Phone Game Strategy (day 17)

This is the 17th day of our 31 Days to Better Game series.? The last couple days we’ve dealt with some online dating strategies… Now we’re going to go into some strategies for dealing with the phone numbers that you should be aquiring.

This next lesson on phone game comes from Hot Alpha Female.? HAF runs a blog about pick-up, game, and relationships from a girl’s point of view.

day 17

Phone Game Stategy by Hot Alpha Female

So let me paint the picture. You see a hot chick at a club, shopping centre or I dunno the tennis club. You build up the guts to talk to her, make her laugh and somehow manage to get her number. You think to yourself “SWEET!! I’m in”.

You end up calling her a couple of days later, like the rule book suggests .. to ask her out on a date. She doesnt pick up. You think hey she is busy and you try again later that same day. You still don’t get a response. So you call again and finally you get an answer. You talk to her expecting that things are going to pick up where you left off and are utterly stunned when starts making excuses as to why she cant meet up with you. She says that she will get back to you and she never does. You are left scratching your head, thinking to yourself “where did it go wrong?”.

So here is the thing.

Some of you may be baffled by this whole situation.

To some of you it doesnt make sense.

Well I’m going to lay out for you what is REALLY happening and what you really SHOULD be doing.

Sound good?

Lets get started.

Rule # 1 – Don’t Contact Her For At Least 48 Hours
I know it sounds hard doesn’t it? But you have to stick by these rules. Because when you wait for the 48 hours you appear needy and in need of a life.

Here is the thing. I have been on dates with guys and literally like 2 minutes after the date they are msging me and telling me what a great time they had on the date and how they would like to see me again.

Then I have also had guys who send me a msg straight after a date and then send me another one 30 minutes later wondering why I havent sent them a reply yet.

The only thing that runs through my mind is .. stalker, get a life, and ewwww.

Its like an instant turn off. N there is no logical way to explain it. So do it not only as a favour for me but for all the other poor girls out there.

Just make sure that when you follow this rule that you don’t wait too long after 48 hours. Anything more than 4 days and the girl (if she is interested in you) starts to get pissed because you didn’t call her within that “calling period” and she assumes that you are not interested.

You can mess with a girl and pretend that you are not interested, but this is not one of those instances.

Rule # 2 – Send Her A Text Msg First
You know scoring a date is kind of like making a sale. Except the item that you are selling is yourself.

So in other words you are going to have to look like something that she would want to date/buy =)

Now that doesnt mean being something that you are not. But it does mean that for the moment you operate within a certain guidelines until you have internalized all this game stuffso bear with me ok?

So as part of this, stick to the rule of msging her first before you call her. Every girl is comfortable with msgs. In fact we like them more to begin with.

See its great for us and is great for you too. It means that you can actually think about what you want to write, you don’t have to think on the spot.

Now the main agenda with text msgs is to warm her up. Let her know that you are on her radar and that you will be in contact with her soon.

If a guy msgs us within 2 days of us handing out our number then that is sufficient enough for us to know that you are interested without appearing really needy and wussy.

Now as a general rule with msging keep it short and sweet. Banter a lot, but don’t get into these msging conversations. At the absolute maximum make sure that you only send 2-3 msgs in one conversation. Always be the one to end the msging conversation.

Meaning to say that when the conversation is nearing to an end then you are the one that has to stop sending her msgs.

Some of my friends have trouble with this, because they feel in control by being the ones to have the last say. But you have to look at it from the point of view that YOU are the one in control because you have the strength to stop the msging first =)

Rule # 3 – Msg Her And Then Call Her
Ok so I have to admit that this is not something that I came up with. But one of the things that I heard one of the guys do on David D’s cds. None the less I have to share it with you and take the credit for it. This dude can’t remember his name, had an awesome strategy.

He would msg this girl and then when she replied back then he would call her within a minute or so.

He found that significantly increased his chance of getting to speak to her, because she would have to be close to her phone in order to send the msg right?!

Brilliant idea and I suggest that all you guys use it.