more awesome.
Johnson (My surname) I can’t move
I’m ded”

Me;

“Calling me by my surname will not change things. I’ll see you in an hour and a half…
Chop, chop”

Her;

😥 😥 😥 😥
“Peer pressure”

Me;

“Never fight fate missy”

Her;

“Is this fate”

Me;

“Yaaaarp
So is eating Brazilian”

Her;

“Sorry not today
Next time deffo”

Me;

“I’ll shout you next time I’m going, until then enjoy your wank toasty… Btw what’s your mobile number?”

I get on with my day and 2 or 3 hours pass. I then get a FB message from her again;

“It was literally the worst toasty I’ve had, regret not coming and xxxxxx (mobile number)”

I take this as a big IOI. Due to my lack of neediness yet still inviting her out and leaving it on the table for her.

I reply with this;

“And the moral of the story is always come out with me. Especially when it’s a choice of awesome Brazilian food with me or a wanky cheese toasty…”

“Tbf I didn’t make it over, the bus took ages as I left my car in town and had to get back quick. I’m proper hankering for food from that place though… It’s amaaazzze!… Eating brazilian with me tomorrow then we’ll invent our own samba dance”

Her;

“Ok sounds like a fabulous plan I have a day off work so Brazilian it is.”

I feel this is some solid text game on my part where I handle the situation well.

Due to work we agree to meet for food on the following day and we continue to have a bit more banter over text.

We finally meet for food during the day time. The fact that she chose to come out with me as just me and her sounds very much like a date to me and shows that there is a large level of interest in me on her part. Why else would she agree to come and grab food with me?

As we chat and eat, the conversation is easy and fun. We play some games we talk. I drop a little SOI in that seems to be well received. We talk about her thieving things jokingly and I say, “I find the idea of you going round robbing whilst wearing a trilby quite sexy… Don’t get a big head about that though..”

She laughs and there’s nothing to suggest she feels awkward or anything.

We leave the food place and as we walk off she brings up coming out with me again, which I consider an IOI.

I have a level of Kino with her, I talk about her perfume and how good she smells to which she says thank you.

I move her hair back and look at her cool earrings. I even lightly tug on the back of her hair whilst I look at my phone and she doesn’t stop me or pull away or anything. I even smell her neck.

All seems pretty good but I do make a big blundering mistake!

I’m aiming to go for the kiss close with her as things have been going quite well but I do it at a bad time. It was difficult trying to find an appropriate moment. We walk about 50 metres from her work which is a diner type of place. The conversation has died down a little as I begin to add more pressure to myself in leaving the date with at least a kiss close. At risk of sounding a bit arrogant I’m normally pretty good with kiss closes and normally when I swing for the seats I get reciprocation. However there have also been quite a number of ‘what if’ moments in my life where certain chicks I’ve liked have seemed into me and for whatever reason I haven’t pulled the trigger.

That’s why in this situation I decide once again to swing for the seats despite my perhaps better judgment of realising things are on the come down.

I then say “Right I better let you get to work.”

Keep in mind this is in the middle of a busy very public street. I go to hug her and she then goes to kiss me on the cheek and I go to kiss her on the lips. She’s confused and a bit embarrassed and I kiss her on the lips again without her reciprocating (so I’m basically just kissing her face lol). She looks quite shy and very embarrassed and she says my surname, ‘Johnson’ with a “what the fuck are you doing??” sort of tone to it.

I reply with a mischievous, “What?”

I then realise this is going nowhere and continue to walk with her to her work whilst talking about getting to work myself (all in an obviously embarrassed tone on my part).

I felt as though I’d left on a bad note so within a couple of minutes of leaving her I try to do some damage control with a slightly apologetic but humous text saying;

“Sorry it’s your perfume it made me do bad things. I’m bad haha.”

Moments later I get this reply from her;

“It’s ok I’ll forgive you haha.”

This seems very positive. I think to myself that I’ve just timed the kiss wrong but there certainly seems to be a level of attraction going on. I’ve run some good text game and had a decent level of Kino (though could certainly have been smoother).

I give it a couple about half and hour as that was the time it took me to get back from town. I then send her this text and this is where I think I went really wrong (nooooooooooooooo!! Haha);

[u]HERE’S THE TEXT I PROBABLY SHOULDN’T HAVE SENT[/u];

“I don’t think you should forgive me tbh I’m really bad haha. Can’t promise I won’t try and do it again. I can only promise my timing will be far better hahaha. Had fun out with you today anyway. Enjoy work and don’t steal anything unless I’m with you 😉 ”

The “steal anything” is a direct reference to something we joked about earlier.

The reason I sent that text is because I wanted to get a gauge as to whether she was interested or not. I’m not used to messing up on kiss closes so all thoughts ran through my head like, “maybe she just sees you as a friend etc…” I thought that if I send her that text and she replies then I can consider that a massive IOI and a sign that she’s very into me but the time in which I chose to kiss her was all wrong. Maybe if I tried to kiss her in a less public place she’d be up for it.

Anyway, needless to say I got no reply from that text and I started to regret sending it as things actually seemed to have been left on quite a good note despite my initial ‘faux pas’. I resisted the urge to text her again the same night as I thought it’d come off too needy. I didn’t send her a message the following day either. I just got on with my life.

Today I sent her a ‘radar text’ to gauge how things are. Again I’ve probably mistakenly put all my cards on the table in saying I may well try to kiss her again so any reply from her may well mean a big time IOI. I sent her this joky text about an irrelevant subject based on my pervious night;

“Had a bizarre evening… I saw a man in drag who I swear looked as if he was sneaking puddings…”

Again no reply. Admittedly my text didn’t warrant a reply but if she read it and found it funny, that is a good thing, with or without a reply. I’m certainly not sending another text to her over he next couple of days as I think it’d be too needy.

What do you think guys? What should I do?

Do I assume she wasn’t interested in me at all and just saw me as a potential friend? In which case I’ve misjudged everything terribly and possibly need to do some serious damage control by texting her and genuinely apologising for “threatening to try and kiss her again” haha. I wouldn’t normally do this but as I’m friends with her sister and these are people in my social circle rather than simply being some chick I met out one night, this might be a valid option because I want to avoid burning ‘friendship bridges’ if poss.

Or do think this is still salvageable? Is she just playing hard to get? In which case what do I do? My plan has been to give it a couple of days and then send her another ‘radar style’ text to seem if I get a response or ask her a direct question to see if I get a reply.

Thanks for reading and it’d be great to get your thoughts 🙂

Regards

Isn’t it all relative though. I mean sometimes this sort of thing is great, other times, it’s different.

I mean I’ve texted long, outright filthy messages, lingering on the feeling of my caress as it spreads across her chest and slowly.. slowly up her back.. a wave of pleasure courses across her body …. she closes her eyes and loses herself in the sensation. Trying to snap out of it.. but it’s so divine..

And well., you get the picture. Obviously this isn’t the sort of text you send to someone you just met .. I’d guess not before you’ve actually slept with her (though maybe something softer if you’ve just kissed?) .. cos after all, Women *love* ths shit. Fifty Shades of Grey anyone?

Seriously, don’t freak her out on day one, like “I’m gonna smash yer back doors in” .. but she’s less ikely to be freaked out if you do this well than you think. Oh, and spell correctly if you do this. Like a man, not a boy.

I’ve never had a bad reaction to doing this. S’all I’m saying.

What is the dirtiest dream subject and how do you use it effectively?

Hey Bobby,
Love the course but I’m just wondering does this apply to facebook or twitter messages?
Thanks

Hey Bobby,

I just read bout someone saying they used the dirtiest dream technique, pls mail me an access to this, as i dont yet have it on any of your programs i bought.
Thankx

hey man this is perfect timing, here is the thing i met this chick sexy smart, funny just plain out perfect. then she got a bf so i backed of ….well not completely at first i played the “nice guy card” and it got her close to me, we talked and we told each other how we felt..week later she tells me she wants to break up with the guy, a moth later she does by this time I started reading your stuff and completely changed my game, I go to her place here and there and we usually spend the whole day together, but i play it of like i dont give a dam, she recently told me shes been having problems at home and she feels all down, sad and wants some one to confort her….what do i do?

somewhere there I actually fucked a good chick))
good thing – now I can’t manage to absorb all this staff propertly, I just trying to apply few recomendations out of there, used only maybe 5-10% of info here

fucking works great! thanks guys

oh also she text me last night asking me if im seeing anyone so i said “nope, single as a pringle, you? :)”, and she never replied :s

thanks you bobby

Alfonso – don’t fall into her frame and answer her question directly. Keep it fun and a bit un related. Texting her back something like: “Exactly :)” Or “There you go again ” or “it’s ok – I have that effect on women :)” etc…. Just remember you own the frame – your in control!! Good luck

Hey Bobby!
I recently used your “Stop thinking about me” technique for text messages, and she responded right away, but the problem is that she texted me back “what are you talking about?”. What should I answer??
Thanks Bobby

informative straight game, i realize a few mistakes i made, thanks