Day #26: Social Circle Game

I have a confession to make.

I HATE cold approaching.

I always have.

Its not that I suffer from approach anxiety anymore.

It’s just a pain in the ass.

It’s a lot of work.

But worse….

Because of the “law of familiarity”…

Chances are that before you ever get her out on a date… some other guy will have already stolen your spot.

And THAT GUY didn’t meet her doing a cold approach.

He is probably in her social circle.

He probably sees her more often.

He probably knows her friends.’

So he always wins out over the random guy she met in a bar one night every time.

Fact of life.

Deal with it.

Don’t believe me?  Ask around….

I bet you don’t find one girl who says she met her boyfriend after he cold approached her at a [insert] bar, bookstore, coffee shop, mall, Whole Foods

It hardly ever happens.

So I’m going to let you off the hook.

I here by give you permission to stop beating yourself up for not cold approaching.

Do you remember what i said all the way back on Day 2?

I said if you want to get good at this you have to make it EASY on yourself.

So how do you make it easy?

Social Circle Game.

Girls are drawn to guys in their social circle.

These guys include:

[+] Friends of friends
[+] Guys they go to school with
[+] Guys they work with
[+] Guys they see at the same events they frequent

And the best part of about meeting girls through any of the ways above?

No cold approaching required.

———————-Example—————————-
Melissa is out at a bar for her friends’ Jen’s birthday. Melissa is currently single.  And she’s looking to meet a guy.

Birthday girl  (Jen) has a boyfriend, Joe.  Joe has two friends with him at the bar.  Neither of Joe’s friends have ever met Melissa.

Yet, because of their friendship with Jen’s boyfriend, Melissa is a WARM APPROACH.

It is perfectly natural for either one of them to start to  talking to her, without her having any of her defenses  to up.

And the chances of either one of them hooking up with Melissa is good.

It’s probably about 30x times greater than any other random guy at the bar who decides to approach her.
———————/Example—————————

Girls WANT to meet a guy from their social circle.

Its EASIER for them too.

They have a frame of reference on you.

There is a much less likely chance you’ll turn out to be a creep, stalker, or rapist.

Plus there are the other benefits.

Like you already share mutual friends.

Conversation flows easier because you can gossip about the same people.

(Gossip is an amazing tool to draw two people together and make a conversation “FUN”)

————————–Extra Video———————–

I asked a friend of mine Adam Lyons to contribute a short video about Social Circle Game.  This video is specifically about how to build a social circle from scratch.

What’s the best part of building up your social circle…

It’s the gift that keeps on giving.

….Back when I used to wait tables there was this girl Anna I worked with.

There was tremendous sexual tension between us.

But for some reason we never hooked up.

3 years after I quit the job.  It had been three years  since I last saw her.

One random night I run into her in a bar.

Within minutes we have our hands all over each other.

Two hours later she is naked on my bed….

No COLD APPROACH required.

————————–Task——————————-
On day 2 I told you to make a list of different places you can go to meet women.  This list will also serve as places you can begin to build your social circle up.

Remember, on Day 20 I told you how I used Hooter’s Monday Night Trivia night as a way to get the Hooter’s girls into my social circle.

Create a plan of action how you can do the same thing.
————————-/Task——————————-

From here on out, begin thinking in terms of how you can build up a social circle.

Cuz the effort you put into doing that will reward you much greater than effort you put into cold approaching.

Make it happen,

Bobby Rio

P.S. I can’t stress the importance of having LOTS of females in your life…

Not only will it make your pool of girls to date bigger,  but it also helps you in a variety of other ways.

One of the things I love to do with my STL members
is help them create a life that is filled with women. I walk you through 24 weeks. Each week working to expand your social circle.   So that by the end of the program, you are not only dating  more girls…

…But you have more friends, and an overall better
lifestyle.

For me, lifestyle is what it’s all about.  Personally I don’t  want to be crawling through bars and clubs
every night…

I like having a life where any given night I can
call a handful of girls and organize  a night
on the town, or head down to my boat and go
for a little cruise along the bay… I think creating the lifestyle where you have an
abundance of girls already in your life is how
to allow yourself to focus on other aspects of
your life…

In The Social Training Lab I want to help you
build this lifestyle.

==> yes, I want to build a lifestyle of abundant women

When you create this sort of lifestyle it gets easy
to meet girls.  You don’t have to troll through bars. You don’t have to go on a ton of online dating
sites… I like doing things the easy way. 

I always have.

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

haykay September 18, 2012 at 10:46 am

Boby, you have been a very good mentor. I have been reading the emails you have been sending to me for couple of months now. I’ve been able to attract women and have girls dating me either, but I am still not that good at making small talk sexy and how to give my girlfriends the kind of sexy they want, I think am not really good in laying them down for sex

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Zulfiqar August 18, 2012 at 3:27 pm

Dear Boby
I have read all your mails fron day 1. very useful tips. I have tried many and i was successful. please clarify if i have more than 1 girl friend. Should i tell my girl friend about other girl friend?
What is psyce of women does she like or she feels Jeoulous of other girl/woman
Please do answer. Thanks

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Roosta*Indie*Beaver April 22, 2012 at 6:32 pm

It always depends on the position your in. MRK could be selling himself as a lover and not a player which is a huge difference. By default, game usually wins but sometimes it’s not necessary if the girl categorizes you as just a sexual partner. There are both pros and to each category and sometimes it intertwines with social circle game. This is where the inspiration for soap showers/operas come from. @ daniel, re-read your comment a couple of times it could be misconstrued as vague

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Chris January 31, 2012 at 4:25 pm

I agree with Daniel..if a girl won’t introduce you to her friends she’s actually probably embarrassed of you.

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Daniel December 26, 2011 at 1:31 am

@mrktgns
If you haven’t met her friends then you are definitely NOT her boyfriend.

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MRKTGNS October 10, 2011 at 8:18 pm

Never had luck with the social circle thing! Yes, I was cold approached by a woman in a bar and dated her for 18 months! I’m always approached by woman in bars, nightclubs.
Truth be told, she never let me anywhere near her friends. Every woman I know, has never introduced me to her friends. Think about it, if you are a catch, rich, extremely good-looking, got it going on, and too good for most woman, why would she introduce you to her friends, hell, she would rather keep you for herself than let her friends have you!
Guys, if a girl you like ain’t interested, she will push you off on her friends, because she knows she can do better, but she knows you’re a good enough guy for her uglier friend. That’s the truth!

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TrailMix October 2, 2011 at 1:09 pm

I just moved to a new city in March and didn’t know a single person. Best way to get in a social circle is do an online search on Meetups in your area. There is a group for everything under the sun and suddenly you will have more events to attend then you have time.

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Raju July 10, 2011 at 7:33 pm

Hey

whens the friendzone lesson coming out? Just 5 days to go so was curious

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Bobby Rio July 10, 2011 at 8:35 pm

tomorrow :) Lesson 27 & 28 are about the friend zone

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Phil July 7, 2011 at 9:28 pm

i met 4 of my many girlfriend cold approaching at the mall

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djim omari July 1, 2011 at 3:42 pm

ha ha

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