Neil Strauss’s Top 10 PickUp Methods

10 Pickup Tips from Neil Strauss

Number 10: Smile when you walk into a room

See the group with the target and follow the three-second rule. Do not hesitate — approach instantly.

Number 9: The opener should open the group, not just the target.

When talking, ignore the target for the most part. If there are men in the group, focus your attention on the men.

Number 8: Neg the target

Neg the target with one of the slew of negs weve come up with. Tell her, Its so cute. Your nose wiggles when you laugh. Then get her friends to notice and laugh about it.

Number 7: Convey personality to the entire group

Do this by using stories, magic, anecdotes, and humor. Pay particular attention to the men and less attractive women. During this time, the target will notice that you are the center of attention. You may perform various memorized pieces like the photo routine, but only for the obstacles.

The photo routine involves carrying an envelope of photos in a jacket pocket, as if they’ve just been developed. Each photo, however, is pre-selected to convey a different aspect of the PUA (Pickup Artist)s personality, such as images of the PUA with beautiful women, with children, with pets, with celebrities, goofing off with friends, and doing something active like roller-blading or skydiving. The PUA should also have a short, witty story to accompany each photo.

Number 6: Ask the group, So, how does everyone know each other?

If the target is with one of the guys, find out how long theyve been together. If its a serious relationship, eject politely by saying, Pleasure meeting you.

Number 5: Ask permission to take her away from the group

If she is not spoken for, say to the group, Ive sort of been alienating your friend. Is it alright if I speak to her for a couple of minutes?They always say, Uh, sure. If its okay with her. If youve executed the preceding steps correctly, she will agree.

Number 4: Hold her hand

Isolate her from the group by telling her you want to show her something cool. Take her to sit with you nearby. As you lead her through the crowd, do a kino test by holding her hand. If she squeezes back, its on. Start looking for other IOIs.

Number 3: Ask her about her qualities

Tell her, Beauty is common but whats rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me want to know you as more than a mere face in the crowd? If she begins to list qualities, this is a positive IOI.

Number 2: Stop talking

Does she reinitiate the chat with a question that begins with the word So? If she does, youve now seen three IOIs and can make your move

Number 1: Kiss close

Say, out of the blue, Would you like to kiss me? If the setting or circumstances arent conducive to physical intimacy, then give yourself a time constraint by saying,I have to go, but we should continue this. Then get her number and leave.

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